Sweet Things To Say To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back!

Therefore you’re searching for sweet items to say to get the ex girlfriend back again , when I reveal several, I would like to be clear about a couple of things before we progress. If you’ve simply undergone a recent breakup and DO NOT know the process of getting an ex back again, you’re struggling!

That’s right, regardless of what sweet items to say to get the ex girlfriend back again you’re using, it wont do you a little bit of good unless you know the technique and process on how to get the ex girlfriend back again. Here’s a few questions you have to think about:

1 . How recent was the breakup?

two . Did a person implement the no get in touch with rule or limited get in touch with?

three. Do you even know what no contact is actually or limited get in touch with? If not, you’re not really off to a good start here. You are trying to cut edges and have NO CLUE even the reason why these two tactics are important in getting a good ex back again.

4. Have you any idea even which to utilize? If you don’t, follow the link to understand about the particular no contact guideline and the rules of no get in touch with, along with when to utilize limited contact with an ex-girlfriend.

five. Do you even know the reason why these sweet items to say to get the ex girlfriend back again even works? What’s the process of emotional triggers you’re attempting to achieve with these?

It’s unbelievable how many out there think they could get an former mate back without knowing the process of even how to or, even worse, think these people don’t need a technique. Let me inquire you this particular:

In case a professional sports group were heavy underdogs rising against the #1 team in the championship game, do you these people think they’d try to beat the very best team with no strategy? NO, they WILL NOT!

Not if they cared regarding winning they will not. Make no error that you are great underdog here attempting to win your boyfriend or girlfriend girlfriend back again. Your ex UNDERSTANDS you and has all the advantages, while you’re at a downside because it’s you that has to SEDUCE the girl back again.

Therefore let me ask a person this query?

DO YOU REALLY LOVE HER? Is she truly worth your money back? If you answered yes after that why would you try to get her back again without a strategy within doing this?

As promised I’m going to give you a few examples of sweet items to say to get the ex girlfriend back again. They’re called throughout the bow text messages. Simply follow the link to find out these throughout the bow text messages.

Yet , getting an former mate back isn’t only one “magical” sweet thing to say for your ex-girlfriend. It is not one magical tactic which will get her back again. It’s a process of various items to say along with how to behave to obtain yourself back to your ex’s thoughts in a positive method that ultimately seduces the girl back into your arms.

Not KNOWING the right way to do this or perhaps why you’re doing it is the same as throwing random things at the wall and hoping they’ll stick. And all it will take is a couple of wrong messages and you have pushed her away for good!

Anyways, if you choose to wing after that it don’t be amazed if you fall short. You can follow the link to get a sweet thing to say for your ex girlfriend to help you get the girl back again.

358 comments

  1. mrankinmatt says:

    what can i get my ex girlfriend for christmas. we have only recently split up, we have a 7 month year old daughter together. i want to get back with her but shes so down and says she doesnt no if she wants to try again. any ideas what i can get her?

  2. Franklin Bluth says:

    My husband and I had a big argument and an old ex girlfriend of his would not stop bugging him until he told her what was wrong… Now she has damn near ruined everything how do you get rid of the ex?

  3. The Inc says:

    Heres the long story short. My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. I cheated….have been in counseling, started going back to Church. She, I and our friends all see a difference. Heres the problem;

    She started dating this guy ASAP. She tells me she really likes him, want to see where things go, hes great, etc etc. I say “No Contact” she finds reasons to contact me. Says shes not ready to hang out, but misses me. Feels like she lost her best friend, We hang out last week. it goes from uncomfortable to us kissing several times. tells me she still loves me and if it wasnt for the “new guy” she’d probably be working things out w me. Than says she feels like we burned alot of bridges and it would be hard too get back there. (Friends, family, etc)

    So that night (we kissed remember) she text me a bunch of sweet thigns. (EX. BIG KISSES…Muuuuuuuuaaaaaaaahhhhhh!….It was great seeing you…Im blowing up your phone ..lol……..as long as Dom (the new guy) and i are together , I dont want him to know im seeing you…)

    We make plans t hang for the next day. We meet up, she is clearly not 100% comfortable, we hang out, start talking..again make out. She says that she is in my life for a “reason” and it so hard. She, again, really likes this new guy and he is “great”…than she tells me “things arent great with him and her”.

    She doesnt fully warm to me. I endeavor to listen and tell her i understand thats what she needs now and i joke that if they dont work out I get first refusal of a date. She agrees.

    Heres the fun part…

    The next day, she finds out that her “great guy” was flirting with a girl he never met on Facebook. He even gave her his #. Shes pissed. Dumps him.

    At my house we hang for a few mintues, we make plans for her to come over tonight at 6 pm , make dinner, watch a movie.

    She calls me later that night and tells me she’s not ready for that and that she needs to take some space for herself. She says she didnt deal with her emotions.

    I get fustrated. She likes the new guy a ton, but makes out with me…says shes not ready to get back together , but wants me in her life. Wants to hang out, but cannot. Still loves me. Wants whats best for me. I tell her fine. please dont contact me…she says “ok” than text me a few hours later…(nothing too important mind you, but a text never-the-less)

    She doesnt want it to be all-or-nothing. Im confused. I know she is conflicted. She misses the connection we shared. She says she doesnt/didnt have it with him, nor has she ever with anyone else. I feel it too. We kiss when shes “exclusively dating someone” else, yet she cannot bring herself to give this another try..not now at least.

    I think she is trying to have her cake and eat it too.

    Is she trying to let go? Still in love? Mad because she see’s changes but doesnt know how to make us work again? Was this guy a rebound that prevented her from dealing with her true emotions?

    Ive met someone else who is great and the last thing I want to do is hurt her, but I cannot give myself to her fully because of obvious reasons.

    Thanks everyone,
    God Bless

  4. mmminja says:

    My boyfriend and I been getting in fights lately mostly about his ex girlfriend. We have been together for six months but he said he saw her five months ago, So we were talking yesterday and he called his ex his girlfriend. I was hurt but before i yelled at him i talk to me friends about it. They told me to kick him to the curb but i cant.

    What do u think i should I should do?

  5. Jeff says:

    My ex husband is dating my new husband’s ex girlfriend. That isn’t as much the problem as the fact that my new husband cheated on me with her. Just to put the icing on the cake, this woman will not stop talking about me (and my business) to the people we both know.
    My ex and I have kids together and she even puts them in the middle when they are visiting with him for the weekend.
    What is the best way to handle this besides “ignore it”? Because ignoring and/or fighting back does not work!
    PS – My husband cheated on me with this woman while we were dating, not after we were married. (I know that doesn’t make it okay, just wanted as many of the facts on the table as possible.)

  6. Cupcakerum says:

    My boyfriend of 2 months is still paying his ex-girlfriend’s bills (she lives rent free in a house he owns, lets her use one of his cars, pays for the car insurance, and pays all her utilitity bills), even though they broke up 5 months ago. She doesn’t have a job and is on disability and has a kid in high school.

    They haven’t talked or seen each other since the break up. The child is not his But shouldn’t he stop supporting her financiall now that they’ve broken up?

  7. norrin_shadowwolf says:

    My ex girlfriend and I have the same class together how can I stop thinking about her I miss her so much but I can’t do nothing about it. She tear my heart apart and i still can’t stop thinking about her is been a month since we broke up. What should I do I need advices please help.

  8. mal_functiongeo says:

    Hello i need some advice on how to handle my ex girlfriend(that i still have feelings for) talking to someone else in a mature manner….

  9. lcollier93sbcglobalnet says:

    What do you have to take to get back with an ex girlfriend?
    Say that you’ve been with other girls since, but none of them were that great, and you and your ex are back in contact? She’s single, you’re single. You’re relationship before was alright.

  10. Noe R says:

    My ex girlfriend says she is pregnant with my child and we had sex on new years we didnt even date but anyways i have a new girlfriend who i have always wanted to be with and finally got the chance but now i fear i am going to lose her once i tell her. What should i do?

  11. diggn4richez says:

    My ex-girlfriend and I dated 10 years ago and have recently been seeing each other again for the past 3 months.We click in every way except she has stated that she feels “Weird” when we sleep together,never has this been a issue in the past any ideas?

  12. Jason says:

    My ex-girlfriend and I have a mutually agreed custody order where I get our daughter from one pm to the next morning Mon- Fri and every other weekend. Now she wants to move to Tennessee. I am, of course, object to this. What can I do to stop this?

  13. Jamal says:

    Ok so i need a song that i can get my ex girlfriend back, i need a song that will say that i need a second chance or something like that. Thanks.

  14. Scott W says:

    I have an issue with an ex-girlfriend. We broke up about 6 months ago after a short-lived but intense relationship. After some fighting and a rumor saying that I called her ‘easy’ was spread (and she refuses to believe it was a mere rumor), we didn’t talk for a couple months. Now we rarely talk at all, and when we do she is very rude and condescending. She has also been telling mutual friends and co-workers of mine that she hates my guts. Normally I would just ignore her and move on but we both work at the same place (in different departments). Why is she doing this? Is she just bitter or is there something more to this. And also, how do I go about handling this?
    -I would rather not quit my job as it is very well paying
    -She has already heard my side of the story
    -I have been ignoring it for the past four(4) months
    Thanks for the answers so far.
    Oh, and I apologized more than once already.

  15. therundown2k3 says:

    What would you do or tell your girlfriend if she insists in talking about her sexual life with her ex boyfriends eventhough you have never asked her about it? Is it disrespectful?

    What would you tell your girlfriend if she insists in asking you about your sexual relationships with your ex girlfriends?

    What would you do if your girlfriend wants to talk about her sexual life?
    Would you listen to her?
    Would you consider someone who doesnt want to talk about these things an inmature and closed minded?

  16. evangldbrg says:

    My boyfriend dated his ex for 6 months off and on and they ended a year ago, but tried it one last time about 4-5 months ago(March/April) and realized it wasn’t working. I met and started seeing my boyfriend around the end of June and we’ve been together since.

    His ex was his first. She treated him like crap. They always argued.
    Basically, he was her puppet. She cheated on him very badly.
    Right after they broke up she had sex with another guy and got pregnant, but had an abortion and she told my boyfriend about it(it was before he met me).

    He admitted to me a week or so ago that he didn’t actually get over his ex until he met me and saw how much better he could do than her and that he is so much happier with me.

    Well, when we first began dating his ex had her friend send me a friend request on facebook and he took care of it. he called her and told her to leave him and his gf alone and she tried to make him feel bad by saying he never went to see her which is only a 30 minute drive yet he’s came multiple times to see me which is a 3 hour drive.

    come to find out a few days ago when i was talking to him on the phone he told me that days earlier she had texted him apologizing about what happened with the facebook thing and he accepted the apology so that he wasn’t rude. And she told him that she wants to be friends and she’s happy for him that he found someone and he said that he would be friends with her. Then, she asked him if I was going to be mad that he was texting her and he said “no because she actually trusts me” which is a throwback to her not trusting him in the past
    Why would you try to get back at an ex if you are happy with your gf?!

    Well, I just went to his FB to leave him a sweet post on his wall and his ex and him are now friends on facebook (they deleted each other when that went on about her friend requesting me)

    He isn’t the type to start stuff so more than likely he won’t even tell me it happened..
    should I be concerned about him not telling me?
    am i over-reacting?
    or is this something i should confront him about and if i do confront him..what do i even say?

  17. Joey 01 says:

    Here is the thing. My ex girlfriend and I have a daughter together and she is pregnant with another baby. There is a possibility of it not being mine because she cheated on me. I am in California and she is in Florida. She says she wants to use our daughter’s dna to see if I am the father of her baby. Can that work and prove it is my baby?

  18. Dr Dorian says:

    All three know what our past was…!! But still I can’t behave normally with her…I hesitate to talk with her..n i don’t want to break my relationship with my best friend…so how can you manage relations, when your ex girlfriend is your best friends current girlfriend?

  19. davemc74656 says:

    My daughter was served paipers from her ex’s girlfriend stating that I am going to get my rights to seeing my grandchildren taken away unless I quit talking bad about them to the children. I can’t be with them unless my daughter is present. Can he or she (the girlfriend) do that? The ex’s girlfriend is taking over because the Dad is not man enough to stop her, because she has money and that is why he is staying with her. He is letting her control everything and I mean EVERYTHING!

  20. Cupcakerum says:

    Me and my ex-girlfriend talked about this and figured we would try to just be friends from now on. It has been a year, but lately I find myself still having feelings for her. And the feelings are strong. She is doing her best though to maintain a platonic relationship. How do I deal with this, and with my feelings? Should I just try to find another girl? And if I do find another girl, would I feel differently at that point even though I still have the ex as a friend?

  21. Kristian says:

    Okay I am 19 going on 20 in Aug, My boyfriend is 26 going on 27. We have been dating for a little under two years. He came into my life after a very life changing experience. He brought happiness to my life when i felt like there was no hope. We started a relationship very fast. It was like one day i like Friday I was with my ex then Saturday I was in a relationship with my current boyfriend. It all felt so right even though i knew i needed to have time to myself before getting into a relationship with him. I just wanted his friendship in the beginning but we fell for each other. He was always giving me large amounts of money and got very comfortable. We don’t and never did have issues like most couples around here do. He moved away when he was younger so all his ex girlfriends are somewhere in Ohio and we are in Florida. So no ex issues. After the first several months of our relationship i noticed he had attitude problems and i later found out that he has controling issues. Thats the problem i have with him…He is so sweet and loving. Somtimes i cry because i love hm soo much and cant imagine life without him. But when he has a attitude it a very nasty. My feelings be hurt for life 2 days straight thinking about the stuff he may have said to me. I dont like when we are fine and things going great I make it seem like im the most perfect girlfriend and shower me with great compliments. Then when he gets and he make me feel like shit. He tells me im selfish,i get on his nerves,he dont want to talk to me,he will hang up on me and take the phone off the hook so i cant call back,he tells me how he is done and tired of trying,and how i want everything to go my way,he just yells and curse me. I will just be crying and asking him to stop talking to me like that and he will say I can talk how the f*$@ i want too. It was a point in our relationship from Sept 09-Feb 10 where the agruements was so harsh and almost everyday. I had started saying things back to him. I took it to the extream and said anything and everything i knew that would hurt him. I know 2 wrongs dont make a right but i went so long without fighting back. Our agruements turnt into me hitting him to make him pain like me. We have broke up before. We was broken up for a month but was still seeing each other.

    Since we got back together we had forgaved each other and let everything be in the past. In the last 3 mths we might have had 3 minor agruements. No cursing each other, No name calling. Just a few minute disagreement and back to watching tv and biting each other. Lately I will find myself wanting to cheat or leaving him even while we was happy.Yesterday and Last night we had a agruement about me not supporting him. No i dont support when he do wrong thats because i care about his safety. With this arguement he made me cry again. He kept going on and on. It brought back flashblacks of how he useto make me feel. I dont want to be upset and hurt like i useto be. I feel like ending the relationship before things get back like they useto. I dont know if its because im still a little pissed from yesterday but i just feel so sour about the whole thing. He got madder because he said he dont want to fight and agrue with me. And hate how we be doing sooo good and argue over small things. I admit i do get mad and blow up on s,all thingsnlike how he sound when he answers the phone or if he tskes a deep breath while im making a point. He constantly tell me he is growner than me and that i shouldnt try to tell him what to do,but for example I might say “I would like to go out without you tonight if you dont mind,but if you wan to just go with your friends thats find too.ill just stay at home and read a book. He said”You CANT go over your cousin house because she is a hoe and stay in the projects and want you to be like her”. So who try to tell who what to do. Yes my cousin dont make the best choices when it come to men. And she does let alot of people hang out to her house but i stilllove her and she is my best friend. He still she shound come to my house. Since guys have made passes on me at her apartment in the past. I feel like i am still dwelling on how bad things were in the past and scared that they will get back like that. I feel bad at times thinking i act like a spoil brat. Christmas he bought me a 2 carat ring. He got it as a promise ring. promising me that things would get better. Eventhouth they did i still feel like that wasnt enough. Sometimes i feel he doesnt love me like he say. I just got a job since im a full time student i dont work and even though i just got a part time job he has a problem with it. He admitted that he dont want me working which is unfair. I be bored. What should i do. I love the time we spend together. I love how he show me so much affection and how he notice small things about me. He is very caring. It is just a hassle when he have a attitude. since we have been together i never felt like he was c
    I am thinking about canceling all of our future trips…should i? email me at beautyitself09@yahooo.com for additional info. I need help

  22. Jeracoo L says:

    my new girlfriend doesnt want my ex girlfriend texting me. how can i tell her to stop without being so mean?

  23. Austin says:

    Can some people help me? I don know if my ex-girlfriend is still intrested in me but I can’t tell, maybe she is or maybe she isn’t. Can some people tell me what the signs are? Know what I mean?I still love this girl but I don’t want to embarrass myself and ask her out and her say no. I need help.

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  25. Brody S says:

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  26. Austin says:

    In the end of my relationship my ex girlfriend humiliated me, ignored me and disrespected me.

    But unfortunately I could not forget her. There’s a lot of feelings.

    But I know that I would not be with her again.

    what can I do to a person that humiliated me?

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  28. Adam says:

    I had a w@nk over an Ex Girlfriend last night……………

    I know it’s wrong but………………………

    I still have a key and she’s a heavy sleeper!

  29. sarah w says:

    I like this article definitely.thanks for sharing.

  30. thexbox360player says:

    I’ve been talking to this guy lately and I really like him. No we’re not dating yet but we flirt and he calls me pretty and we talk all the time. He asks me how my day was and always calls/texts me in the morning to know if i slept well and to say good morning and other sweet things like that, but he got out of a relationship like 2-3 months ago. They were together for a little over 2 years. She broke up with him, and he’s mentioned her a couple times in the past week. Guys don’t like when we bring up our ex boyfriends so what makes you think we like it when you talk about your ex girlfriends? Why does he still bring her up? Does he still have feelings for her? And if so I should probably back off a little because… I don’t really want to be a rebound to be honest =/ Ive been there before it’s not fun. Also, I see her a lot but she doesn’t know he and I talk, i don’t even think she knows that I know him… which also makes me a good target for the rebound since there’s a small chance she might see us together and want him back. Maybe I’m just too untrustworthy toward guys but forget that, just answer my first question, why does he still mention her?

  31. Hayden says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend have both had partners since and are now both single again and i still love her alot and really want her back. We hang out again, with a group of friends and i dont know how and when i should tell her how i feel (though i think she already suspects that i like her alot again).

    But yeh: we are just friends at the minute and dont know how she feels and how and when to aproach her about the topic?

  32. gail C says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs & we have an 10 month old son together. He also has 3 other kids with his ex 2 girls & a boy. He has been seeing his kids more often & they are awesome when we go places i have so much fun with them! Well my bf owes his ex child support still so she don’t let him see the kids that often. His ex looked me up on fb & asked to be my friend & i accepted. We talked ever now & then & she seemed like a sweet person & i liked talking to her. She invited my bf & i to a halloween party & things went good she even invited us to trick or treating with her. Things were going really good. My boyfriend was happy that she was letting him see the kids & i was happy because our son finally got to meet his siblings & all of sudden everything just went BOOM! About 2 weeks ago we took the kids to Zumas( its a fun place for kids) & we had a blast! after wards we went to McDonald’s well while we at McDonald’s i asked her oldest daughter a question i said your mom don’t like me that much does she ? & she said Yeah she likes you. Ok so tell me why when i get home i have a fb message from her saying she didn’t appreciate me asking her daughter questions about her & how would i feel if the shoe was on the other foot & my bf & i acted like were a better couple than they were. WTF? What do i do? I don’t want to be the reason why she wont let him see the kids… I have tried saying sorry & she don’t say anything back to me… Some of my friends say she may still have feelings for him but idk… If she did have feelings what kind of feelings do you think they are???
    ok well i just sent her a message saying i wanted to apologize again because ive been thinking about it & realized that it was very immature of me… Does that sound ok?

  33. louisewoods1984 says:

    Ok, so I dated a girl briefly in the summer of 2008. After we broke up, I met my soul mate, Amy, and have not considered dating anyone else since we met. Today we were cleaning, preparing for Thanksgiving dinner with family. Then she found an old pair of underwear that my ex-girlfriend must have left in a pile of clothes long ago. She is now giving me the silent treatment, what do I do?

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  38. Harry says:

    Treated my now ex girlfriend Soooooo Great but she left me to go back with her ex who just wasn’t there for her.(She told me) Do they typically come back after they see the grass wasn’t so green on the other side of the fence.?????? She was previously with him one year, me 9 months?

  39. soccermaster1 says:

    My Ex Girlfriend is 19 and her current boyfriend wont let me talk to her anymore, We had about a 5month relationship. I Want to try and talk to her again but her new boyfriend is a prick and wont let me talk to her ? Any suggestions ?

  40. MAK & CHEESE says:

    so my ex girlfriend is 16 and she still likes dora the explorer something that a 12 year old would like is my ex immature for her age or what..?
    she just doesnt watch it its all over her bedroom walls cell phone, pillow cases.

  41. PolishPokeyPimp says:

    i have the wierdest relationship story that you should try reading and helping me out on…. please :-/

    i dated this one girl, (Girl 1), for 11 months. during the relationship i was the sweetest guy ever, i opened the door and buckled her in, i took her on a romantic first date, she was my first kiss, first love, first gf, everything, im 19 she is 17, she never once paid for a single thing in 11 months, literally. every date, every anniversary, every holiday. i got her literally everything she wanted…
    well..
    she cheated on me 4 times from october ’08-november ’08. she also didnt get me any christmas gifts, broke up with me the week of my bday, and compared my body with other guys and i have this massive body image issue even though im really skinny.

    during the relationship, i would talk to this other girl, (Girl 2), about problems and stuff, cuz she was dating my friend who joined the marines! we shared our problems and tried helping each other out. Girl 2 was related to Girl 1 by marriage, so when my ex saw i was talking to her, she FLIPPED OUT, threw a fit, saying ‘she is so much prettier than me! how can you be talking to her! your cheating on me! wtf!!!’ and she kicked and screamed, it was bad.

    my break up with my ex wasnt good. she broke up with me in june cuz she wasnt happy. 2 days after that, she goes to another guys house… a week later she missed me and wanted me back. i took her back but 5 hours later i break up with her cuz im still in shock that she went to another guys house. so i tell her give me time to think it over.
    3 days later… i want her back but she doesnt take me back. instead we hang out and stuff and i get her a bra, dress, flowers, cookies, etc, and she says she loves me, next day, she changed her number and ignored me for a week, and she got a new bf :(
    she didnt take me back cuz ‘i hurt her too bad’

    well now im talking to Girl 2 and she confessed she has strong feelings for me. we will start dating soon. Im curious… i was my ex’s gf’s best boyfriend ever, i was really nice. is she gonna be jealous i moved on, she honestly thinks i was gonna take a year to get over her and she used me as a security blanket.
    then my friend… he will be pissed im dating his ex.

    so yea, those are the questions:
    how will my ex react?
    should i tell my ex i moved on and have a new gf, she told me if i ever do, to tell her….
    my friend who joined the marines… he will be quite angry cuz he has an anger issue, now that im dating his ex. what is going to happen??

    pleae help, i really need it!

  42. Dark_LovexXx says:

    My Ex-girlfriend and I have been dating for three years, im four years older then her, and 16, she was always sweet and kind, she was so sensivite, and cries easily, even if your just joking around. she was the sweetest thing ever! until this month…about three months ago, I found out she cheated on me…but my girlfriend cried and swore she didn’t do it, so I though maybe her friends were just jealous, and were just being imature, so i believed her….she said that one night she couldn’t call me bcause she was going to that girls house, i didn’t think much of it then, because she is hinestly forced by her mom to go see that girl, but they have been weith eachother for two weeks straight, she shorten all our calls and got mad at me over NOTHING, i said that i was so stressed that I seriously was so done with it all, and i told her I was going to hurt myself if she continued tobreak my heart, she cooled off, and said “I never want my baby girl to say that again…please” so of course I apologized for being overwelmed and depressed, and went to bed like normaly, the next night, she called and imdeitly changed, she wanted EVERYTHING done, she said that I wasn’t a good enough girlfriend, and that im a “F****** jerk” I don’t like it when she cusses, so i said “babe, please calm down, what is wrong?? and please don’t cuss” she kept on saying how I over react way too much and I understood, I just told her I was worried what kind of things she’s influenced by. I told her I felt replaced and she said “Well you are replaced” she said that she didn’t love me, and that she stoped loving me a long time ago. but the last time she was here. she CRIED so hard she didn’t want to leave, I stroked her hair, and told her that she’d see me shortly…not knowing that she’d do this to me…the WORSE thing is this was all going through text. he said that I was childish because I was four years older, and I should of known better then date her, she claimed she was a minor, I cried and said “IM A MINOR TOO!!” after all this, after she told me it was over.
    I called her mom, I told her mom that she had cheated on me, and that her daughter is bi. her mom wasn’t surprised by her daughter being bi, but she was upset that my girlfriend would ever cheat on me, her mom said that she’d talked to her and have her call me, it’s been four days, NO ONE has contacted me, I called her mom today and she sent it to voice mail. I was always loyal, honest and caring to my girlfriend, I took good care of her, but now the family i was so CLOSE with shut me out…like im dirt! that was three years with that girl…and she threw it in my face like she didn’t want any of what I could offer her…Im upset. and I want her to miss me…My sweet girlfriend just turned into a horrible person who I don’t even know anymore..and worse of all, she did this while im going through a hard time with my parents after they found out i was gay. My ex seems to be doing fine without me…like she doesn’t even care that she cheated or hurt me…she blames me for everyhting…part of me wants her back….so bad. what do I do??

  43. jdfan says:

    We’ve been married 9 years, with two kids. I’ve caught him once on the computer talking to a woman, and he told her I was his ex girlfriend in a picture he sent her. Then, when I was 9 months pregnant, he went on a business trip to NY and went to a massage parlor… if you know what I mean. He lies at work, and has never provided health insurance, or had a 401k when he’s had plenty of opportunity to do so. I’ve stayed at home with our kids, but now I’m starting to realize that unless I get out there and do something for myself, I will have nothing to my name when I grow old! He depends on his father for everything, and just last week quit ANOTHER job because he just didn’t like it, and went back to his daddy’s company.
    My parents are not speaking to him. They’ve watched him for the last decade and kept quiet, but now they said they’ve had enough of me living like this and they want to help me leave him.
    UPDATE… we’ve been separated now for 2 months. I’ve been to a therapist, who’s helped me alot. The kids are doing very well. He goes back and forth between giving me ultimatums, and manipulating, to being super sweet and promising me the world. He says he has done a 180, and if I come back he will be the perfect husband. He wants us to go to a Christian counselor together… which I don’t really feel comfortable doing, because divorce is generally not an option to them.
    I don’t want to waste another decade on him, because I’ve heard so many times that people just don’t change. Maybe for a while, but when things get comfortable again they go right back to their old ways.
    I’m never excited to see him, and the thought of being intimate with him ever again makes me sick to my stomach.
    UPDATE!! HE MET A GIRL IN A POOL HALL MONDAY NIGHT, AND SHE SPENT THE NIGHT WITH HIM WEDNESDAY NIGHT AND LAST NIGHT. HE DIDN’T EVEN CALL IN TO WORK YESTERDAY, JUST DIDN’T SHOW. SHE IS STAYING AT HIS HOUSE ALL DAY TODAY WHILE HE SUPPOSEDLY GOES TO WORK. this kind of pisses me off because i still have some of my things at the house, and she is a stranger staying there alone all day!

    I’m 31, he’s 33.

  44. Michael C says:

    God love you if you have the patience to read all of this.

    Okay, I know this question has been answered millions of times here before, but my situation is a liiiittle different than the typical jealous scenario.

    See, my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend — his first girlfriend, in fact — dated for two months before she broke up with him in October. He was heartbroken, but eventually, he got over her, and he and I started dating in November and we’ve been happy ever since. Except… the only major problem that’s been cropping up? My jealousy of her. And I want to know how to put a stop to it.

    To kinda put things in perspective, their break-up was kinda rough. She abruptly broke it off with him after a silly fight of theirs and he was messed up for a week. He was so distressed he couldn’t eat — that’s the kind of guy he is. He repeatedly tried to get her back to her refusal, and she soon found a new boyfriend. He got over her, and weeks later, so did he — me.

    I wasn’t really jealous at her at the start because they didn’t talk much other than buddy-buddy stuff since the break-up. But very recently? She apologized for the way that she broke up with him, saying that she ‘honestly believes’ she made a mistake but at least they were both happy where they were. She says whenever she has a problem she’ll go to him and she misses how close they used to be. It came out of nowhere — in fact, the same morning he was telling me how he barely talks to her and he’d likely lose all contact with her once he went off to college. Her apologizing kind of threw that out the window, and he considers her one of his closest friends now, much to my dismay. They don’t hang out much in school. At all, actually. But they text and stuff like that on a regular basis. He never messages her — it’s always her to him first. He insists he doesn’t see her as his ‘ex-girlfriend’ anymore, but instead just a good friend.

    Something also popped up last night. I’m not going to go into details as they are personal, but something extremely distressing happened between the both of us that meant we were both panicking the whole night, pretty much. (Nothing to do with her.) It was resolved, and I was still kind of shaken from it. We both needed someone to vent to. Someone trustworthy, because this kind of thing couldn’t be spread around.

    Guess who he chose to vent to? Yep, his ex.

    He told me immediately after they did, though, but I was still kind of freaking out. I didn’t want her to know. I’m sure she can keep a secret but I just didn’t want his ex-girlfriend to know something so personal about his current girlfriend. I didn’t find the subject matter appropriate. We talked it out but I’m still miffed. But he insisted that she was the first one to text him, and if it were any other person he would’ve vented to them instead.

    I know I can’t ask him to stop talking to her. That’d put an end to my worries, but it wouldn’t be fair at all to him. I don’t know how to deal with this jealousy.

    He’s not your typical guy, either. He’s that one gentle guy you probably know someone like; the one that girls go to for advice and things like that. He’s sweet and caring and known as an all-around nice guy. He even had trouble with dating for a while because most girls don’t see him as any more than ‘just friends’. He’s not a malicious character at all. He’s honest and trustworthy and tells me whenever something I might find questionable crops up between him and her, and is more than willing to show me their texts and MSN conversations, which I try to do as less as I possibly can. Yet I continue to worry every day that maybe he still likes her, or she still likes him or something, even though he assures me on a regular basis that I am the one for him. His friends have even told me that he’s described me as ‘ten times better in every way’ than her.

    I know with all of the evidence to the contrary, my worries seem silly. I mean, she has a boyfriend too! But aaaagh. I don’t know what to do anymore! How do I stop being jealous before my silly fears cause my great relationship to fall apart? :(

    (tl;dr -> boyfriend talks to ex-girlfriend on a regular basis, sometimes about personal stuff, and considers her one of his closer friends, though much evidence exists that he does not like her and she doesn’t like him I am still a paranoid crazy bitch. Help.)

  45. Patrick says:

    i have an ex girlfriend who has friends who attempted a plan to hurt my current girlfriend which was taken down and they were prosecuted. now my ex herself is threatening that if i don’t help her with what she needs which is something i cannot help with she is going to hurt my current girlfriend. they are both in overseascountries so i cant stop them myself and at new years eve party. they aaren’tanswering their phones. what should i do?

  46. Lachlan says:

    How does a guy go about getting over an ex girlfriend? We just recently broke up, and she wants to be friends, but I don’t want to be. Am I alone in thinking that if someone is trying to get over their ex girlfriend, being friends with them actually slow the process, and makes it more difficult?

    How do you guys do it?

  47. mal_functiongeo says:

    What does it mean when a guy keeps nude pictures of his ex girlfriend even though he found a new girlfriend? He told me “they have sentimental value”.

    What reasons would he keep these nude pictures of her?

  48. Roflcopter says:

    I haven’t seen my ex girlfriend since January. She calls me in jun saying she missed her period 2 months ago. Is there any possibility the baby is mine?

  49. Vultre9 says:

    Great post, cool.

  50. shahrukh says:

    My ex-girlfriend keeps showing up at my home and work unannounced. She even committed breaking and entering on my home. What do I do to get her under control and away from me while still trying to maintain distant communication with her?

  51. Jonny says:

    Oh, I watched it too, wery awesome indeed.

  52. Xedo says:

    I adopted a cat. I signed the paperwork. Ex-girlfriend moved out a month ago. Now she wants the cat. She somehow thinks it’s her cat. She took all the documents when she left and I am trying to get copies from the shelter. She is threatening to get a court order to retrieve the cat from my home. Can she do this? What can / should I do?

  53. D3ZZY says:

    What are some good comebacks or insults to my boyfriends ex girlfriend? Shes always at parties my boyfriend and I go to and I want to be prepared next time! I want to burnnnn her! Please help!

  54. nothin_nyce1 says:

    I had an ex-girlfriend who broke up with me a little over 4 months ago. A couple of months ago we began talking again, and started seeing each other. We would talk on a daily basis, acting like we were a couple. So, then i’d ask her if she thought we would ever get together again, and she says she’d hope to, but in the mean time she loves me and wants to see where things go. Not too long ago, I almost had it, because I am in love with this girl and she still wont commit to me saying it doesnt feel right yet but she misses me. Ever since that happend, communication has soften a little, but talked very gradual. We are going to have Valentines together and go to a sporting even in a couple of weeks. I dont know what to do and why she wont commit. Do I just ignore her for a little and hope she sees she might lose something, or go for the ride still and stop complaining. It just the fact its been going on for almost 2 1/2 months. Any suggestions?

  55. RuMKilleR says:

    My ex girlfriend for 8 months hasn’t talked to me in a week and she ended it by saying she never ever wants to be with me again. A week later she calls me 5 times and leaves 2 text messages about her sleeping with dougie(stuffed animal turtle) still and then said my name with a question mark at the end. She said she isn’t ready to talk but just wanted me to know she was thinking about me and that she hopes im doing ok. What does this mean?

  56. Ray D says:

    Purely yellow It… what I want ..

  57. Travoiz says:

    My ex contacted me a few days ago about needing money for college.
    I will always love her, we were together for 4 years, so I am going to send her around $5,000.
    BUT, I do not want her to know any details.
    Like where I live.
    She’s the type that will see my new address and come harass me and my new girlfriend.
    I just moved to the new Orleans area and she lives in New York where I used to live.
    What should I do?

  58. louisewoods1984 says:

    I’m a 25 year old male. When I was a senior in high school (17), I dated this chick for about a month or so (she’s a year younger than I). We dated and broke up, & we went thru 2 years w/out talking. My sophomore year of college, she IM’s me on AIM asking how i’m doing (i had just put a band together at the time, & she was asking about that being nice). I kept in contact thru email here and there. I used to be friends with her on Facebook.

    3 years back, she went to ISU, got pregnant, had a kid & put it up for adoption, moved back to my hometown, and then moved to U of I. I had written a song about the relationship that her and I had, and she told me she liked it when I showed it to her on myspace (the lyrics were there too. it was pretty much a nostalgic song). She felt something from it because she told me things like “wow” & “oh drazy” (whens he meant to say ‘crazy’). From her reaction, you could tell that she had felt something from it.

    2 years ago, she messaged me on Facebook wanting to see about meeting up one day (keep in mind at this time we went to 2 different schools: I went to SIU Carbondale, & she went to U of I. When she talked to me about meeting up, she asked when I was gonna be back. I told her when, and then she mentioned about doing something. I said maybe a dinner/movie (if I could do this all over again, I would’ve said coffee). Then I told her “it’s been way too long” she said “true”. I then look on her FB profile the next day seeing that she has a picture with some guy that goes to her school. Later that summer, I see that she has “in a relationship” as her status (but it doesn’t say who it is). I then asked her when she wanted to meet up. She said she would let me know (I was afraid to ask about the “in a relationship” thing). She said that she’d let me know when, and I told her to let me know soon because I go back to school at the end of August. Then she talked to me about coming to visit at SIU. I got her number.

    When I got down to SIU, I called her up & talked to her twice over the phone (hadn’t heard her voice in 5 years at the time. The 1st time I called her it was real short and sweet. The 2nd time, she asked “who is this?” I told her who I was, and she said, “Oooh…I’m sorry I didn’t save your-your number (laughs) sorry.” I say, “Oh no it’s cool.” (ALTHOUGH, it threw me off how she didn’t save my number). We talked for about 20 minutes. I found out she had a boyfriend that she’d been dating for 8 months at the time (it wound up being the guy in the picture. Ugly Serbian mother fucker). I told her to “tell me about this prince charming”. She then told me, “lol well i wouldn’t call him prince charming…i’m iffy about his background, but he’s majoring in home economics [i forgot what else was said]“. My last conversation with her was a good one at least, so there was no beef. I hadn’t talked to her since…

    My last semester at SIU, I saw she had her profile pic on FB with her boyfriend (she usually doesn’t do that with guys, so she must have really liked him), so I unfriended her. Then for some reason when I got a girlfriend at SIU (the first girl I ever dated at my own school), I send her a friend request, and then cancel it (IDK if she got the memo about my friend request or not..) According to Facebook tho (as of last summer), it looks like her and her boyfriend broke up. She also went to Africa (probably for an internship I assume), but I dunno if she’s back in town.

    WHAT I’M GETTING AT IS, when I dated this girl I felt a strong chemistry between us. Altho it didn’t last that long, I know that it would have been a serious relationship if it would have lasted a lot longer. I know this because she contacted me 2 years after the breakup, and we would talk thru IM here and there. Then again, I wound up going away for school anyway, so I guess our breakup was for a good reason in the long run (in that sense). Problem was, I realize now that there were some miscommunications between our IM conversations. I was just hesitant on talking about our past relationship, & her boyfriends. I played it cool & I was hoping that our bond would rise from the ashes. Should I try contacting her again somehow just to see how she’s doing, and try to ease my way into having normal conversations to hopefully work out the miscommunications?

    I know that this situation seems odd, but I feel like I made some miscommunication mistakes that I must fix. There’s this festival called going on today downtown (that’s where her and I first met), and I don’t know if she’ll be there or not. If she is, what should I do/say? I’m just asking because I’m wondering if I would have handled our conversations more confidently, that things would have been different, AL

  59. BRUTE says:

    Just beautiful! Very imaginative blog, your ex it!

  60. altair says:

    wow,the post is claasic thanks you

  61. sethburger says:

    WHICH ONE OF THESE REALLY ARE TRUE, AND APPLIES TO MOST GIRLS OUT THERE? =)

    1. When we’re watching our favorite show, don’t try to distract us, make fun of the show, or make fun of how much we like the show. We probably know its lame, but we still watch. You have sports; we have our shows.
    2. We like when you cook for us, it doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just food we aren’t picky it’s the thought that counts. If you absolutely can’t cook at all, get take out and set it up somewhat nicely.
    3. Go to the gym…those pelvic muscles are insanely hot! The beer belly is not!
    4. Don’t compare us to your ex-girlfriends; we aren’t them.
    5. Open doors for us, we like our men to be gentlemen, bring chivalry back!
    6. Just because we don’t say thank you every time you do something, doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate every little thing you do. The little things usually mean more than anything else.
    7. Flowers don’t always make up for mistakes, but we love to get them when we least expect it.
    8. We love to take pictures and when we want to take several it’s because we want cute ones of you or us to show off to other people.
    9. When we want a girls’ night out, don’t be mad or think we are going out to look for other guys. We need our girls’ night as much as you guys need your guys’ night.
    10. You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big fat guys, and hit a little baseball with a stick, so why can’t you aim in the toilet and not on it.
    11. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
    12. We don’t shave our legs everyday, get over it.
    13. When you kiss us we don’t like to feel like we are making out with a dog so don’t slobber on our face.
    14. Don’t ever lie to us; we will always find out.
    15. Don’t tell us who is hot because we don’t care.
    16. We shouldn’t have to plan everything, we like surprises, a little spontaneity goes a long way!
    17. We’re not always girly girls; we can like boy stuff too.
    18. DO NOT act different or be a jerk around your friends. It will get you in the end… (We remember these types of things)
    19. Don’t always expect us to call you. The phone works both ways!
    20. No matter if we’re fat or not, most girls aren’t as self-confident as guys! And we need to be complimented as often as possible!
    21. Being drunk is not an excuse for ANY of your actions.
    22. Do not brag to your friends…unless you want us to discuss with the girls how small your penis is.
    23. Walks in the rain, kisses on the forehead, and cooking dinner for us will get you everywhere.
    24. If you’re developing such good finger skills playing video games, you better put them to good use sometimes.
    25. Anything you do or say to another girl that you wouldn’t want us to know about is considered cheating.
    26. If you refuse to dance, expect us to dance with other guys…and lots of them.
    27. We don’t always expect you to pay for us, but it doesn’t hurt to at least offer every once in a while
    28. Foreplay isn’t something we should have to ask for…it’s a prerequisite
    29. No girl just wants to be your “friend with benefits.”
    30. We reserve the right to hate all of your ex-girlfriends
    31. Think before you speak…it’ll make a world of difference
    32. Don’t screw us over…especially if we have an older brother or protective guy friends…they will hunt you down and kill you
    33. Just because we’re still just “hanging out” doesn’t make it ok to sleep with your ex-girlfriend
    34. We aren’t asking for you to spill your heart, but some information about what’s going on in that head of yours, is nice every once in a while.
    35. Don’t complain on how long it takes us to get ready and then moan about how we always used to get dolled up for you and now we don’t anymore.
    36. No backseat drivers, none!
    37. If you hold our hand while you are driving we will be thoroughly impressed…especially if it’s a stick.
    38. The ability to play the guitar will help your COGL.
    39. Return favors: we massage, you massage; we go down, you go down; we shave, you shave (and not just your face).
    40. Boxers and maybe boxer briefs sometimes . . . NEVER whitey-tighties, NEVER!
    41. Sensitive guys are great . . . but crying more than we do in a movie just isn’t right.
    42. Silent treatment, shoulder shrugs, tears, yelling and nasty looks all add up to . . . YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG
    43. Your way is not always the right way. Learn to say- “I was wrong”
    44. If we can’t talk to you during a football game, then don’t try to get our attention during Grey’s Anatomy
    45. We have other friends of the male gender. Just because we have guy friends doesn’t mean we are sleeping with them or think they are attractive,sometimes it’s nice to have a guys perspective on things! So leave your jealousy at the door!
    46. Remember actions speak louder than words.
    47. Unless you’re Dale Earnhardt Jr., we’re just as capable to drive as you are.
    48. We don’t mind being DD (designated driver) as l

  62. Rishi says:

    I’ve known my boyfriend for five months, and dated him for three months. I always thought since I meet him he was a person with intergrity and honestly. I felt that I could give up my trust issues, and really give him my trust. The first shady thing I noticed was that that he has been ”hanging out’ with his ex girlfriend a lot. And because I trust him I would generally write it off as an innocent meeting because other people where there. However, I noticed he brought up how she was making out with another guy and it seemed as though this bothered him or he was jealous they way he conveyed the situation. And he said when we first met that he was madly in love with her, but she cheated on him. Which makes me wonder if he still has feelings for her, then I hear that he said if he was given the chance that he would go back with her. When I asked him about this he didn’t deny saying it he told me, ” i love you and your amazing.” The second shady thing is that he constantly hangs out with this girl hanna and she flirts with him right in front of me, and then I found out they’ve been “hanging out” alot alone. The final straw that has put me in tears is that he recently went on vacation and didn’t ask me to go which i didn’t mind, and just tonight he was texting me saying he was at the beach and his bestfriend mike was texting me at the same time telling me that they were at hooters and he was watching the girls shake there ass’s and letting them sit on his lap and give him kisses. When i asked him about it he was like no i wasn’t there, and then about two hours later he slipped up when i said i was hungry and going to get some food. In which he replied by saying i’m not the wings i got a hooters where amazing. And i was like why’d you lie about being there and he simply said “lol (;” so i stopped texting him.

    The hard part about this is that i really let him in and i fell love with him, and he sweet talks me and i don’t no if he means it or not. But lately all he wants is to sexual things, and i don’t want to give him up because he’s my first love…so am i over reacting or not…btw he’s 16 and so am i.

  63. liza says:

    hi i just want to to hear some of your thoughts. I had a girlfriend, we’ve been together for 3 months… i loved her so much that I courted her for like 5 months before she finally gave in.. during the time when i was still courting, she already hinted me that she is a materialistic girlfriend, but still I pursued her and then she finally fell in love with me… During our 3-month relationship, she did not have a job-unemployed (though she is a nurse). But I was so happy at first when we were together, except for the fact that there would be times that she would ask money from me, and she wants me to buy certain things which sometimes I would give her. There was also a time when she will borrow money from me, and I said I’ll lend her money (though I will not ask her to pay me) when my payday comes, she will agreed but still she’s disappointed cause she doesn’t want to go out with me or see until my payday comes or until I lend her the money. But I still loved her, text her always, call her even though I am busy, but there is also some time when I got tired but still I go on with my feelings. Also, we live far away from each other, like it would take 2 hours to get to their house. So mobile/text communication is very significant, she does not even ask how am i doing after work’s time, and she seldom greet me in the morning. I always take the initiative to greet her and text her. But she is so sweet when we are together, like it feels so good when she does it to met. But we broke up coz I can no longer felt that importance of love, all I know is that she thinks about is money. When we finally broke up, she got devastated that she is sorry for what she has done and wanted us to be reconciled again, she realized that she really loved me more than ever. My friend even asked me that we reconcile but I just gently decline coz I thought there is no love. But after 1 month of breakup, I just found out that she is already in a relationship with someone (with someone she know from the same college she went to-same class). I found out that the guy is working abroad and the guy promised her to pay for VISA fees and other fees just for her to work abroad and be with together. I mean, just 25 days ago, she was talking to my friend that she wanted to cry of our breakup, but after another 5 days she is in a relationship. I saw their profile in FB and I did saw that she is so happy, that she finally found the right one, even happier compared to the time when we are together. I just want to know if I am going to pursue her or not, win her back or not? Is this worth it? I’m not sure if this is love or pride/ego, but right now, I don’t feel good =(

  64. Matthew says:

    How Do I tell my ex girlfriend that I want to get back with her but not in a strait up way, something different?

  65. soccermaster1 says:

    Wanting a brand-new frendship wasn’t effortless ever!

  66. davemc74656 says:

    Over 2 years ago I’ve met this amazing girl, I was just getting out of a bad relationship and it’s been over 5 months being single and 2 months since I got my first ex out of my life. Then I met that amazing girl who basically was everything I’ve ever wanted … Sweet, beautiful, kind, caring, funny, shares my interests and tastes in music and movies and so on.
    And we spent over a year together but we broke up midway because it was somewhat a long distance relationship, and she was -according to her- terrified of the way she felt and how this was all new to her. So after long thinking and a lot of effort we decided to stay friends as she couldn’t go on with it any longer, but then we got back together about 2 months later and we became even happier than we’ve ever been, but then it wouldn’t last for over 4 months as she went to another country to work and she said that she doesn’t feel that she loved me the same way I loved her… How I was thoughtful and left her a message and called for everyday we couldn’t talk to each other or see each other on the internet… and how she in return not as thoughtful and didn’t try to call but hung out with the people she made friends with instead, and how that very long distance now was bringing us apart (I too had felt that things weren’t working with such long distance) and how her feelings now feel as if they were feelings towards a brother, not towards a lover… so I decided to tell her I felt the same way (I was feeling drifted away as well but maybe I shouldn’t have said that I know) so we decided to remain friends … again.

    Till two months later she told me that she found someone else and I said I was okay with it as I was trying to keep myself distracted by thinking that I have feelings for my first ex, but as I said that was just a distraction till one day she told me that we can’t talk to each other anymore as “she’s beginning to have feelings for me again and it’s not fair to her, her family, her friends or her boyfriend” and that was at the night of a midterm exam about 8 months ago. Needless to mention of course how hard that has broken my heart and how much it devastated me.

    I decided to get myself distracted as much as I can. and focus on my studies but now I just don’t know who I am anymore.. It’s like I’ve lost my identity along with her at the moment she left.. I became all truly lost.. Needless to mention that I can’t trust people as much as I used to before what she did what she did.

    Then last February I decided to do something that might have been desperate and send her a message on FB telling her everything and how much all that hurt me and how great it was and so on as to get some closure since we were never gonna talk to each other again, in a dismal try to get ahead with moving on with my life.

    And so it was, and my life kept on going exactly the same as it is … till 6 days ago I found a message from her on FB out of the blues asking if I have forgiven her.

    What does she mean with this ? and what does she want from me now ? And if she wants to get back.. should I allow her to get back in ? In my honest opinion I’m thinking I shouldn’t but as you can tell of how confused I really am.. I would really appreciate some help. (No mean answers please)

    Thanks a lot for your time :)

  67. Matthew says:

    Why does seeing my ex girlfriend make me feel so bad. We dated for about 8 months when she asked me for a brake in January. Now every time I see her I feel depressed. What should I do she goes to my friends house every day. I can’t stop going to my friends house i babysit for them. Is she doing it on purpose to mess with my head? Or does she not know she is doing it. Can anyone help me please? A women’s point of view would be best but any would help.

  68. Jonny says:

    That was touching, practically dropped a tear.

  69. Alun J says:

    I don’t want this to be too long but i need peoples opinions and help!

    This year i started dating a girl and we where very close and we did everything together, we got to the point of talking about sex and stuff. so yeah we where very close and this lasted 2 months. last week she started acing weirdly and i asked what was wrong and what i could do. she said something wasn’t right but she could solve it. she didn’t and everyday it seamed worst as she didn’t want to kiss me and slowly started backing away and avoiding me. i got worried and asked what was going on. she said she wasn’t comfortable with me around our friends but that she loved being with me alone. I said that we could be more desecrate so that she didn’t have to feel uncomfortable. i did everything to please her and she has noticed that and she has thanked me. Friday last week she asked to talk to me in the same place we gave our first kiss. she said she didn’t feel comfortable with me. we both cried and gave one last kiss. still in tears we went separate ways to talk and with our friends. it was hard for both of us. Now, i think she still likes me, and i love her very much and i would be willing to do pretty much anything to get her back. she knows i still love her but yeah.
    what can i do? i just want her back before it’s too late. i wrote a letter this week with our good moments on it, she replied with a similar thing… it made me happy but i want to date her again!
    help? what do you suggest? your opinions?

    all her friends say I’m the sweetest guy they know, and i use to do all these romantic things with her. (beach sunset, strawberries for lunch, helium balloons with love messages and wishes etc.)
    thanks guys!

  70. soccermaster1 says:

    While we were together he was sleeping around and after all he got back with his ex-girlfriend. Now they live together.

    But about a month ago, I ran into him in the club he said he still have feelings for me and we kissed. He was trying to take me home( she was at parents at that time) but I didnt. After that, he text me and say sweet things to me.

    Now I have a new boyfriend also but I often find myself thinking about my ex. I even have dreams about my ex and his girlfriend….. Please somebody help me out!! Your advice will be much appreciated!!

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  73. Austin says:

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  74. lucasg615 says:

    two weeks ago (while she was still in a relationship her boyfriend after me) my ex girlfriend told me that she couldnt stop thinking about me. whenever she saw someone kiss, she thought of me not her boyfriend. she told me how well i treated her. she got my hopes up… and she broke up with her boyfriend the other day, and recently just told me that all of what she thought has gone away. is that even possible? and how do i deal with it???

  75. jdubdoubleu7704 says:

    Interesting aim od view, I like that!

  76. white man says:

    My serious boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months.  We have a wonderful relationship.  We rarely argue, and when we do, we find a solution as quickly as possible.  We love each other deeply, are connected on many levels, and usually are able to work through any bumps.  He’s terribly sweet, and I trust him. 

    However, I’ve been in some pretty horrible relationships in the past, and that has led me to be suspicious…probably overly so, because usually, when I’d have suspicions, they’d be proven true. (Aww….I had to kill this screen because he came in to give me a kiss.)

    So, on to the current issue. He is friends with his ex-girlfriend.  We live in Washington (state), and she in Arizona.  This is fine by me…he’s friends with a lot of his exes, and to me it shows that he’s a good person since someone who’s a past romantic partner, and they ‘broke up,’ associates with him still.  As most of us know, this isn’t always common.   However, this particular ex is one who is the typical “psycho ex.”  (I dislike this term, but it applies.) 

    She cheated on him, lied about endless things such as drug use and who she’s with or not, cut off his cable because she was mad at him, told him he’s nothing but a ‘sex toy’, hurt him, and seems to have always gotten away with it.  He’s taken her back many times over a course of a few years.  He told me that when he first moved up here, (at the time they weren’t together) that she had messaged all of his female friends on myspace to inform them that he belonged to her. 

    He says that they’re friends, and that they’ve known each other a long time. A few months into our relationship, I learned her true nature.  Through a silly program on myspace, where you can “own your friends,” she ‘battled’ with me to keep ‘ownership’ of him online.  He complained of her arguing with him about it.  I had made him aware of my annoyance with her presence, and especially her comments that ‘he’s mine, no matter what some immature girl thinks.’  
    For a few months after he and I were together, she still insisted that she was his girlfriend.  He said he didn’t understand where she got this from. My only concern with this was that I saw no proof of him outright telling her that they’re not together. She and he argued over several different things over the phone on different occasions.  Finally, a couple months ago, he said that he had had it with her…that he was done dealing with someone.  He told me about cruel things that she said about me (she and I have never met or spoken), that she called me a ‘dyke’ and insulted me.  Why, he asked, would he want to associate with someone who was so negative when he had me, who he wanted to marry and spend the rest of his life and had children with, right in front of him.  (Yes, he actually said this, and much, much more.)
    So, after this, it was pretty much my assumption that he was never going to talk to her again, since he told her he wanted her out of his life. 

    A while ago, I found out that he was talking to her again.  Which made me hurt and suspicious, wondering why he would go back on his word.  He said that I can’t tell him who he can or can’t be friends with, etc.  I agree with this, but made him understand I felt the circumstances upset me. We had a long disagreement, where I let him know how I felt about this.  

    So, on to my part where I’m guilty but hurt and torn: I’ve unfortunately let curiousity get the better of me.  And we all know where that led the cat. I’ve checked texts on his phone on a few occasions.  And not liked what I found. He is not cheating on me.  This is obvious, especially by the distance between them.  He does not spout sweetness to her (at least not in texts, from what I’ve seen….he’s also a very brisk typer, using shorthand in texts), but does not tell her to back down.  She called me a dyke again, and I did not see him jumping to my defense.  All that I saw was that when she started getting heated, he apologized for upsetting her and left it at that.  What bothers me is that he won’t just tell her off, and set it straight.  Tell her that if he’s going to stay friends with her, she needs to remain as friends and not bash his girlfriend, etc. 
    Do guys just not do this?  I know that personally, I would not tolerate a friend or ex of any caliber to be insulting my boyfriend, especially if they never met him. 

    My dilemma is that I cannot go to  him and admit that I’ve been snooping.  I’m afraid he’d feel he lost my trust.  I don’t want to hurt him. So what can be done? 
    Should I just wait it out…will she fade in time when she doesn’t get physical contact with him? 
    We plan on getting married and starting a family.  Will she maybe realize, when this happens (or she finds out we’re officially engaged, perhaps) that we’re for r
    My apologies for any typos or odd symbols that may appear in my question. I posted it (and this) in its final form from my mobile device.

  77. stephen m says:

    In November of 2008, I met the greatest thing that ever happened to me. My ex girlfriend and I met online and fell in love instantly. We had a great relationship. We were different people, and because of that we had our bumps in the road, but nothing serious. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked dinner for her, bought dinner, opened doors for her, bought her roses on occasion(Orange because that’s her favorite color) helped her financially if she needed it, bought her cards and wrote her letters on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. I didn’t go a day without telling her that I loved her. She did a lot of favors in return for me as well. She has had a troubled past with guys and because of that she was very insecure. I always reassured her I was not going to leave and promised her one day I would ask her to marry me. I kept that promise throughout our relationship and planned to give her a promise ring on our six month anniversary.

    She went to a Mardis Gras parade that year in February and ended up flashing a guy just to use his bathroom. I was hurt really bad for what she did. She begged me not to leave her and I gave in. We argued about it for a few days, but were quickly over the fact.

    About five, six months into our relationship she met a new guy at her work. I was fine with it due to the fact she had several guy friends. I began to get insecure when he started offering to pay her bills, and would always take her out for dinner or breakfast. I told her whatever was going on HAD to stop. I immediately received the “jealous and insecure” label. Arguments and fights began to break out. She was beginning to do things behind my back and was “sneaky” about him. The arguments grew and I began to say things that I regret saying. She ended up cheating on me and leaving me for him.

    I was devastated for months. She wanted to be friends still, but i denied her every time. I began to move on and see other women, but they continually played mind games and I dropped them. A few months ago I realized that I still loved her and wasn’t over her. I took her off of my facebook and my phone as well. About a month ago she messaged me on facebook wondering why I took her off and wanted to be friends again. I gave in.

    She informed me that her relationship with low life she left me for didn’t last long at all. He ended up cheating on her several times and dropped her with an apartment she can’t afford alone. We went out one night to a hockey game and for drinks and had a good time. I eventually got emotional with her and told her I missed being with her. She told me that she was really sorry for what she had done and feels like a horrible person. She told me that we were different people, and that’s why she didn’t believe that we would work. We both were in tears and I left her place that night drenched in them.

    I realized I was falling in love with her all over again. I sent her a card for Valentines Day with a heart felt note and a $300 check to help her out. When she received it she was in disbelief and thanked me. We would talk off and on for a few weeks with small conversations.She drove out to her friends house just so she could wish me a happy birthday because her phone was turned off due to delinquency. I didn’t get her text until she left her friends. She used the money I gave her to re activate her account and called me and wished me a happy birthday again. I thought it was really sweet of her. We decided to go out to dinner a couple nights ago. We stayed for two hours as the staff practically had to kick us out. I hugged her and we both kissed each other on our cheeks and I told her that we were still meant for each other. She sighed and said, “I know..” I told her that we just have to work harder on a few things and we could make things work. She admitted that she was a “*****” and that I deserved better. I told her I still loved her I wanted to make things work again. Throughout our relationship I did tend to get moody or tired. I discovered it was a combination of hypoglycemia and a testosterone in balance due anabolic supplements I used to take for weight lifting. I told her I was sorry for that and I was getting treated. She said that it was okay and that it wasn’t my fault. She did tell me that she thought we could possibly be together in the future, but not now. She wasn’t ready for anyone because she wasn’t over what she did to me, or what her ex did to her that she left me for. I told her that I wasn’t ready either, but when we were both ready I would give our relationship a shot. She considered as I walked her back to her car and we kissed each other again and said goodnight.

    I’ve tried moving on so much.. but I can’t. I do truly love her. I still think about her constantly and my chest burns when I do. I can’t imagine a future without her. I really need more advice. Ladies..what do you think? Thanks for time!

  78. EzioAuditore1459 says:

    Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like “just friends” and she said “so your over me?” so i answered with “isn’t that what you wanted: and she said “i guess.” A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didn’t. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said “yes, that’s fine” She has been gon for just about a week now and came back on sunday night. So she came back and we talked a little bit on monday and she brought up that she hadnt forgotten about what i asked her about talking when she gets back, but it was really late and we both called it a night. Tuesday night we started talking seriously and she was very cautious about getting back together and she asked me some questions just to see if i was still really crazy and nuts about spending time with her like i used to be and i did very well with the questions she asked and finnaly she said “lets take it slow” i didnt know what that meant so she explained it like this “im busy this friday night and saturday night with a sweet 16 and another family thing and next weekend she is going to a concert on friday and and saturday she has another sweet 16 to attend to but that one weekend night if were both free we can hang out or something. She also said she wanted to start talking alot more and stuff because she doesnt like the non contact thats weve been having and she just wants to take it slow. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and i feel like things are beggining to unfold and work out for me, oh she also felt this obligation to tell me that she made a mistake and hooked up with another guy and fooled around with him a little bit but said that it felt really uncomfortable and not good, when she would always say how great i was at pleasuring her. So what does this all mean for me. I didnt get mad and told her that it was no problem and that if anything it helped me out because she didnt enjoy it, so i think/ hope that helped me also idk

    I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps :) Thank you

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  81. Brian says:

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  83. joevsyou says:

    Im 16 and she is 15. We dated for a a year and 6 months. everything was great the first year. literally the best girlfriend by far that i have ever had. we were not only bf/gf,but we were bestfriends too. we talked about everything with eachother.we both have never been in a serious relationship before we met eachother. we stole eachothers virginity, everything. we made promises of how we were gunna get married and all that good stuff. and i know your probably thinking…there just young. but i swear we both had no doubt in anything in the first 12 months. we were eachothers lifes.then after about a year the fighting started getting in the picture..nothing big, just pointless ones. she started getting really jealous about all my female friends, which eventually rubbed on me and i became jealous. i never used to be like that in the past. then high school came….if i had a picture right now i would show you..but my girlfriend is a verrryy pretty girl. too anybody she is a babe ha but anyways the “uppperclassmen” boys set there eyes on her very quick. and even know she acted like they were creeps. i know she loved every bit of it of the attention. thats when i started noticing a change. the sweet, innocent girl that i met a year ago was falling for all the attention that she was getting. her attitude on everything changed. i started catching her in small lies all the time.usually about her talking to boys and then lying bout it cus she “didnt want to get me mad”. there was a time i broke up with her over hanging out with other boys with her friend and not telling me while i was snowboarding. she bawled her eyes saying how stupid she is and how she loves me soo much….and i eventually couldnt stand it, soo i took her back. the fighting continued. we still loved eachother the same..but the fighting was getting soo old that there was really no real option. breaking up began to be brought up occasionally after a fight. but we both just gave in and said we couldnt do anythiing without eachother. we couldnt comprehend that something that long and perfect..can just be thrown away. she said she wanted more freedom. then school one day were texting in class talking about it. i was like dont be scared just do it…soo after class that day..we broke up. it was the hardest thing that i have ever went through in my life. and i know it was for her too. she lost ten pounds from not eating. but ofcourse she had a buttoad of guys to talk to that were waiting in line..we would talk everyday. we couldnt stand not talking to eachother. now its been about a week and a half after the breakup and i went over to her house yesterday to “talk”. we had sex…it was soo emotional that i couldnt help but cry. she was bawling saying how much she had missed me. i iknow it was a mistake to do that but it was not our intentions. it just happened.we talked about getting back together, but we both agreed that we didnt want to jump into anything. but shes been giving me mixed signals lately. like one day it’ll be like i misss you and like making me think were gunna get back together. and the next it’ll be idk…. but ive also heard a lot of rumors going around about her doing stuff with another guy. but who knows…she says she loves being single and all of the freedom. its like she wants all of the freedom to do whatever she wants. but still wants me to be with her. please i know this was long but if you have anything to help me speak up

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  85. Heath says:

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  86. Ramblin Spirit says:

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  89. Sir fliesalot says:

    Recently my ex girlfriend and I went away for the weekend. We slept in the same bed but no sex. Kinda weird, just friends stuff, so it sucked. But she wanted to go to a strip club with me. But there really aren’t any downtown where we were. I really want to get back with her, but what does this mean? She never suggested that while we were dating for over 3 years.

  90. Peter says:

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  91. veemodz says:

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  92. Yoshi says:

    My boyfriend has a 2 year old son with his ex-girlfriend. He pay’s her child support every month, and he is supposed to him every other weekend. But sometimes the ex won’t let my boyfriend have his son, if my bf has to work on one of the weekend days. Can she do this?

  93. Chris R says:

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  95. Scott W says:

    Curious to know if an abuser quickly moves on, if his ex girlfriend did not give into his pleading and begging to stay in the relationship. Also, if he wanted to marry her, though they dated for a short period. As all along he proclaimed that he loved her.
    Would he have forgotten his ex and moved on?
    The reason for the break up is of course his horrible behaviour.
    Pearl and Happy-2 the reason I ask, is because its difficult for the victim to forget the abuse and one is extra cautious to move on.

  96. Only Business says:

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  97. llb443 says:

    me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago cuz shes movin out of town and will come back next year and i wanted to right something to her is this too much that she will fink im over react or she will like it?

    I Was Sitting Home Just Wishing We Could Go Back To When It Was Just You And Me And Sorry For The Things That I Did Not Say, Like How You Were The Best Thing In My Life
    And How I Was So Proud To Call You My Girl.Your Personality Is Just Perfect, Friendly, Nice And Caring
    The Kinda Girl That I Would Love To Be With Me And Its Imposible To Find One That Its Better Then You.

    So, Wherever You Go And
    Whatever You Do,
    I Will Be Right Here Waiting For You. And So You Know That With Just Smile And Your Cute Voice You Could Change Everything? When Im Sad You Could Make Me Happy Within A Second Just With Smile? And The Time When Im Mad At You You Can Turn Me From Mad To Normal Again Just By Hearing You Saying I Love You? Now You See How Much You Are Mean To Me.

    I Keep Wishing Tomorrow Was Yesterday, Because I Dont Want You To Go. You’re My Everything And I Want You To Be Mine Forever. But Then I Relize That You Have To Go And You Dont Have A Choice And I Will Wait Right Here Patiently Just For You. When You Come Back I Want To See That You Still In Love Me And Still Want To Be My Little Beautiful Baby Like The One I Used To Have. I Still Remember Everything That We’ve Talked About. We Had Our Whole Lives Planned Out Together And Now All I Can Do Is Hoping That Some Day It Will Come True For Me And You Because I Cant Imagined My Life With Someone Else But You.

    But Now Everytime I Look At My Cell Phone It Reminds Me Of You Cause I Used To TxT You From It And I Have You As My Wallpaper Because You Are The Only One Who Could Cheer Me Up When Im Feeling Down, Everytime I Go To My Backyard It Reminds Me Of You Because I Used To Sit Down And Call You There WhiIe Looking At The Stars Wishing We Will Last Forever,Everytime I Lye On My Bed It Reminds Me Of You Because I Used To Talk To You On My Bed Till The Mornings Now You See Everything I Do Reminds Me Of You.When Im With Some Other Girls All I Think Bout Is You. And Now I Really Miss Your Good Morning And Good Night Calls, I Miss Your Voice, I Miss Your Cute Voice In The Morning When You Just Wake Up, I Miss Calling You, I Miss The Way You Say I Love You And Its Driving Me Crazy Since You Are Gone. I Love The Way You Kiss Me, I Love The Way You Hug Me In My Dream And Yes You Are My Permanent Visitor And Untill Now I Still Dream About You Everynight And I Wish Those Dreams Are True.

    And Baby I Love The Way You Make My World Go Round And I Just Wanted To Say That I Still Love You And I Miss You So Much.It Is Very Hard To Let Go Of Someone Who You Really LoveD,Because You Know That No One Ever Could Replace Her From Your Heart, But It Have Been Weeks Since You Are Gone And I Still Cant Get Over Us. And I Know It Will Be Impossible For Me To Get Over Us, Because You Know I Still And Always Will Love You And You No One Could Ever Change That. </3 But Now All I Can Do Is Sit Alone And Remember The Good & Beautiful Memory We Had Together And The Sweet Thing You Used To Say To Me Because Now You Are Gone But You Know Whats Funny? Even Tho Sometimes You Can Really Hurt Me But For Some Reason My Heart Just Cant Stop Loving You Doesnt Matter How Much You Hurt Me I Will Still Love You.

  98. Johnky J says:

    In November of 2008, I met the greatest thing that ever happened to me. My ex girlfriend and I met online and fell in love instantly. We had a great relationship. We were different people, and because of that we had our bumps in the road, but nothing serious. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked dinner for her, bought dinner, opened doors for her, bought her roses on occasion(Orange because that’s her favorite color) helped her financially if she needed it, bought her cards and wrote her letters on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. I didn’t go a day without telling her that I loved her. She did a lot of favors in return for me as well. She has had a troubled past with guys and because of that she was very insecure. I always reassured her I was not going to leave and promised her one day I would ask her to marry me. I kept that promise throughout our relationship and planned to give her a promise ring on our six month anniversary.

    She went to a Mardis Gras parade that year in February and ended up flashing a guy just to use his bathroom. I was hurt really bad for what she did. She begged me not to leave her and I gave in. We argued about it for a few days, but were quickly over the fact.

    About five, six months into our relationship she met a new guy at her work. I was fine with it due to the fact she had several guy friends. I began to get insecure when he started offering to pay her bills, and would always take her out for dinner or breakfast. I told her whatever was going on HAD to stop. I immediately received the “jealous and insecure” label. Arguments and fights began to break out. She was beginning to do things behind my back and was “sneaky” about him. The arguments grew and I began to say things that I regret saying. She ended up cheating on me and leaving me for him.

    I was devastated for months. She wanted to be friends still, but i denied her every time. I began to move on and see other women, but they continually played mind games and I dropped them. A few months ago I realized that I still loved her and wasn’t over her. I took her off of my facebook and my phone as well. About a month ago she messaged me on facebook wondering why I took her off and wanted to be friends again. I gave in.

    She informed me that her relationship with low life she left me for didn’t last long at all. He ended up cheating on her several times and dropped her with an apartment she can’t afford alone. We went out one night to a hockey game and for drinks and had a good time. I eventually got emotional with her and told her I missed being with her. She told me that she was really sorry for what she had done and feels like a horrible person. She told me that we were different people, and that’s why she didn’t believe that we would work. We both were in tears and I left her place that night drenched in them.

    I realized I was falling in love with her all over again. I sent her a card for Valentines Day with a heart felt note and a $300 check to help her out. When she received it she was in disbelief and thanked me. We would talk off and on for a few weeks with small conversations.She drove out to her friends house just so she could wish me a happy birthday because her phone was turned off due to delinquency. I didn’t get her text until she left her friends. She used the money I gave her to re activate her account and called me and wished me a happy birthday again. I thought it was really sweet of her. We decided to go out to dinner a couple nights ago. We stayed for two hours as the staff practically had to kick us out. I hugged her and we both kissed each other on our cheeks and I told her that we were still meant for each other. She sighed and said, “I know..” I told her that we just have to work harder on a few things and we could make things work. She admitted that she was a “*****” and that I deserved better. I told her I still loved her I wanted to make things work again. Throughout our relationship I did tend to get moody or tired. I discovered it was a combination of hypoglycemia and a testosterone in balance due anabolic supplements I used to take for weight lifting. I told her I was sorry for that and I was getting treated. She said that it was okay and that it wasn’t my fault. She did tell me that she thought we could possibly be together in the future, but not now. She wasn’t ready for anyone because she wasn’t over what she did to me, or what her ex did to her that she left me for. I told her that I wasn’t ready either, but when we were both ready I would give our relationship a shot. She considered as I walked her back to her car and we kissed each other again and said goodnight.

    I’ve tried moving on so much.. but I can’t. I do truly love her. I still think about her constantly and my chest burns when I do. I can’t imagine a future without her. I really need more advice. Ladies..what do you think? Thanks for time!

  99. soccermaster1 says:

    This happens every time we break up, the ex comes back into the picture. My girlfriend says there is nothing wrong. I know (or should I say I guess) my girlfriend doesn’t want her because every break up she comes back to me, but I think something fishy is going on. I want to talk to the ex as a true woman, (I have a very bad temper and my girlfriend knows this) even though we have had A lot of words.

  100. crzyinluv says:

    My friend is worried to death because his ex girlfriend is trying to change their one year old daughters name without his permission. He is a good father the ex girlfriend and him just dont get along. His name is on her birth certificate, so does this mean it will be that easy for her to just change their daughters last name? Is there anything my friend can do?

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  102. Dr Dorian says:

    If you ex girlfriend trys to make you jealous does that mean she still likes you?
    i broke up with her 4 times ( i know that was stupid) i was gonna do it a 5th time but we talked it out but the next day she ended it.

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    How kind words.. Say thanks a ton to make me mindful of what I do, and generating me appriciate it.

  106. Stevalicious says:

    Ok, so I started dating this guy. He is 33 years old, I am 23. Before you jump on the age difference, let me say this: I gave up dating 20-somethings a long time ago b/c I’ve found that I have very little in common with them. (I’m a stockbroker, I own my own home, have two paid off vehicles, property taxes to pay, etc.) I just got tired of the stupid discussions with these young guys that think they know something at the ripe old age of 25. There’s nothing I can learn from them b/c they haven’t experienced anything…Anyway, I’ve had better luck dating around in the more mature, but still fun and trendy 30-36 age group.

    So, I have been going to this hotel bar for a few years now and never really noticed the bartender until a few weeks ago. He would always ask me when I was coming back in and eventually, it became a regular thing. I would come in, then go with him and the rest of the crew down the street for after-work drinks. I got to know everybody pretty well, including him.

    Things started to get a little more serious between us and we began dating. Then we started having sex and it has been amazing! He is the most awesome, sweet, considerate, attentive guy. He has a couple of degrees, two black belts and is completely happy being a bartender b/c of the freedom it gives him…something I envy after being cooped up in an office for a few years in finance. We have had the most amazing conversations and get along really well.

    BUT, the longer I’ve hung out with him, the more I’ve realized his flaw…he has a drinking problem. I was once a bartender so I can relate. You tend to drink more than the average Joe. I wouldn’t say he’s an alcoholic, but it’s just that no matter where we go, he ends up having almost one-too-many drinks. When he gets drunk, all that sexy confidence and charisma goes right out the window. He becomes this needy, clingy, annoying person and I can’t stand it!

    I recently went out of town on a Friday to attend an event that meant a lot to me. I returned home on Monday afternoon. He drank Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday night. Sunday night, he got absolutely wasted and called his ex girlfriend over to his apartment. He texted me before he did it, asking me if it was ok if he talked to her. I was asleep and didn’t get the message in a timely fashion. When I woke up, I asked him why and later asked again if everything was ok, thinking that maybe something had happened to her. He said, “alls good.” I said, “Well, nice of you to be sooo forthcoming with information while your ex is at your house when I’m out of state.”After that, he called me an swore that nothing had happened, that he called her over b/c he wanted to tell her about “us.”

    After a few confusing, drunken versions of what actually transpired, he said that she came over, they sat outside and had a drink, he told her about me, she got upset and then left. He said he broke up with her 3 months ago after having been with her for a year or something and that she still wanted to date him but that he wasn’t interested in her anymore. (They broke up and were f**k buddies for awhile afterward. 3 months ago, he called it off.) It sounded like he wanted to tell her so she’d get the picture and quit bugging him…but this could have been easily accomplished over the phone!

    Now, he doesn’t seem like a liar…he’s a very sweet natured guy, which is nice for a change…but this TOTALLY changes my opinion of him. He could be telling the truth or he could not. I’ll never know. Why would he do this so soon? It completely destroys the trust we were building between each other. Am I supposed to just blindly believe him that nothing happened or that he doesn’t have any feelings for her? When I ask him that, he says I should believe him b/c he’s telling the truth. Whatever! Now what do I do?

    I like him a lot, but this is a really crappy thing to do.
    Coey, It’s a hotel…I used to go there for pool parties since I was 18 which makes it 5 years, which qualifies as “a few.” You don’t have to be rude.

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  110. colingrillo says:

    We’ve been married 9 years, with two kids. I’ve caught him once on the computer talking to a woman, and he told her I was his ex girlfriend in a picture he sent her. Then, when I was 9 months pregnant, he went on a business trip to NY and went to a massage parlor… if you know what I mean. He lies at work, and has never provided health insurance, or had a 401k when he’s had plenty of opportunity to do so. I’ve stayed at home with our kids, but now I’m starting to realize that unless I get out there and do something for myself, I will have nothing to my name when I grow old! He depends on his father for everything, and just last week quit ANOTHER job because he just didn’t like it, and went back to his daddy’s company.
    My parents are not speaking to him. They’ve watched him for the last decade and kept quiet, but now they said they’ve had enough of me living like this and they want to help me leave him.
    UPDATE… we’ve been separated now for 2 months. I’ve been to a therapist, who’s helped me alot. The kids are doing very well. He goes back and forth between giving me ultimatums, and manipulating, to being super sweet and promising me the world. He says he has done a 180, and if I come back he will be the perfect husband. He wants us to go to a Christian counselor together… which I don’t really feel comfortable doing, because divorce is generally not an option to them.
    I don’t want to waste another decade on him, because I’ve heard so many times that people just don’t change. Maybe for a while, but when things get comfortable again they go right back to their old ways.
    I’m never excited to see him, and the thought of being intimate with him ever again makes me sick to my stomach.

    * 15 hours ago
    * – 3 days left to answer.

    Additional Details
    Yes, the last sentence kinda says it all. HE says that with time, I will come to have those feelings again, and that God will love him thru me. Like the Holy Spirit will allow me to see him romantically again…

    15 hours ago
    I’m 31, he’s 33.

    15 hours ago

  111. maskills24 says:

    My ex girlfriend did around $2000 in damage to my current girlfriends car. There were witnesses. They already went to a clerks hearing where they found probable cause and the next court date is in 1-2 weeks. Today her new boyfriend called me asking if he can pay the amount to settle the court case. He has offered to pay $1800 cash and wants to take a video of us accepting the money. What should we do?

  112. JimT says:

    I don’t know if this is true so could someone tell me

    1. Do not cheat on a girl. We girls talk, we WILL know, and we WILL find out, and we WILL dump you!

    2. Be aware of all your girlfriends’ guy friends, brothers, fathers, or anything. They are protective. Every single male friend we have will kick your ass if you end up hurting her.

    3. Never ever miss an opportunity to tell her that she’s beautiful. We girls love that.

    4. If she slapped you hard, you probably deserved it.

    5. Do not be afraid of holding her. If she’s going out with you in the first place, it’s obvious that she likes you and wants to be in your arms.

    6. Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend — a stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts or hoodie’s, and a really pretty piece of jewelry.

    7. Make sure she gets home safely as often as you can. If you’re dropping her off, walk her to the door. If you aren’t dropping her off, call to be sure she’s home safely. We think that’s really cute and sweet.

    8. If a guy is bothering your girlfriend, it is your right to beat the sh!t out of him.

    9. If you’re talking to a female friend of yours, pull your girlfriend closer. It’ll make her feel secure that you love her more than the other girl.

    10. Never ever slap her, even if it’s just in a joking way. Even if she swats you first, and says, “Oh, you’re so dumb” or something, never make any gestures back.

    11. Go along with her to a chick flick once in a while. She doesn’t care whether you enjoy it or not, it just matters that you went with her.

    12. If you’re officially dating, and you’re introducing her to your friends, you’d better damn well introduce her as your girlfriend. Or else.

    13. Girls are fragile. Even if you’re play fighting/wrestling, be very gentle. Let her win once in a while.

    14. Memorize your girlfriend’s birthday. You forget her birthday and you’re basically screwed for life. Not gonna lie.

    15. Don’t drench yourself in the cologne, but smell good.

    16. You don’t have to spend a million dollars on the Birthday/Christmas/Valentine gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive, or cost anything but it has to be meaningful.

    17. Don’t ever lie to us; we always find out.

    18. Don’t say you understand when you don’t. That’s bad.

    19. Remember: Girls are pretty, but yours is the Prettiest!

    20. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; but doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

    21. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want relationships.

    22. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe. Don’t bother trying to convince us otherwise, that is a bad idea

    23. It’s good to be sensitive, to a point.

    24. If you did something wrong, apologize. Even if you didn’t, do it anyway.

    25. You did something bad. I seem cool with it. I’m not. (See directly above.)

    26. We are self-conscious by nature; we can’t help it. Let it be.

    27. We don’t shave our legs every day so just get over it.

    28. Shave your face, no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache looks, we probably hate it. We like you clean shaven.

    29. Show off a little, we think it’s cute.

    30. You are our boyfriend, our man, our protector, whether you know it or not, you are; act like it.

    31. You are cute in raglan-sleeved T-shirts (two-toned baseball undershirts).

    32. We love it when you hug us from behind and whisper in our ear.

    33. “Fine” is NEVER an appropriate response when I ask you how I look.

    34. Most of the time when I fantasize, it’s about you. Don’t obsess over that.

    35. I expect you to call me. If you don’t, you go down.

    36. I’m more forgiving of you than I really should be. Don’t you dare take advantage of that.

    37. When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

    38. You look hot in hooded clothing items. Always.

    39. You should never tell a girl what to do. Ever.

    40. Any decent man will ask a girl out to her face. I mean; if you aren’t man enough to ask us out to our face, who says youre gonna be man enough to our boyfriend at all.

    41. Girls are very impressed when you ask them for advice. Unless its about another girl.

    42. I’m unimpressed with a man who doesn’t take the lead.

    43. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.

    44. You’re sexy when you’re shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, eating a peach, holding a baby.

    45. Girls need to hear how you feel about them. Often. Tell her now.

    46. A girl wants to be the best thing that ever happened to you–and for you to recognize this and tell her.

    47. If she’s not feeling loved, she will start looking….

    48. We like it when you tell us what you’re thinking, even if you don’t know yourself. It’s cute.

    49. It’s cheating as soon as you’re doing something with her that you wouldn’t want me to see, hear, read…

    50. For the record: I’d rather you break up with me than ch

  113. Gamer959 says:

    i cant seem to forget about my ex girlfriend even tho im going out with a new girlfriend now.

    its been a year and half since me and my ex girlfriend dated and i still cant get her out my mind.

  114. HASTHEANSWERS says:

    So I have this ex girlfriend and I kind of still have feelings for her what dose this mean?

  115. Smashing Pumpkins says:

    Ladies and Gents, thanks for taking time to read my question, here we go. I am 36, educated, business owner, I like to think I am a nice guy and I can defiantly make a girl laugh ;)

    I was in a relationship with a 29 year old girl for 2 years before we took some time off from each other in Feb on 2012. Even though; we were supposed to have time off, we were still in contact few times a week and hangout once every 2 weeks ( with no benefits I might add, and that was my choice not to complicate things). She was a sweet girl, loyal and cute, however; the reason that prompt me to walk away from her was her temper! She laid her hand on me a few times during arguments and for me that was unacceptable. But she would apologize and cry and beg me for forgiveness for slapping me or scratching, cussing ect… For me this was a very heartbreaking experience, because it really hurt me to see her being in that state and really seeing her being sincere about her emotions afterwards, so I would take her back.

    After a little digging I found out that she was a victim of domestic abuse by her older brother, he used to hit her, belittle her and get away with it. The parents always took his side because he was the first born boy and in that culture that’s how things are. So, me knowing this, I could not leave her because I felt she was a victim herself.. I was confused, hurt and didn’t know what to do. I wanted nothing but to help her, rescue her and make her happy, but the cost was my happiness…

    I tried taking her to some classes for anger management and some therapy but nothing helped and every time we argued, she would get extremely aggressive and if I didn’t leave the house or just keep my cool or my mouth shut, then she would attempt to attack or cuss at me or act out one-way or other..

    Finally I told her in Feb of this year that I need some time off to think about what I need to do and now 7 months later, we are at cross roads. We both have been dating people here and there but it seems like we can’t let go of each other..

    I have been dating a very nice girl for the past few weeks and its getting to a point that I have to make a decision. Either stop all contact with my ex and move forward with this girl ( which is very difficult for me ) or get back together with my ex and work on our relationship ( which I am scared that the past would repeat itself )

    My ex has acknowledged that she has anger issues and is willing to do what she can to confront it. ( she says that this is the first time she has laid her hand on anyone, and I push her to that point ) I don’t know if that’s true or not, but it is what it is..

    So should I let go of 2 years of history and turn my back on her or should I get back and help, which might come with a big price tag.. Emotionally I am confused as to what to do.. I do miss my ex and I know with one phone call I can be with her but I don’t know if I am making the right move.

    Your feedback is greatly appreciated 

  116. Mak Sultan says:

    I’ve known my boyfriend for five months, and dated him for three months. I always thought since I meet him he was a person with intergrity and honestly. I felt that I could give up my trust issues, and really give him my trust. The first shady thing I noticed was that that he has been ”hanging out’ with his ex girlfriend a lot. And because I trust him I would generally write it off as an innocent meeting because other people where there. However, I noticed he brought up how she was making out with another guy and it seemed as though this bothered him or he was jealous they way he conveyed the situation. And he said when we first met that he was madly in love with her, but she cheated on him. Which makes me wonder if he still has feelings for her, then I hear that he said if he was given the chance that he would go back with her. When I asked him about this he didn’t deny saying it he told me, ” i love you and your amazing.” The second shady thing is that he constantly hangs out with this girl hanna and she flirts with him right in front of me, and then I found out they’ve been “hanging out” alot alone. The final straw that has put me in tears is that he recently went on vacation and didn’t ask me to go which i didn’t mind, and just tonight he was texting me saying he was at the beach and his bestfriend mike was texting me at the same time telling me that they were at hooters and he was watching the girls shake there ass’s and letting them sit on his lap and give him kisses. When i asked him about it he was like no i wasn’t there, and then about two hours later he slipped up when i said i was hungry and going to get some food. In which he replied by saying i’m not the wings i got a hooters where amazing. And i was like why’d you lie about being there and he simply said “lol (;” so i stopped texting him.

    The hard part about this is that i really let him in and i fell love with him, and he sweet talks me and i don’t no if he means it or not. But lately all he wants is to sexual things, and i don’t want to give him up because he’s my first love…so am i over reacting or not…btw he’s 16 and so am i.

  117. ScRSC says:

    I wouldn’t like it, because I feel that he still has feelings for the ex girlfriend. I would tell him to stop seeing her, because I don’t want no ex girlfriend to interfere in my relationship. I will give my boyfriend an ultmatium which is its either me or the ex girlfriend.

  118. opurt says:

    My ex and I were together for about 2 years during high school. I graduated in June and am currently in college. So, I am a freshman in college. She is a junior in high school. When we were together, everything seemed perfect. Everything we did was a lot of fun. She would always promise me that she only wanted me. We promised forever and all things of that nature. Totally head over heels for each other. I can honestly say that we were in love with each other. As much as you could be in high school anyway.

    In October, she decided to end the relationship. She said that she just wanted to experience high school. The reasoning was fine. The aftermath is what bothers me. She has provided a lot of false hope to me since we have been apart. She has told me that she would come visit me at school..never happened. She wanted to go to NYC one weekend with me..never happened. We had plans to get together during Thanksgiving and my current Christmas break. She hasn’t followed through with them. She hasn’t even been able to sit down and talk with me. I guess you can call it immaturity.

    She has a new boyfriend now. He is ugly as mud, big pothead apparently, and doesn’t even go to the same high school. I really don’t think she cares that much about him. She has said that she just “has him wrapped around her finger”.

    So basically, this sweet, loving, innocent girl that I knew when we dated is gone. All she wants to do now is go out and party. She says she goes to all of these parties and sneaks out of the house at night. I really don’t know if she does or not, but I’m not really a big partier. I know that most people go through that high school party phase. I didn’t go through it because I just never got caught up in that stuff because I had her and my sports that kept me busy.

    She has told me that she doesn’t want anything serious, the distance is too hard for her (I’m 2 hours away from home), and she just wants to move on. I’m having difficulty accepting this. To a degree, I think it’s her rebellious side talking. However, when we were together, we only really hung out together. Never really hung out with our friends. I have said to her that, that was something we need to talk about. The longest I’ve gone NC for was about 2 weeks, until I broke it and responded to one of her texts.

    My question: She seems to be rebelling. I know that nothing will happen in the immediate future. She was such a special person, but she has drastically changed. Do I have any hope for this phase to end and for us to potentially reconcile? What do you think?
    Some positive aspects of my situation: My birthday is in early Dec, she called me at 12 AM to be the first to say happy birthday. My string of No Contact ended after 2 weeks last Friday. I went back to my high school for this college seminar thing. She was in attendance. She didn’t say anything to me afterwards. She did text me afterwards and things of that nature. Even that night, she texted me asking if I was working because her and her dad stopped by to see me. Her parents absolutely adore me and want us to get back together.

    Saturday night, I texted her asking if she had a boyfriend. She said yeah. I said, Oh. And she said, ANd you care? I said: Your personal life is none of my business anymore. I wish you guys luck. You’ve moved on and so have I. *I lied*

    Sunday Night,she IMs me about coming over to get my old hoodie.I told her to just keep it and she told me that she wears it sometimes. Thoughts?

  119. hank baseballs says:

    Dear all
    My ex girl friend of 2 months left me a few days ago saying that she did not have romantic feelings towards me anymore and did not believe in ‘us’. She told me that I was a great guy and a sweet boyfriend who tried to keep her happy but that I did not deserve her and I could do better and meet someone who actually loved me. I love her a lot and this news left me heart broken and dejected. Also additional pressure from due to my final semester at uni (engineering degree) and coming with bad grades is all driving me nuts. I think I’ll lose all motivation and confidence in myself and life and I don’t know what to do.

    I’ll tell you more about my relationship with her. We met each other about more than 3 months back and there was an immediate sense of attraction. We both loved to spend time with each other and both of us opened up. She’s really the quite type but she always talked to me and whenever I was she wanted to be there as well. I also felt a sense of attraction and seeing the way things were going I asked her out 2 months back and she said yes. There was a lot of love that we shared for more than a month and it was the best thing that had happened to me for years. She never had a relationship before and maybe we rushed things a little such as making out, holding hands in public (I’m the real affectionate type) and all but in spite of all that she still loved me and wanted to be with me. And at times she’d hold my hand in public. She even said that she trusted me the most.

    Suddenly during exam time (4 weeks back) she started to act slightly differently. She didn’t want to spend time with me more and more and when we were together she wanted to be alone and would go for long solitary walks and would listen to music on her ipod. Although she was nice to me and all but there was something different. I confronted her with this (after exams had finished) and then she told me that she had lost all feelings for me. She couldn’t feel the relationship and did not feel a romantic connection. She was crying the whole time and said she felt bad but people break up and that’s how life goes on. We had a really emotional confrontation and I might have had said some depressing stuff but I guess that’s how all sudden break ups take place. She said that she cared for me deeply but couldn’t be in a relationship she didn’t believe in. I told her to give it time and she’ll fall in love with me again and if she broke it then she might regret it later. But she did not listen. So we parted ways. I am her first love and I am 21 and she’s 20.

    So far after breaking up, we’ve met once but I didn’t talk to her at all, we made eye contact and we could see the sadness inside each other but that was all. I haven’t called her or texted/called her or asked mutual friends to do the talking or even followed her around (accidental meetings). I intend to keep it that way for a long time. Though she has some of my stuff I haven’t asked them back. I want to maintain my distance and give her time and space. Do you think she’ll realise her feelings for me and come back considering I’m her first love? If not how do I get her back? What are the things that I should or shouldn’t do? How can I move on?

    Any advise will be greatly appreciated. Thank you all for your help and sorry for the long question.
    Forgot to add? I also want to ask how girls feel the first time they are in a relationship. Do they doubt it at some stage and then come back to it again? Will she do the same? She’s not the type of girl who’d go to another relationship quickly but she’s doing other things like church and all to get over me. How can anyone stop feeling? Do all women go through this stage?

  120. Johnky J says:

    Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like “just friends” and she said “so your over me?” so i answered with “isn’t that what you wanted: and she said “i guess.” A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didn’t. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said “yes, that’s fine” She has been gon for just about a week now and came back on sunday night. So she came back and we talked a little bit on monday and she brought up that she hadnt forgotten about what i asked her about talking when she gets back, but it was really late and we both called it a night. Tuesday night we started talking seriously and she was very cautious about getting back together and she asked me some questions just to see if i was still really crazy and nuts about spending time with her like i used to be and i did very well with the questions she asked and finnaly she said “lets take it slow” i didnt know what that meant so she explained it like this “im busy this friday night and saturday night with a sweet 16 and another family thing and next weekend she is going to a concert on friday and and saturday she has another sweet 16 to attend to but that one weekend night if were both free we can hang out or something. She also said she wanted to start talking alot more and stuff because she doesnt like the non contact thats weve been having and she just wants to take it slow. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and i feel like things are beggining to unfold and work out for me, oh she also felt this obligation to tell me that she made a mistake and hooked up with another guy and fooled around with him a little bit but said that it felt really uncomfortable and not good, when she would always say how great i was at pleasuring her. So what does this all mean for me. I didnt get mad and told her that it was no problem and that if anything it helped me out because she didnt enjoy it, so i think/ hope that helped me also idk

    I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps :) Thank you

  121. Kaden says:

    Ok, I’ve been talking to a guy thats 2 years older than me for about a year now, I have kissed him on several occasions.. We talk frequently, but sometimes he doesn’t talk to me for about 5 days and leaves me wondering if I’ve done something wrong.. I’m not that sociable so I don’t tend to talk to him first, so I just wait for him to talk to me..
    He also flirts with a lot of other girls and I always see people talking to him on Facebook and being flirty ect. That gets me really jealous, but he always seems to come back flirting with me, as I am closest to him out of other girls, and he’s always telling me things he doesn’t tell other people and we have a lot in common.
    I also get along with his friends unlike any other girl he tends to talk to…

    Last night he rang me up and sang the song ‘I’m all out of love’ by Air Supply to me, that really confused me as he hadn’t talked to me in a few days and he did that out of the blue..
    We have also swapped jackets, he wears mine on his profile picture, I feel like he does that to make me think of him.. He texted me yesterday to tell me that he’d had his hair cut and sent me a picture, I replied with ‘your hair is sexy.’ And he replied with ‘Win.’ In other words, he was happy that I liked his hair..
    I would love to be in a relationship with him but I feel like he can do so much better, just by looking at his ex girlfriends.. Thats another thing, he told me that he doesn’t go for the prettiest girls, he goes for the good looking ones with the better personalities.. I dont know if that was a hint or he was trying to make himself look better..

    I’ve tried to get over him many many times, but he always manages to get me liking him again by doing sweet things and flirting with me :/ I’ve turned down other guys just because I’m not sure if I have a chance with this guy..
    I don’t want to ask him because I don’t want to ruin our friendship and I know a girl that liked him and he didn’t like her back and they got really awkward after he told her..

    I just need an honest opinion on where people think I stand because I really don’t know any more

    Thank you.
    I forgot to add, he also gets jealous of other guys flirting with me..

  122. Big Banger says:

    Hi, Im Pablo and Im 18!

    well Im usually the guy who types in the questions on google and see if anyone has the same problemo as me but now its gotten too complicated that I NEED TO BE THE ONE TO ASK THE QUESTION!!!

    Lol right heres the story mornin glory,
    I have been with my well “ex” girl friend for 2 years now
    we had a great time during out relationship but we did fight a lot
    mostly my fault cause I always made the stupid mistakes….
    I admitted my faults though and aplologized.
    The thing was I got to a stage were sorry meant nothing anymore…
    I messed up a million times and this girl was an absolute angel about everything we both hurt during the process butwe made up and she gave me loads of chances.

    A week before christmas she ended up breaking up with me cause I was texting these 2 girls from my school and she didnt like this though her being a hypocrit done the same thing a while back with this guy I never knew and he had the audacity to say stuff like hey sexy…giving her all the compliments of the day, which in turn made me feel like I failed as a bf.

    right to get back to the point we fought about this and there was tears shed..obv so a week before christmas she left me, completely devistated as you would be. She said things are complicated at the moment and I have tests to study for…since she is going to uni she needs to pass these and she has 5 of them!!!! :O

    Sweet…I gave her a bitta time, christmas day came I give her, her present which I had recently got for her a while ago and she gave me one to me…Now this girl knows I am madly in love with her but a thing I only twigged onto is that a week before christmas while we were broken up she went with some random guy at a party which hurt…. to think she got over me so quickly.. so In anger I text a person who played a key role in one of the fights we had a while back and brought her into the situation and said some stupid stuff which I shouldnt have…(omg its so hard to do this without cursing) and she was angry at that for a bit but she should have understood that I was still hurt and she is still holding this against me…sorry I keep straying off the point. Christmas night arrives and we talk then she ends up kissing me…passionatly and says stuff like this has been so hard I love you soo much and I miss you with all my heart.. obv this was hard for me to deal with after because she is sending me complete mixed signals?
    Now im here and this week has been hard because I phoned her a few times this week
    and basically made a complete cock of myself…saying stuff like your my world I dunno what I would do without you, your the sun to my moon and sayin how much I miss her and how miserable Iv been without her…hoping for the same reaction back..
    NO WAY!!! Completely wrong
    her answers were “yea, I know” and then tonight I finished having a convo with her on the phone (this time not being tipsy) and she brought up the whole situation of me texting this girl the week before christmas when she got off with that guy and looming it over my head again…
    It is so annoying and then I said well look I cant wait to see you after these tests are over.. and she said…well come to think of it she said nothing and I said at least we have some potential and she said yea…but very little.. and my heart just dropped!!!
    I feel so bad now I said night night I love you…and she said yea I know.
    Im living in hope which I probably shouldnt be but love has made me into this person Im not I feel like Im being led on and she is being okay with me waitin at the side lines waiting for her call…
    I dont know what to do!!!! Its so hard I wanna just leave it and move on but I seriously cant!!!!
    This girl is the love of my life and I need her but I feel like a puppy dogg and its not good she is saying she loves me and cares for me but she cant do it right now because she needs to focus on more important things and she also admits to not bieng bothered aswell by the fact that im suffering but I “THINK” she is lying and she does care.. someone please help me…….

  123. Jamal says:

    We’ve been married 9 years, with two kids. I’ve caught him once on the computer talking to a woman, and he told her I was his ex girlfriend in a picture he sent her. Then, when I was 9 months pregnant, he went on a business trip to NY and went to a massage parlor… if you know what I mean. He lies at work, and has never provided health insurance, or had a 401k when he’s had plenty of opportunity to do so. I’ve stayed at home with our kids, but now I’m starting to realize that unless I get out there and do something for myself, I will have nothing to my name when I grow old! He depends on his father for everything, and just last week quit ANOTHER job because he just didn’t like it, and went back to his daddy’s company.
    My parents are not speaking to him. They’ve watched him for the last decade and kept quiet, but now they said they’ve had enough of me living like this and they want to help me leave him.
    UPDATE… we’ve been separated now for 2 months. I’ve been to a therapist, who’s helped me alot. The kids are doing very well. He goes back and forth between giving me ultimatums, and manipulating, to being super sweet and promising me the world. He says he has done a 180, and if I come back he will be the perfect husband. He wants us to go to a Christian counselor together… which I don’t really feel comfortable doing, because divorce is generally not an option to them.
    I don’t want to waste another decade on him, because I’ve heard so many times that people just don’t change. Maybe for a while, but when things get comfortable again they go right back to their old ways.
    I’m never excited to see him, and the thought of being intimate with him ever again makes me sick to my stomach.
    UPDATE!! Get this… now he’s got a profile on MATCH.COM!!! fred77566 look it up!!! LOL!!!!
    Additional Details
    Yes, the last sentence kinda says it all. HE says that with time, I will come to have those feelings again, and that God will love him thru me. Like the Holy Spirit will allow me to see him romantically again…

    I’m 31, he’s 33.

  124. white man says:

    My boyfriend is different lately to me. We’ve been dating for more than 2+ years and everything was fine until he started to talk to his ex girlfriend again. They have classes together, talked online more,they walked home together, hanged out together afterschool, also they live like right next door to each other, and he changed his FB photo to him and her. Should I be worry? Or Should I just ignore it?

  125. lucasg615 says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend broke up like a month ago and we stopped talking for about two weeks then she texted me and is always wanting to know everything going on in my life but doesn’t want to share what’s going on in her.. I still love her but knowing she like another guy and doesn’t have feelings for me anymore hurts and was wondering how I could stop talking to her? I just can’t stop.. Is there something I can do to make it easier?

  126. baldy eire says:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me after months of dating, but unfortunately, she didn’t give me the respect of actually being faithful. I did everything for this girl and she treats me like that by cheating on me with 6 different guys behind my back. Instead of destroying her car and making her life a living hell, I just want to listen to some music that’ll help me get over her. Any ideas?
    I’m also a big rock fan

  127. The Beatles says:

    I’ve recently come out of a long-term relationship. One of the things my now ex-girlfriend told me was that while in the begin she liked my “mysteriousness”, after a couple of years she didn’t find that this was the case any longer. So I’m wondering what it is that girls like about mysterious men, and any ways people know of to ensure that, when I’m ready for a new relationship, I can maintain this quality for a while. Cheers in advance =)

  128. Mak Sultan says:

    Well I was recently in a relationship with this one girl, but we broke up.
    I liked her, infact i would put that i loved her. But things don’t always go as you plan them. :/ Anyways, Are there any ways i can get over her? By the way im a guy. So this mostly goes out to the guys out there who know how to get over ex-girlfriends.

  129. Lachlan says:

    what do you do to get over a ex girlfriend or boyfriend?

  130. MAK & CHEESE says:

    Everything seemed fine. We never argued and always enjoyed each others company. He would always comment how happy I made him feel. He then had to have a series of health checks because he felt dizzy and collapsed at work. He hasn’t been allowed to work since.
    He told me that he needed space and time to sort his head out, so I granted that, only to find that he was back with his ex girlfriend! He was unhappy in that relationship, so why did he go back to her and leave me?

  131. evil chevy says:

    The Dancer

    13 long years
    After my break up with my Ex-girlfriend.
    I thought we were going to be together forever
    looking and searching.
    There were a few girls but they all had the same comon thing.
    A boyfriend
    Some were speical
    Some don’t know what the hell they were doing.
    13 long lonely years.
    Then one day, I found this place.
    Lots of beautiful girls
    A special dancer caught my eye
    Long beautiful brown hair flowing like a high water fall
    Bronze shiny skin
    Beautiful puffy lips
    She takes a special intrest in me
    She cries on my shoulder
    I want to take care of her
    I adore her
    She makes me happy again
    She could be the one.

  132. skychi99 says:

    I’m snowed in so I need something to do to pass my time. What are the names of some movies which plot consist of a girl who is a underdog/ geek and people treat her badly and by the end of the story she gets rich or her dream guy or the scchool she wants to get into?

  133. Armas says:

    I seem to always get the bad guys. They always have some nasty addiction, a need to have sex, or some crazy ex girlfriend trying to win him back. Either way, it NEVER works out. Im known as this sweet, good girl…so why am i getting the bad boys? Dont get me wrong, Im sorta into the bad boy thing, but not too those extremes. How can i find the good guys?

  134. stealspartansbcglobalnet says:

    As far as getting to know him and stuff? I know they take a while to crack, but how long is too long before they just lose interest?

  135. veemodz says:

    me and my ex have been broken up for almost 2 weeks, but still have feelings for eachother. we only broke up because her parents didnt want us dating (for reasons i dont need to get into). should i still get her something? and what should i get her?

  136. Joe T says:

    I have an ex girlfriend who talked to me today and said she was going to text me today. Any nice things I can say other than hi? I thought of saying hey ms. Sexy but that was kinda lame so remember that I still like her and she still likes me.

  137. Yoshi says:

    It drives me crazy when my ex-girlfriend talks to other guys..these two in particular.. you see we broke up when she decided she wasn’t ready for a relationship, and they way it ended there was hope of reconciliation, but now it scares me that in our time apart she could grow closer to someone else than me
    woah khusi!
    we’re too young for that and we were only together less than a month!

  138. Gundown64 says:

    Okay so I asked her and her friend to hang out with me and my friend later tonight. I said me and him were heading to her town and she said yes. We text a few more times and she says all her friends are still in slo(they were there last night) or busy. I don’t have my license to go to her town and i really wanna hang out with her what should I do!!

  139. llb443 says:

    My ex and I dated for 3 months and broke up in July. She told me she moved on but still talks to me all the time on text, phone and facetime. She still calls me cute and sweet and thinks im still nice. The reason we broke up was because I got stressed from other stuff but argued with her. I regret it now and I wish I didn’t do it. Today we hung out at curling and I hugged her and she let me. Also, she hates hugs but only reason I can get one is because I’m cute and special she said. Lately she has been sad and depressed from school and friends and I’ve been trying to help her and caring for her.

    So what are things I can do to help get her back into my arms? What are things I can say? Please help because I really want her back.

    P.S. I can’t drive, we don’t live by each other (So can’t go for walks) and she won’t let me take her out because she is depressed)

  140. mmminja says:

    My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago and we still talk just about every day. She is the one that calls me all the time. So what im asking is, is she still into me? What are some things that I could do to get her to come back to me?

  141. veemodz says:

    We’re in college. I started sitting next to her and we had two conversations. She smile, gave back more than one word answers, and responded with the same questions. But I started the two conversations though and we haven’t had any dialogue for the past week (class twice a week). The fact that she still sits next to me, is that a sign that she could like me? She could easily sit somewhere else if she wanted, the seat aren’t assigned.

  142. PIE BOY says:

    Me and my girlfriend were gonna go swimming in our pool but she doesn’t want to. Her cousin is here and she’s afraid of him. She’s afraid he’ll hurt her. He’s been hurting his ex girlfriend a lot and she’s about ready to break up with him. I don’t know what his problem is. Sometimes he’s really sweet and gentle and sometimes he’s really mean and abusive. She’s really afraid to get in the pool with him. She’s afraid he might try to hurt her. She really does want to go swimming but she’s afraid of him. How can I comfort her ? He’s about two years older than us.

  143. superdork says:

    I really love her and she says she loves me. We broke up because of distance and I can’t move there yet. I really want her back I dint feel the same without here. I’ve tried being sweet nice myself. And she still won’t get back together with me. Oh yeah she also has a new boyfriend.

  144. Erin says:

    Well me and my ex girlfriend got in a big fight because I said some things that I didn’t mean. Which i’m sure everyone does it in a relationship when you get mad… I hope? But anyway, I need an “I’m sorry” Poem please? Thanks :)

  145. Rishi says:

    I keep hearing around school from my friends about how my ex-girlfriend keeps talking the good things about me literally every week or couple days and personally I’m flattered to hear such things. How I am a really sweet, good and loving guy but then i heard she mentioned that i wasn’t the guy for her. What could or might be the real reason why she saying things like this? What’s your thought and opinion on this? Thanks for your answers!

  146. Michael says:

    My ex and I (Still good friends) broke up in July because I argued with her which I now regret. She says she doesn’t want to get back together. I’ve asked her almost every day which I regret doing. And yesterday I asked if we could maybe go to the movies for a date and he said “we’ll see.” She still talks to me all the time, calls me on the phone a lot and still video chats with me. Lately she has been depressed and in pain from curling and I’ve been trying to cheer her up and she will still talk to me and thinks it’s sweet. We have argued a lot when we were both stressed and every time we would talk again, she would tell me “last chance to be friends”… She told me this more than once. At curling on Monday and Wednesday we hung out together. On Monday she let me hug her even though she won’t let people hug her. I asked her if we could go on a date sometime and she said she will she depending on how we do. Also, Wednesday at curling she was shy to get a new key card so I went with her and when she got outside the office, I pushed her in (in a friendly way) and she was like “Nooo, ouuu” as in she liked it. She said that night that it was all dramatic. Also, a lot of times she tells me she wants to be alone for a while but sometimes will still talk to me for an extra hour. (she also thinks im cute, sweet, nice and more) and sometimes ill notice her staring at me

    What can I say and/or do to get her back as mine? She is really beautiful and sweet and I don’t want to give up yet. She is confused on stuff right now but I don’t want to wait until it’s too late to try to get her back.

    PS: We don’t go to the same school, we don’t live close enough to walk and hangout, I can’t drive and she has been too depressed to want to hang out right now. She was also the greatest thing that happened to me so please help. (Oh and curling is a sport)

  147. Vultre9 says:

    Sister– She’s my 13 year old twin. Girly.
    Brother– He’s 16 and hard to buy for.
    Mom– She doesn’t cook that much.
    Dad– Has a lot of money and we have a nanny but he is really a sweet guy.
    Veronica– Dads girlfriend/ex girlfriend who have been on and off for 6 years and was my nanny when I was like 6. She’s really close with me.
    Vilma– My nanny. She’s a sweetie piee.

  148. Mackenzie P says:

    Hi everyone, I have A Serious Question. And Looking for a few serious answers.

    Well, Im 19 turning 20. In Highschool everything was great! I was always pretty happy and had fun. As soon as highschool was over a series of events happenned. I Didnt get into any of the schools i wanted to go to. All my friends went off to colleges while i said back here and worked fulltime going to community college. I wasnt happy. But i was able to cope. Shortly after that My ex girlfriend cheated on me and ran off with a lesbian guy looking chick. I didnt do anything mind you i am a really sweet person… After this event i entered this weird state of mind… Short of felt like i lost it ALL. She was the last straw i guess. So I then lost my job grades slipped got kicked out of school. And I have no friends. Its all weird to me because i used to be a really cool guy who got all the girls and had tons of fun. But now all i do is stay home for months at a time. Literally i dont even go out side. HELP ME.

  149. Big Banger says:

    my girlfriend broke up with me recently for the reason i stated above. I really don’t understand. For a little background info:
    I’m in school and I try really hard to maintain my high grades and and so does she. We both knew school’s really important so we mutually agreed school would come before our relationship.

  150. easton j says:

    We broke up and she said she wants time and space. How long should I give her? and what can I do to show her that I will change and treat her the way she deserves to be treated? How can I show her that I really want her back?

  151. hank baseballs says:

    What is the most sweetest thing to say to my ex girlfriend to get her back? She still likes me and the reason we broke up is because I argued with her which I regret and I told her I’m sorry and she forgave me. I’ve tried a few things but what is something really sweet that will give her the feeling she had before?

  152. Dr Hank says:

    Let’s say my ex girlfriend broke up with me and I no longer can see her and I had bought a lot of things for her in the past and was so generous, would that be a waste to break up when I did all those favors for her?! I was such a generous and sweet guy and I felt like buying her dinner all the time was a waste of money because she doesn’t appreciate that! What could I get out of this?

  153. Noe R says:

    I just got back together with my ex girlfriend yesterday. We are both thirteen, and we dated for seven weeks before we broke up (Which was a really stupid reason).

    Now that we are together again, I wanted to do a few amazing things for her. What are some things I can do that will make her very happy to be with me again?

    I was going to kiss her, but we broke up. That is the first on my list, but I want to know other things I can do that will make he very happy.

    Thanks!

  154. Michael C says:

    They are sweet and fulfilling until people just loving one another.

    People change; but they forget to tell each other.

    The quality of love degrades over time.

    So why be a boyfriend and girlfriend which turns into
    ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend with bitter feelings in the end?

    We can’t be friends anymore because of our previous experiences.

    What is the point of having multiple boyfriends and girlfriends
    if we plan on settling for monogamous partnership?

  155. sarah w says:

    My girl for a year broke up with me. She talks about friendship but sometimes its as if she wants me back. I was just kissin on her the other day and she was bein super flirty with me. But she sticks to being friends cuz as she said I don’t wanna lose you. But anywayz my thing is this. What things will a girl do when she wants her ex back?

  156. Jeff says:

    my boyfriend and i have our 1 year anniversary coming up (not married, just a serious relationship) and i need creative ideas for a gift. Im working on a budget, and he prefers things that i make over things that i buy. We are both 18. Does anyone have any ideas? Something really creative and sweet. Thankyou :)

  157. Sir fliesalot says:

    Okay, so I really like this guy and he likes me too, but he’s a humongous flirt. He’s always talking to other girls, and even though he doesn’t say anything to me about them I see it on his facebook wall. He’s really sweet and he tells me I’m beautiful all the time, but I can’t help but think he’s saying the same things to other girls. We’ve never met face to face, but we’ve been talking everyday for a week. I don’t want to get really attached and end up getting played. What should I do?

  158. Kevin says:

    My ex-girlfriend and I are not seeing eye to eye. I made her some dinner 2 days ago and she was all over me, she thought it was the sweetest thing.

    I’m trying to make that impression again, but with a really legit meal. I had her move in temporaily until she was back on her feet and this is the last night she is staying with me. I want this to be special. Any suggestions? Recipes? Websites? Anything I will take in consideration except macaroni and cheese haha :)

  159. nathan says:

    My boyfriend and I have been together for about five months. I really like him and enjoy being with him but he’s not romantic..AT ALL! He’s very sweet though. He’s mentioned things he has done with ex-girlfriend that sound wonderful. I don’t know at what point in their relationship he did these things. Am i expecting to much to soon? How can I encourage him to be romantic with out planning things myself or flat out telling him i need more?

  160. Mc L says:

    We’ve been dating for a little bit and I want to right something really sweet and special in his yearbook. I’m horrible at writing things like that because i never know how to start them. If anyone has any ideas how i should start it that would be great. I was thinking about starting it with how we got through hard times before we dated( his ex- girlfriend was, a little crazy. haha) But i dont know how to start it! I want it to be 1 page long. 10 POINTS TO THE BEST ANSWER!
    thank you! :]

  161. Kristian says:

    My friend just got dumped by her boyfriend a month ago, and I like him a lot and he likes me a lot, and he is telling my brother he is going to ask me out. Somehow word got to her about it and she started getting really mad at me! He told me that he is not pressuring me to make a decision, but I really want to go out with him! He is so nice to me and sweet! What do I do?

  162. stealspartansbcglobalnet says:

    Soo , im starting to like this guy. Were talking and he says we should take things slow . Which i aceepted ‘ but his ex girlfriend is the problem . He doesnt know if they are geting back together. How can i tell him the way i feel and to forget about her??

  163. sam N says:

    What is the most sweetest thing to say to my ex girlfriend to get her back? She still likes me and the reason we broke up is because I argued with her which I regret and I told her I’m sorry and she forgave me. I’ve tried a few things but what is something really sweet that will give her the feeling she had before?

  164. Jason says:

    My girlfriend and I are so happy with each other and I just wanted to know of some cute little things to buy her just to show her that I care about her so much. I didn’t really take care of my ex girlfriend and I know better now that I need to show her how much she means to me. A part of this is to get her things occasionally. We are both 16 so I’m not looking to get her an extremely expensive jewelry item. What could I get her that she would smile and think is cute? Thanks.

  165. crzyinluv says:

    I am giving her back some CDs she left in my car. She did not talk to me for a little while, so I backed off and gave her some space. But recently she started talking to me again and being very sweet. I still have feelings for her and I don’t want to mess this up. What should I do?

  166. Michael says:

    My ex and I (Still good friends) broke up in July because I argued with her which I now regret. She says she doesn’t want to get back together. I’ve asked her almost every day which I regret doing. And yesterday I asked if we could maybe go to the movies for a date and she said “we’ll see.” She still talks to me all the time, calls me on the phone a lot and still video chats with me. Lately she has been depressed and in pain from curling and I’ve been trying to cheer her up and she will still talk to me and thinks it’s sweet. We have argued a lot when we were both stressed and every time we would talk again, she would tell me “last chance to be friends”… She told me this more than once. At curling on Monday and Wednesday we hung out together. On Monday she let me hug her even though she won’t let people hug her. I asked her if we could go on a date sometime and she said she will she depending on how we do. Also, Wednesday at curling she was shy to get a new key card so I went with her and when she got outside the office, I pushed her in (in a friendly way) and she was like “Nooo, ouuu” as in she liked it. She said that night that it was all dramatic. Also, a lot of times she tells me she wants to be alone for a while but sometimes will still talk to me for an extra hour. (she also thinks im cute, sweet, nice and more) and sometimes ill notice her staring at me.

    Yesterday I was really sick and she was so worried about me. She said she was very frustrated, upset, stressed and in pain but sacrificed all of it to talk to me. I also asked her if she loved me and if I meant a lot to her and she said yes.

    What can I say and/or do to get her back as mine? She is really beautiful and sweet and I don’t want to give up yet. She is confused on stuff right now but I don’t want to wait until it’s too late to try to get her back.

    PS: We don’t go to the same school, we don’t live close enough to walk and hangout, I can’t drive and she has been too depressed to want to hang out right now. She was also the greatest thing that happened to me so please help. (Oh and curling is a sport)

  167. Jonny says:

    Ok My boyfriend Ted (33 yo) saw his ex girlfriend out and he said hi to her to break the ice, he never got closure from relationship and is happy he finally had a few words with her. Now he said he hopes maybe he can establish a “friendship” with her. I do understand that hes happy he got closure but I want to tell him this and want to reword it better in a sweet, non judging way. I can’t tell him in person since he lives far away.
    OK want to reword this and tell him this in a note but dont want to sound jealous- just concerned for him. Please reword what I wrote any writers or people with good grammar thanks:
    I am happy for you that you got closure you were seeking.. I can understand you want approval but now let it be that way. I wnat to let him know that it bothers me for him to continue friendship w/ her but not seem jealous. Also want to tell him hes a good guy and want to mention that i want to focus on our budding relationship.

  168. ademuth93 says:

    Girls how can you tell if your ex has feelings for you or if she has moved on. How can I get her back. I have been trying but it’s harder than I thought why.

  169. apleaforbrandon says:

    So I’m being bullied online by my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend and her friends. I’m ignoring it, but there getting out of line. I’m just wondering if I should tell him or if I continue ignoring it they’ll eventually stop?

  170. Jack Bauer says:

    Well I wanted to know what I should write to her. I love her and she loves me, but things just didn’t work out. Her birthday is coming up and I want to write a sweet letter to her on her birthday card. Something that will make her really happy. Please help!

  171. Samuro says:

    my ex gf who left me for another guy is still in love w me. she even asked for me back a couple weeks after the break up. i cut her off and stopped talking to her and wasnt interested in taking her back. now a couple months later shes texting asking how everything is…

    should i just ignore the text and not reply? or be nice and sweet but keep it really short… what would drive her crazy?

  172. Taylor2k says:

    I found out that my boyfriend has a photo album of pictures of his ex girlfriends. Photography is one of his hobbies and when I asked him about it that was his defense but I still don’t understand why he still has the pictures out on his night stand with pictures of mostly her in it. I’m getting a bad feeling that he can’t get over her. Am I right or being paranoid?

  173. The Inc says:

    Basically my EX-girlfriend got a yeast infection from her mother from using teh same towel or something (this is a rumour). There are lots of rumours going around about how dirty this girl is and shes very pretty. ANYWAYS I just wanna know if its contagious to males if they are wearing a condom…. Is it contagious orally?

    THANKS

  174. Sonny says:

    She blew me off after the break up because i become a bit clingy and told me to leave her alone. SHe has a bf right now, but is always trying to get my attention at school and still looks at me every once in awhile. I know deep down she still has feelings for me but makes so i think she has moved on and is ignorant. I really want to rebuild a friendship and hopefully rekindle a relationship again. The last time she blew me off was last week, so its been 1 week since we have talked.

  175. ericmreitz says:

    Has to be you that received to worst gift(s) or a former Lover of your received the worst gift.
    This is to keep it real and factual.

  176. PolishPokeyPimp says:

    I have hung out with this guy 3 times and he is really sweet and all but for some reason I am having a feeling he is not after a real thing but that instead he is only interested in sleeping with me.. How would you be able to tell???

  177. diggn4richez says:

    i want to listen to music while i run but i want some ideas on what music to download. any suggestions? thanks a bunch!

  178. Thomas Lopez says:

    Hi im going into 8th grade and i was wondering how i can get a girl i like to go out with me over this summer i have never talked to this girl.. i dont know if she even knows who i am… one of my ex girlfriends might have her number

    all help is appreciated

  179. lildevilgurl152004 says:

    I don’t get them all the time but I get post cards from my ex sometimes telling me that she was thinking of me and wishing me well with a smily face. Should I consider it a gracious move on her part, she is a sweet lady.

  180. supernerd567 says:

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 1.5 years and we’ve had issues since the beginning. He always thinks rationally and logically. Unless something is totally innocuous, he will not do something for me unless I can give him a logical argument for which he should. This has caused a lot of major issues in our relationship.

    * I think I should add that this man is completely honest, loyal, and trustworthy. He will happily clean the whole house for me regularly and cook for me when he has the time. He is physically affectionate, often giving me kisses. Although we are not married, he views our relationship as a marriage will do his best to make it work *

    On to the problems (These are all things I have gripes with. He accepts me for who I am and doesn’t think one should ask another to change. He thinks that the person who has the problem is the one who should change)

    1) Being friends with an ex-girlfriend

    I once gave him an ultimatum to stop seeing her or stop seeing me and he chose her, despite her abhorrent past actions. I told him I felt so heart broken that he’d choose her, someone who has been awful to him in the past, over me. He said that if I think about it logically he didn’t choose HER over ME. It’s about the PRINCIPLE. He’s not going to end a friendship with someone just because someone else doesn’t want that person in her boyfriend’s life. This problem is an issue of jealousy that just I have to deal with. Most recently he told her that they shouldn’t spend as much time together so now this is a non-issue, but it can always creep up again if she comes back into his life since I have not dealt with my jealousy yet.

    2) Not saying “I love you”

    Unlike all of the other online posts about this, the reason for this is that my boyfriend is ‘too’ logical. He is 100% committed to me and I know/feel it. He won’t say the words because of its brainwashing uses in the media. He hates the idea of being able to ‘control’ women with these words. Because I place such an importance on them, he will not use them. Sounds a back backwards and cruel to me, but I understand a bit as well. He will say other things like “I care about you” or other very sweet things, but sparingly. He doesn’t want to say these things regularly and only wants to do so when he feels overtaken with emotion. The problem is that I’d like to hear “I love you” or something similar every day, or after every or most encounter. Unfortunately, that is not the case. I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever be okay with not hearing those words from him. He said that if I can define the phrase he’d use my definition (e.g. I care so deeply for you, I trust you and feel intense affection for you… etc.). I haven’t provided him with a definition because I want him to be the one who expresses his own emotions to me.

    3) Not doing any other little thing for me unless I can give a strong logical argument

    He will happily eat at the restaurant I want, watch the movie I want… etc. But other things I would like are off the table. My view is that we should each make compromises to make the other person happy. His approach is that we should both take the most logical path and not let emotions interfere (they should just guide our decisions).
    I once I asked him if he could plan a date for us sometime (he had never planned a date for us in over a year). I wish he could have said “sure,” but instead it ended up in hours of discussion with lots of crying on my part. He has never given me flowers and very seldom surprises me (this is usually only done if I ask him to do it).

    Each week we see each other for all of Saturday, and usually late Friday night and Sunday morning. We will see each other once during the week if I make the effort (I call him and I drive to him). He is very busy with his studies. I would like to see him more if possible, but he thinks it’s reasonable for me to be okay with this amount (we live in the same city).
    On the days we don’t see each other, we text. He very rarely calls me. I’ve told him before that I wish to talk on the phone sometimes but I can’t provide a logical argument for it, so it won’t be so. He can’t talk on the phone at school or on the bus home and is hurts his ear…
    Anyways, I hope this is somewhat clear to you. I am the one who has all of the problems with him. I am the one who needs to change to be happy in this relationship. I don’t know if I can. We’re on the brink of breaking up.

    I need advice from REALLY LOGICAL people. Do you think our relationship can work? How do I accept all of his not-socially common ways?

  181. Lucas H says:

    I don’t have a valentine this year :( but I’m not gonna let it get to me I’m just gonna stay in invite my bestie over buy junk food and watch romantic comedy :) but idk what to watch besides, the last song, a walk to remember, love don’t cost a thang, a cinderella story, when in rome easy A ect another movies we should watch that are GREAT!!!

  182. D3ZZY says:

    My friend can be very sweet, loving and kind one day and the next he is verbally abusive. This up and down periods last 2 – 3 months. When physical near a person he loves for more than 2 months or so he said he starts having anxieties. He is not a touchy and feely person.
    When is talking with his kids on the phone he says the sweetest things. However he does have bouts of angry with them?
    My understanding is his action were the same with his ex girlfriend. He is antisocial. He is very passionate about his politics

    Is this the sign of a very Moody person?

  183. Roar me R says:

    My ex girlfriend is really bugging me over Facebook about wanting to get back together. I broke up with her because in my eyes she was flirting with another guy. She insists she wasn’t but she left her Facebook running and saw her messages.
    Does anybody know how I can get rid of her?

  184. Yoshi says:

    What is the most effective way to get your ex girlfriend back from current boyfriend?

  185. Sergio says:

    My friend and his now ex girlfriend broke up recently but they still live together. They usually live in mutual peace but when my friend gets drunk (which he’s doing every night now) he starts rediculous fights with her, threatening to kick her out. She doesn’t react maturely (tonight she took his prized Star Wars DVD collection and destroyed it) but it wouldn’t come to these things if he didn’t egg them on. He doesn’t hit her or anything but I’m worried it might soon come to that. Any advice?

  186. Daniel says:

    Yesterday I had a nightmare about my boyfriend cheating on me with his ex girlfriend… I was very angry and sad. What does it mean? Why would I dream about that?

    Note: I’m a very jealous girlfriend though my boyfriend barely talks to girls but I don’t trust girls in my country, most of them are very bitchy…

    but the weird thing is that I wasn’t thinking about that, since I met my boyfriend yesterday and had a good time with him.

  187. Bryant B says:

    We had been together for 3 years and that’s kinda long relationship. But with an instant the 3 years of being together where we both shared happiness, sadness disappeared because of the 3rd party.
    I don’t know what happened she just broke up with me she did not tell me the reason..What shall i do now? is it possible to winning back your ex girlfriend? or win back your ex even if she has a new man? I need your advise .thanks

  188. slipknot0129 says:

    Okay so me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for a little over a year, but we still remained friends. We talk and hang out a lot. It’s pretty good except for one thing. I’ve recently started having slight feelings for her again. To be honest I highly doubt that there’s any chance that we’ll get back together. It’s great being friends, but I really thought these feelings were gone after we broke up. Any advice?

  189. fattiemanny says:

    My ex-boyfriend is now dating his ex-girlfriend which people say that she has a child and is out of school.

  190. apleaforbrandon says:

    I was told by one of my closest cousins that another cousin of ours had an affair on his wife with my ex-girlfriend. How do I best approach this problem? How do I find out without causing a divorce?

  191. JackReynolds says:

    I always see my ex girlfriend at school walking with her new boyfriend!, how can i make her jealous of me, without me getting another gf? Like what should i do that would make her mad?

  192. Praveen says:

    Okay so me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for a little over a year, but we still remained friends. We talk and hang out a lot. It’s pretty good except for one thing. I’ve recently started having slight feelings for her again. To be honest I highly doubt that there’s any chance that we’ll get back together. It’s great being friends, but I really thought these feelings were gone after we broke up. Any advice?

  193. altair says:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. During the week we both mutually decided to meet up tomorrow and talk about what went wrong in the relationship and what actually caused the breakup. I really want her back. I still love her and care about her and don’t want to mess things up in our first meeting. Should I tell her tomorrow that I want her back and want to work things out, or should I give her more time?

  194. RichT says:

    My boyfriend still has pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend making out naked in bed on his computer. We’ve been seriously dating for about a year now. And even though his ex-girlfriend is a thing in the past, it still hurts me to see these pictures. Should I tell him to remove them? And how do I go about telling him?

  195. happyha31 says:

    Which he really love so much. . . But he didn’t marry his ex-girlfriend for trust situation. . .
    I mean the lady cheated him when they’re together.

  196. ademuth93 says:

    I want to go out with my ex-girlfriend again. She wasn’t stolen but I need advice on how to get her back.

  197. Caltel T says:

    I just had a conversation with my ex girlfriend and we just came to the conclusion we should be friends and that if its meant to be its meant to be. I feel very good because I really care for her but right now I am very focused on my school. So we had a very intelligent conversation and we pretty much told each other that we need to grow as individuals before we can be together (we both care a lot for each other.)
    She told me she cared about me a lot.

  198. llb443 says:

    Currently dating someone who has a crazy ex girlfriend she constantly calls rides past my bf house and work and sends her family members into my place of work to run their mouth. I am really close to just beating her up but she doesnt come directly at me or say anything directly to me. i dont want to lose my job but I am fed up!!!
    Honestly i just want her to get a life and leave us alone. thats what i mean by get rid of..she is definately not worth my time , my job, or my relationship..but i am only human and i can only take so much.

  199. Larry R says:

    If my friend claimed to have negative one ex girlfriends, what does that mean?

  200. johnkaiser 22 says:

    By coincidence I have received my ex-girlfriend in a secret santa draw I was thinking an ironic gift would be the book – How to Win Friends and Influence People.

    My second thought was a Cliff Richard calender to be gifted as something she would find completely useless.

    Any suggestions on insulting gifts that are subtle would be appreciated.
    @Marly – We mutually decided to end the relationship, then I made a good effort to get her back. This failed and I have been replaced. She is not hurting as she has a new partner who she is having a good time with.

  201. Michael says:

    My ex girlfriend has a boyfriend and they have been going out for some time now. I just figured out that i love her and i don`t know how to tell her. Were both 15, what should i do?

  202. Andre says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend split up about 8 months from now and shes been telling me she wants to leave out of the country with my 2yr old daughter.How can I stop her by taking my daughter? Please any legal help that can prevent this ???

  203. RuMKilleR says:

    So, I’m trying to figure this guy out.

    He watches videos of marylin manson, he reads books about marylin manson and has music videos all over on his you tube and in his music selection.

    But he has his ex girlfriend stoya who’s a porn star in his movies and groups but that is related to marylin manson, has members of the band on his youtube.

    Do you think he’s obsessed with his ex girlfriend or marylin manson?

  204. Kaden says:

    I am in love with my ex-girlfriend’s roommate, who is also her best friend. I have had a crush on her for a long time even before I knew my ex-girlfriend. I’ve talked to her about it and she said that she likes me but she doesn’t want to hurt my ex. What can I do to date her?

  205. apleaforbrandon says:

    I still like my ex girlfriend a lot and i wanna get back together with her. She has a boyfriend but he doesn’t treat her well. I have a feeling she has thought about being with me again. I just dont know how to tell her how i feel.

  206. thexbox360player says:

    My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago…. She said it was because she didnt want a boyfriend and didnt feel the same way i did. But this past week she has been txting me a lot, like almost everyday! She said she still wanted to be good friends which i want too. Then one day she wanted me to help her with her homework which i did and she said if i did she wud make me cookies, which she did. Then she said she had a problem and wanted me to go to a ffa thing(we are both in it) I said i was going to anyways and she said good cause its a lot of fun and she will be there and she said shes the bomb. Then her mom had surgery and grandpa is in the hospital so i txted her to help her about it. and she txted me awh your sweet and then said goodnight :) …….. I might be crazy but does she miss me or she just being a good friend? i didnt think we wud still be txting all the time! i still wud want to be with her but idk if she wants too… HELP!
    She also Snapchats me everyday!

  207. Scorch Delta-62 says:

    My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago…. She said it was because she didnt want a boyfriend and didnt feel the same way i did. But this past week she has been txting me a lot, like almost everyday! She said she still wanted to be good friends which i want too. Then one day she wanted me to help her with her homework which i did and she said if i did she wud make me cookies, which she did. Then she said she had a problem and wanted me to go to a ffa thing(we are both in it) I said i was going to anyways and she said good cause its a lot of fun and she will be there and she said shes the bomb. Then her mom had surgery and grandpa is in the hospital so i txted her to help her about it. and she txted me awh your sweet and then said goodnight :) …….. I might be crazy but does she miss me or she just being a good friend? i didnt think we wud still be txting all the time! i still wud want to be with her but idk if she wants too… HELP! she also Snapchats me everyday.

  208. Ssshhhh Im becoming aroused says:

    Remember when during the first few hours after the shooting police and media were informing of a girlfriend or ex-girlfriend and a friend of Ryan Lanza missing in Hoboken. And even the chief of police (or whichever his title is) in Connecticut said that police in Hoboken, N.J. were tending to a developing situation there?

    By now everyone knows that the shooter was the younger brother, Adam, but how did the missing or supposed missing people fit into any of this?

  209. callofduty5123412 says:

    I’m not desperate. Quite the opposite. In fact right now I’m getting over a break up because me and my most recent ex-girlfriend. Trying to be strong just in case she asks for me back. I am a good boyfriend usually. I’m sweet (so they say), love to kiss girls, cuddle, have sex. In fact if they ask for it I’d do whatever they wanted, not out of neediness or desperation, but because I wanna please their desires. People will say be yourself, but if I’m myself they won’t like me (most won’t) and if I’m not myself it ends just about the same. So what gives? Let me guess go find someone right for me. The problem is I’ve looked for girls in my league, most have actual good boyfriends not to mention for some reason don’t like me. Go below my league, still doesn’t work. They go for other guys in their league or play you for no reason. The hell? Ok obviously go above your league. Somehow they go for jocks, players, or just other guys in their league. What league am I in again? Turns out, it seems like I’m in a league of my own…? Wow, that feels special right. First time I’ve ever realized that. Anyway I’m all the things I know girls like, sweet, romantic, cuddly, good looking (trust me, I know I’m good looking because they tell me that, not out of pity either but like they say you’re cute and start flirting with me but most of them are out of the state or far away in the state). I enjoy hanging out with them, and their friends, plus my friends. I also enjoy helping people, when a girl likes me and sometimes even before that. I just don’t get why girls can’t legitimately fall in love with me. Why am I telling you guys about myself? Because I can’t figure out why they can’t. I want someone to love and be loved back by, but I’m not sure how to accomplish it. I know relationships are a lot of work and I’m willing to work on it… but I want to make sure they don’t lose feelings? How can I do that?

  210. Mr SoLo DoLo says:

    I’m not desperate. Quite the opposite. In fact right now I’m getting over a break up because me and my most recent ex-girlfriend. Trying to be strong just in case she asks for me back. I am a good boyfriend usually. I’m sweet (so they say), love to kiss girls, cuddle, have sex. In fact if they ask for it I’d do whatever they wanted, not out of neediness or desperation, but because I wanna please their desires. People will say be yourself, but if I’m myself they won’t like me (most won’t) and if I’m not myself it ends just about the same. So what gives? Let me guess go find someone right for me. The problem is I’ve looked for girls in my league, most have actual good boyfriends not to mention for some reason don’t like me. Go below my league, still doesn’t work. They go for other guys in their league or play you for no reason. The hell? Ok obviously go above your league. Somehow they go for jocks, players, or just other guys in their league. What league am I in again? Turns out, it seems like I’m in a league of my own…? Wow, that feels special right. First time I’ve ever realized that. Anyway I’m all the things I know girls like, sweet, romantic, cuddly, good looking (trust me, I know I’m good looking because they tell me that, not out of pity either but like they say you’re cute and start flirting with me but most of them are out of the state or far away in the state). I enjoy hanging out with them, and their friends, plus my friends. I also enjoy helping people, when a girl likes me and sometimes even before that. I just don’t get why girls can’t legitimately fall in love with me. Why am I telling you guys about myself? Because I can’t figure out why they can’t. I want someone to love and be loved back by, but I’m not sure how to accomplish it. I know relationships are a lot of work and I’m willing to work on it… but I want to make sure they don’t lose feelings? How can I do that?

  211. zigg3ns says:

    I keep having dreams about my ex-girlfriend and want them to stop. I know there must be some kind of spell that will get rid of the dreams. Can anyone help me?

  212. Caltel T says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend moved into a apartment together we signed a 1year lease. After 4 months she decided to move out. The apartments still want there money can i take her to court and have ordered to pay her half? Or can i get it put on her credit that she skipped out on the lease. The apartments are threating to kick me out if rent isn’t paid and put it on my credit. Do i have any options. Please help!

  213. LN13 says:

    I asked my Ex Girlfriend if she wanted to get back with me over text and she said it would be better if we were just friends. I really love her and can’t stand the fact that we aren’t in a relationship anymore. Should I talk to her in person at school tomorrow or leave her alone?

  214. Ryan Dunn says:

    Hello everyone.
    My girlfriend of a few months and i broke up just over two weeks ago. I will explain my situation and make it as brief as possible. When we started dating and weeks before we would talk for many hours over facebook and text each day and night and could talk to each other easily, in other words sweet talk and the romance in our conversations was among a high level. One thing i regret is not showing much affection, i would tell her how much i liked her, but i wouldn’t kiss her, just hold her hand. Whenever i would sit with hr and her friends at lunch i was quiet and shy, which is one of the reasons and eventually as time went past we started talking less and less until before our breakup we would sometimes not text on a day. Before our breakup we hadn’t seen eachother for a month, as it is summer holidays now and she always made other plans and not with me. Then one afternoon on the 28th december she texted me saying that she is not interested anymore and just wants to be friends. I was hurt by it from her leading me on, so i was childish and deleted her on facebook. 2 days ago i texted her before my gmnastics class to see how she was and she asked why i deleted her, so we added eachother again then texted for about 2 hours that night. When i ask people how to get her back they say flirt with her and make her feel like she can’;t have you. This is my first girlfriend and i want to get her back. How can i make this work? Thank you :)
    I’m 16 :)

  215. sakyue1993 says:

    Hello everyone.
    My girlfriend of a few months and i broke up just over two weeks ago. I will explain my situation and make it as brief as possible. When we started dating and weeks before we would talk for many hours over facebook and text each day and night and could talk to each other easily, in other words sweet talk and the romance in our conversations was among a high level. One thing i regret is not showing much affection, i would tell her how much i liked her, but i wouldn’t kiss her, just hold her hand. Whenever i would sit with hr and her friends at lunch i was quiet and shy, which is one of the reasons and eventually as time went past we started talking less and less until before our breakup we would sometimes not text on a day. Before our breakup we hadn’t seen eachother for a month, as it is summer holidays now and she always made other plans and not with me. Then one afternoon on the 28th december she texted me saying that she is not interested anymore and just wants to be friends. I was hurt by it from her leading me on, so i was childish and deleted her on facebook. 2 days ago i texted her before my gmnastics class to see how she was and she asked why i deleted her, so we added eachother again then texted for about 2 hours that night. When i ask people how to get her back they say flirt with her and make her feel like she can’;t have you. This is my first girlfriend and i want to get her back. How can i make this work? Thank you :)

  216. Melanie says:

    When we first started dating, he had nude photos of his ex girlfriend who was a 21 year old girl who used him for money and slept with other men. He found out and they broke up, actually, I think she broke up with him to be with another man finally. The whole thing lasted 2 months, Maybe if that. I was around because she used to be my best friend until she became really really annoying with her lifestyle. About a year later, he and I dated and we both instantly fell in love, or so I thought. He had nude photos of her on his phone, stored in his email and a few hard copies in his bookshelf. He even had her facebook bookmarked. Now he is 43. I am 28 and I love many things about him and we got married. But now, the photo issue resurfaced and I am dealing with whether he was authentic with me from the beginning or now. He claimed he was not attracted to his ex and her behavior made that even more clean. My big question is why would he go to the extent of holding all these memories of her if he was over her? How could he have been in love with me too? I might be reading nto this too much but she was a quick fling and a little attractive but not as much as me. (at least i am pretty sure)! I am also sweet and loving, whereas, she used him and dumped him. Why would he tell me he made a mistake and wasted time with her but have the photos, emails and facebook accnt saved? It doesn’t make sense to me.

  217. Brendan O says:

    I am thinking on taking back my ex girlfriend. I been with her twice. I last had her two years ago. How often do things work out when someone takes a girlfriend back? Do they actually ever have a happy marriage?

  218. Lachlan says:

    I bought my now ex girlfriend a dirt bike for her birthday. It is in my name and still being financed. I am afraid that I might be held liable if someone gets hurt while in her possession. How can I go about getting it back? She will not return phone calls, texts or emails. I do not want to make a huge deal, but she is not willing to be an adult and work it out with me.

  219. Praveen says:

    I started dating this guy a few weeks ago and he was soooo into me at first, wouldnt stop talking to me and was so sweet. He then slept over and we spent a full 24 hours together and things were getting weird toward the end, he was on his phone the whole time so I got pissed. (I did not have sex with him btw). the following week he was so detached and different and pissy and moody. some history, his ex girlfriend a year ago cheated on him. He made a joke over text how he has a date this weekend and I didnt answer. he then said “I’m glad we are not together. goodbye you don’t deserve me. Too bad because I was falling for you.” and throughout the week he would make nasty comments like that.

    What’s his problem? Why is he trying to hurt me? Does he seriously hate me? Did he not like me this whole time? He was also butthurt when I stopped him from sex, he took it as rejection even though i said it was too soon.

    Should I say anything to him?

  220. turg143 says:

    My ex girlfriend’s boyfriend wants to take my daughter to Disney World and my daughter really wants to go she is 5 my ex and her boyfriend have been dating for 2 years they will be planning on getting married soon. Should I allow this? I won’t be able to take her I have work my ex also have work I trust this guy he seems nice he knew her since she was 3. I don’t talk to my parents anymore I have nobody else to take her he asked for my permission I told her that I’ll think about it.

  221. brincks26 says:

    My son has a 3 year old son with his ex girlfriend. He is now expecting his second child with his soon to be wife. He is not a part of his son’s life, (not because he doesn’t want to be, but)because the ex girlfriend won’t allow it. His father, my ex-husband, has denied our grandson from the moment of conception, and to this day refuses to acknowledge him in any way. However he is “thrilled” with the upcoming birth of the new grand baby. I love BOTH of my grandbabies, and I am very active in my eldest grandson’s life…. when his mom is in the mood to allow it. Any advice on dealing with the ex on this issue? I know it is his loss, and one day he will regret it, but in the meantime, my heart aches for my sweet grandson .
    To Tyler: he is current on child support, never missed a beat there. Let me clarify what I mean by “allow”. Examples: He shows up for his scheduled visits- she isn’t home. He calls- she doesn’t answer.She changes her phone numbers regularly. He has an attorney to take her to court, but the issue there is getting the papers served and the court date set.

  222. Jeremy Xargor is my gamertag says:

    We met online, never met, but fell in love. still planning on meeting eachother even if its just as friends.
    But after about 4 months of being in love…he left me for his ex girlfriend. Month later, she broke up with him, and he came back to me saying he loved me. After 3 days, he left me ONCE AGAIN for his ex gf. I don’t know why i gave him a second chance.
    I said we could remain friends and maybe date someday in the future after we meet.

    But how do i get over him? I just keep remembering all the sweet things he said to me…which were clearly lies. Any advice on how to be more positive and move on? Quotes also help too.
    Thanks :)

  223. turg143 says:

    So I am a 14 year old girl, extreme depression but I am on a happy high right now, so I don’t feel the effects too much. But I can drop to an extreme low and be suicidal and go absolutely insane (punching walls, screaming, throwing things…) So say that happened and I had to be hospitalized. What would it be like, for how long? Do you have electronical access, what do you do all day, like while in a mental hospital could I write, I like to write stories and poems and such, just what is it like? I just want to know if that ever happens. Just everything about it, would my family be able to visit, whats the food like, what is the routine, is it scary, can you have things from home with you? thanks
    Let me put this out there, I am already getting counseling, so like thats not the solution necessary, and I have been diagnosed with depression and Seasonal affective disorder.

  224. lets roll says:

    My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, so trust is even more important than usual.

    Before we were together, he was in an online relationship with this beautiful Russian model. He always tries to make it seem like they were just very good friends. I know it was more than that. I was friends with him long before we were together, and I remember he was very protective over her, he drew her pictures, did sweet romantic things for her (which I’m jealous of, because he never does these things for me). When he received a letter from her after months of little communication, I remember him crying from happiness. Now, he acts very secretive about what happened between them. Even when I asked why they broke up, he seemed uncomfortable and was not forthcoming. I’ve had to learn to get over my insecurities because not only is she a 10/10 beauty, they have much more in common than we do.

    I was visiting last week and became bored while he was at work, so I thought I would make little drawings and notes to hide in his clothes pockets. The desk drawer with his art supplies, to my pleasant surprise, was full of little things from me or ticket stubs/receipts from things we did together. I started to go through them without thinking this could be an invasion of privacy… until I came across a large envelope stuffed with items from his ex-girlfriend. I was definitely tempted to go through them, but too afraid of what I might see. So I guiltily put everything back.

    Now I feel terrible, mostly because I wonder if a part of him would prefer to be with her. What if he’s just settling on me? With my past boyfriends, I knew I was over the relationship when I threw out all the little mementos and mailed valuables back. So I have to wonder why he’s still holding on? Should I ask him myself, or am I being childish for letting this upset me?

  225. friendly 4 says:

    I know that this question has been asked about a thousand times in a thousand different ways, but the thing is, I don’t think that I’m pretty, and I think that he, is so cute. And his personality is amazing. He’s a bit of a country boy and I like that. He flirts with me, but I don’t know if he actually LIKES me… And I’m pretty terrified of him.. because I feel weird when he talks to me.. His ex girlfriend is realling skinny… and I’m… Well I’m the opposite. Any advice?

  226. apleaforbrandon says:

    MY ex girlfriend asked today to come over tomorrow so we could talk. We broke up a week ago and ive been ignoring her. I asked her if I could get my stuff back and she said “yeah, thats why I asked you to come.” So I said “So just bring it to school so I dont have to walk back from your house.” And then she said “but you dont even want to talk?” i want her back, what do I say or do?

  227. Jonathan says:

    I am a Libra guy, and my ex is an Aries woman. I am 19 years old and she is 20.

    Almost immediately after meeting we felt strong feelings for eachother. We remained best friends for about 6 months, talking to each other all the time and even staying up late into the morning discussing our views of life until one of us would fall asleep.

    One night I told her that I think I love her and then we slowly became sweethearts. We only dated for 6 months but it seems like years. We did everything together, and drove to many different places.

    We’d talked of planning our futures together, which required me to attend college and obtain a good job first. We spent as much time together as possible before I had to go to another state to attend school.

    She told me she loved me and that she would wait for me. She wrote me the sweetest letters telling me of her day and how much she loved me, noting specific things like; “Remember, I will always love you, always.”

    She later changed her mind and wrote me a letter on her 19th birthday and said that she had become a totally different person, and that she was not the same girl I knew and loved.

    Through that letter she ended the relationship; “I release you. Go and find a woman worthy of your love. If you need me I will be there for you, but not in the same way as before.”

    Loooong story short; When first I called her I pretended to agree with this, and we went back to talking as friends. Then we stopped talking for a while, until slowly my feelings became overwhelming and I called her out of the blue to express how much I still loved and missed her.

    She finally told me that she wanted to be a lesbian, and that I was wasting my time. I finally had an answer for why she abruptly broke off our amazing relationship and no longer blamed it on the long distance.

    I calmed down on my expressions of love. But I needed her to know everything that I had been feeling for her all this time. I wanted her to know that she would always be dear to me. I wrote a very lengthy letter, and also listed many heartfelt reasons why she would forever be my best friend.

    I told her that I would wait for her to reply to my e-mails before sending any more. On our one year anniversary (11/11/11 – 11/11/12) I sent her a box to show my support of us being ‘just friends’ containing a teddy bear, a square (not heart-shaped) box of chocolates and a card from the ‘Friendship’ section in which I wrote, ‘Hope you have a great 11-11 this year, your friend Jamey’.

    This absolutely ticked her off. Though she claims she never opened the box, my friendly gift was taken as ‘harassment’. She had it sent back and told me to leave her alone and not contact her again in any way.

    She then blocked me on Facebook and every other site. I heard from my family members that she was calling me a ‘stalker’. That broke my heart to the point of no return. How could she treat me like this? More importantly, why can’t I let her go?

    The pain is tricky. Sometimes I think that I’m over her and that I’m finally okay, but then it comes back all over again. It comes back in waves…

    It all comes crashing back with a vengeance greater than the pain I had been feeling before, and I start to feel like I am dying. I sometimes feel guilty, sometimes betrayed.

    I feel so attached to her, like a permanent connection. As if we were soul mates. She is my FIRST LOVE, and now our entire relationship feels like a marriage gone wrong…

    It’s so hard to go from your life being 50% about a person, and then all of a sudden not having them there anymore. Kind of like the death of a loved one, I cannot handle the reality of never seeing or speaking to her again.

    Is it really possible that she does not miss me nor the times we shared at all? She has not spoken to me since.

    I have tried dating other girls to help ease the pain of losing her, but to no avail. Please tell me how I can get her back on my side again.

    I just want to be friends again, but that requires her to take back the ban she placed on our contact.

  228. Jose B says:

    I’ve been talking to this guy for about 7 months now. He lives in a different city but I met him when he was in mine, his family lives here and he stayed here before so we met through common friends.
    He is very, very honest and had recently gotten out of a five year relationship but it’s been a year now since it’s over. So anyways we’ve been talking for months since then and have gotten together several times when he’s been in the city. We haven’t slept together and he respects that I want to wait and makes it clear that there is no pressure and he understands that I’m not ready yet. we’ve kissed and made out several times though. He told me many many times that he likes me during the first few months BUT? He has told me straight out that he wasn’t ready for to tag a relationship, he understood the reason I wanted one, to feel safer and more comfortable but he believed it came with too many responsibilities. Hes just not doing it again and yet we actually do act like we are dating. At least I think so… Heres some of the things he does that makes me think its more than just friends with benefits or something…

    - He loves kissing me and often looks me in the eyes just to do so. He’s protective and comfortable even when we’re in public with being with me
    -When he’s away we talk on the phone almost every day and text often enough, I know all that’s going on and tell him stuff.
    - I’ve met his family but as a friend. He’s met all of mine.
    - When we hang out we meet outside and walk together plenty, he does not make me feel like he only wants to see me at home, in private, like a guy before has.
    - He looks to me for my opinion. Says im the only friend he has who he tells stuff to and relies on. Gives his opinion on things i’m involved in, good or bad.
    - If im upset about something, he is very sweet and reassuring.
    - He at least agreed to sexual monogamy. He doesn’t want anyone else.
    -he says he’s not ready to date but if he had to date someone, it would be me

    Some bad things:

    - He doesn’t seem too comfortable discussing our feelings. I get the feeling he avoids emotional conversation.we have had some deep ones but he closes up fast.
    - He doesn’t ask too much about my personal life anymore. A lot of our conversations revolve around the here and now, or are about him. We do have great conversation. And he asks for my opinion. He just likes to talk about himself a lot.
    - He used to call every day when we first started talking. Now it’s lessened down. I’m the one initiating the calling/testing most times.
    - Biggest bad? He told me straight out that he doesn’t want a relationship. His exact words? -
    -he talks of his ex-girlfriend quite often, a little too often things remind him of her
    -I haven’t met any of his friends.

    I honestly dont care about a title, just as long as im not being used. Perhaps he just needs times to lick his wounds so to speak…but it’s been 8 months, how long. I know using someone isn’t just physically, it can be emotionally too and sometimes I wonder if i’m just someone willing to wait around until his ex-girlfriend comes back or he finds someone he wants to date. I tried talking to him today about not wanting to wait anylonger, though I said I didn’t want to risk falling in love with someone who didn’t want to be with me. He kept saying I should relax and not think so much and that it’s two people who like each other an he likes being with me but he really isn’t ready for the tag.
    I don’t think much will change with the tag except for the reassurance that this means something and the fact that I won’t be so confused about what in the world this is in the first place. Also, he told me once he needed time, and after all this time if he still hasn’t made up his mind, why is he in this in the first place. I just graduated, and and lack clarity on a lot of things because of major changes and need it where I can get it, he believes I’m targeting something that is the most vulnerable in my life becasue of confusion stemming from elsewhere and over thinking. when I said, I was really afraid of getting hurt and needed to back out, he kept telling me not to do this and stay and let it be like this. but I honestly don’t have a clue why anyone would be like this.

    All help and advice is appreciated! please.

  229. Big Banger says:

    I am looking foreward to my Senior Prom, but my boyfriend wants to break up with me because he always envisioned dancing like Prince Charming at prom, and his ex is like some girl who is like really in the “dance scene” and has been doing demonstrations at those hoity toity museum fundraiser balls and such. She also has won a lot of competitions and such, and I dont know any ballroom dancing.

    Since I heard this about six weeks ago I have been studying the arcane, including texts such as the “Emerald Tablets of Thoth” ( http://www.crystalinks.com/emerald.html), A Book in Every Home (http://www.scribd.com/doc/13972267/A-Book-in-Every-Home), Magnetic Current (http://www.gallardo.net/gen-t/leedskalnin.pdf), The Urantia Book, The Corpus Hermericum (http://www.sacred-texts.com/chr/herm/), The Egyptian Book of the Dead, The Pyramid Texts, The Voynich Book, The works of Isaac Newton, The works of Pythagoras, The Theory of Relativity, The Queran, The Vedas, The Torah, The Mayan Calendar, The Hopi Prophesy, and the Petroglyphs

    I was hoping to discover a means of time travel so that I could go back in time and prevent my boyfriends ex girlfriend from having learned ballroom dancing. These texts seem to be above the level that a high school student can understand, and the concepts of mathematics involved with any theories of spacetime related to creation seem beyond me. How would I go about mastering the arcane to achieve time travel or some sort of reality bending energy that might be useful for casting a spell so that I knew ballroom dancing.

    What is a guy like me to do, I have called The Archdiocese of Atlanta, and the priests refuse to use their magic cane thing send instantly me back in time so that I can prevent the event that caused my boyfriend’s ex from learning ballroom dancing. I am left to master the arcane on my own if masters of the arcane refuse to help me, the stupid priest said that I should find an arthur murray studio as well as that I may need to see an exorcist to have demons removed.

    What do I do, I dont want to get dumped, he said he literally wants me to know the waltz, lindy, foxtrot, tango, east coast swing, balboa, west coast swing, salsa, rumba, vienese waltz, bachata, and a bunch of other complicated dance steps. How do I master the arcane so I can use arcane powers to learn these dances, or develop equipment to back in time to prevent my boyfriend’s mean ex from having learned ballroom dancing.

    I have already made a “caduceus coil” and connected it to a high power TV capacitor and disposeable camera mechanism, placed the coil and capacitor in a wooden walking stick, and placed a hollowed out wooden ball at the top containing a 6 volt battery. This “wand can emit an electromagnetic pulse” I have also created a “crown” out of metal that can act as an antenna and amplifier for brain waves , and potentially control the current of individual monopole magnets emited from the walking stick. I have also woven metallic thread into a cape and robe, and connected the metallic grid woven into the clothing to a portable pulsed DC power supply emitting poer at alternating frequencies for .16 (phi),(sweet 16) sec intervals and the frequencies are 7129 hz, and 6105195 hz. Those numbers were said by edward leedskalnin to be the secret of the universe, but no magic. How could I get this to work, I really need to eithr achieve time travel or ballroom dancing, how do I do that. I asked my science teacher about what I was doing, and he said no physicist would think of doing this, and you should find an “Arthur Murray Studio” whatever that is when I explained my motives. How could I accomplish what I am trying to do

  230. Jose B says:

    I know her birthdays today and I thought id be nice and wish her a happy bday via text or should i just avoid it and not bother?

  231. simply complicated says:

    She is also much better looking than he is, she also cooks like a chef, is a No. 1 housekeeper, and she has more than 15 yrs experience in the sex trade, so she has a lot of experience under her belt.

    Why would she sacrifice so much and, on top of that, allow him to stalk his ex-girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend is tired of being stalked too, she doesn’t want to be involved in a love triangle, but he keeps stalking her. What’s the deal? Is it because she is completely financially dependent on him and she has no other choice?

  232. Phillip123 says:

    Someone commented a man can whisper sweet nothings and a woman can fall for it. What are ways she can filter out those things to determine his true feelings toward her?

  233. henryshensbcglobalnet says:

    He gave his ex girlfriend a doll. He says he likes me and flirts with me, went out on a date with me and still talks to me. Yet he gave her a christmas present.

  234. RuMKilleR says:

    My boyfriend just told me that his ex-girlfriend went to the doctor and found out that she had a dead baby inside of her. He doesnt know how to feel and I dont exactly know how to help him. I’m relieved that he isnt gonna be a father but i still feel terrible.

  235. mal_functiongeo says:

    Ok so I have this ex girlfriend with bpd who’s trying to get in contact with me (she probably tormented her boyfriend to death). My question is, how do I torment her for ruining 8 months of my life and emotionally scarring me? My idea is to get really close with her and give her tons of attention and “feel sorry for her” then randomly cut communications with her. She would probably go crazy. Have any other ideas?
    No, the narcissist is a guy. He is a jerk in the place I work.

  236. RichT says:

    Long story short Im 18 (almost 19). My first girlfriend and I got together when we were both 17. We were together for almost a year. She was nice, polite, sexually patient (we lost our virginity to eachother), honest, attractive, faithful. But I made a huge mistake feeling like there was something missing. And I was getting a bit bored (possibly due to how perfect she was). I wanted excitement and so I made the mistake of leaving her for a girl a year older than me. I’ve been with this girl 2 months so far but all she questions me about is sex and sexual things. She also blows up my phone (as opposed to my previous girlfriend who gave me space). So basically this current girl doesn’t seem to be taking the relationship serious. I was looking for excitement at first but I ended up getting too much (as this girl seems to only respect me for my genitals). She also hates condoms (but is on birth control). My previous girlfriend made sure both were used. I made a mistake and really want my previous girlfriend back. Sure she wasn’t super exciting but I’ve realized she’s the most honest loyal sweetest thing and I’d rather have that than a skanky girl. Im going to end it with this current girl but how can I get my previous one to forgive me and give me a 2nd chance?

  237. maskills24 says:

    I’m 23 years old living on my own now, I have 2 kids which I don’t have custody of currently. The only thing I care about in life is money, or anything that brings me happiness at that (which would be money). I love to use and abuse people, especially women. Building women up and breaking them down just gives me a huge kick, having women cry and fight over me is the best feeling in the world. I show little remorse for anything in the world besides animals, I’m confident I can murder a human being without blinking but I couldn’t harm a dog. I love violence, I’ve always been violent which has resulted in a few jail visits recently. In school I always kept to myself, but I was always highly liked and respected as the quiet strong one. In high school I was probably in 5-10 fights, I loved fighting. Beating someone made me feel like a god, I would purposely beg someone to hit me first because I was in love with the feeling of an adrenaline rush. I would do anything to bring self-happiness, no matter how it effected the people around me. My father is in prison for racketeering, I consider him to be my idol. My main “hobby” would be manipulating people, especially women. I lie for fun, sweet talk, do whatever I have to do to gain someones trust and just break them. I’m addicted to reactions. Other then my father being in prison, I had an easy childhood but I always turned to the “rough life” despite the fact I have it made. I don’t smoke or drink, mind altering drugs are for weak and pathetic people. I hate fake people, but I can’t get through a day without lying and manipulating someone. I hate school but I love education, my IQ level is 137 but I have no desire to further my education because it’s useless. I’ve studied neurological-linguistic programming to improve my “game” when it comes to manipulating women and inflicting psychological pain. Some of my ex-girlfriends have told me I can convince them the sky is red if I wanted to. I use mostly looks and word play to get into peoples head’s. I play online games where I’m pretty well known, many girls will webcam with me or send explicit pictures that I’ll eventually use against them to get what I want. That’s about it.
    @Ben
    Maybe you’re right, but I didn’t have any intentions to prove anything with this post. I added as much information I can think of that might be a variable. After reading other posts with similar questions I added information I felt could relate. I don’t think I’m a sociopath because I love animals, sociopaths seem to take the opposite trait. “Manly” I made this post pretty anonymously just looking for answers

    @Daisy
    I don’t think I’m lost. I have always understood myself pretty well, I just think others don’t understand me
    @Midge
    I don’t need to see a therapist, I’m perfectly fine. Regardless, I’m happy so I don’t see the point in seeing a shrink but some clarification would be nice (which is why I made this post)

  238. Sonny says:

    I still love my ex-girlfriend, but I want her to be at least comfortable hanging out with me as friends first and hopefully I can win her heart again sometime later. I was thinking we could go to the library and study – as friends, not a date. What should I say when I call her?

  239. United says:

    directly or indirectly, knowing that his actual girlfriend has envied for more than 25 yrs his ex-girlfriend, and by reminding continually his nes girlfriend of the existence of his ex to whom his actual girlfriend feels inferior?
    Holly Paw: Its not for me, I’m the ex-girlfriend. There is no way I would accept that.
    Granpa Mike: Its not for me, I’m the ex-girlfriend. I would not accept that.

  240. Oilers says:

    My boyfriends ex girlfriend keeps texting him. Sometimes just to talk and sometimes to try and get him back and make him feel guilty. What should I do?

  241. opurt says:

    I’m 43 and have a 21 year old medically disabled son who lives with me. He had a 21 year old girlfriend of several months (who lived with her mom as well and is also disabled apparently). My son had never been so happy before and the girl was so sweet to him. I remember when his ex girlfriends cheated on him. He told me this one did not. He lives under my roof though and I was the one who drove them back and forth on dates since they were disabled and my son doesn’t have a car yet. Then his girlfriend’s mom got in a fight with me about a few things (their future being one of the topics) and I think it was rude of her mom to be rushing my son so fast. So I ended up restricting my son from seeing her (I stopped giving them rides and I forced him to delete her from his facebook account and change his status to single). He got very mad at me but he needs to understand that her mother was already looking for a place for him to live (with her) while he’s disabled. He’s not ready to live on his own yet. He needs a girlfriend who has a mother who will be understanding. Yes the girl I made him break up with (and restricted him from) is a sweet heart and they loved eachother a lot, but her mom is not very bright nor nice. I want my son to date a girl with nice smart parents so I can get along with the parents as well. My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.
    My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.

  242. Spider Pc says:

    I’m 43 and have a 21 year old medically disabled son who lives with me. He had a 21 year old girlfriend of several months (who lived with her mom as well and is also disabled apparently). My son had never been so happy before and the girl was so sweet to him. I remember when his ex girlfriends cheated on him. He told me this one did not. He lives under my roof though and I was the one who drove them back and forth on dates since they were disabled and my son doesn’t have a car yet. Then his girlfriend’s mom got in a fight with me about a few things (their future being one of the topics) and I think it was rude of her mom to be rushing my son so fast. So I ended up restricting my son from seeing her (I stopped giving them rides and I forced him to delete her from his facebook account and change his status to single). He got very mad at me but he needs to understand that her mother was already looking for a place for him to live (with her) while he’s disabled. He’s not ready to live on his own yet. He needs a girlfriend who has a mother who will be understanding. Yes the girl I made him break up with (and restricted him from) is a sweet heart and they loved eachother a lot, but her mom is not very bright nor nice. I want my son to date a girl with nice smart parents so I can get along with the parents as well.
    I did this because I care. My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.

  243. Gundown64 says:

    I’m 43 and have a 21 year old medically disabled son who lives with me. He had a 21 year old girlfriend of several months (who lived with her mom as well and is also disabled apparently). My son had never been so happy before and the girl was so sweet to him. I remember when his ex girlfriends cheated on him. He told me this one did not. He lives under my roof though and I was the one who drove them back and forth on dates since they were disabled and my son doesn’t have a car yet. Then his girlfriend’s mom got in a fight with me about a few things (their future being one of the topics) and I think it was rude of her mom to be rushing my son so fast. So I ended up restricting my son from seeing her (I stopped giving them rides and I forced him to delete her from his facebook account and change his status to single). He got very mad at me but he needs to understand that her mother was already looking for a place for him to live (with her) while he’s disabled. He’s not ready to live on his own yet. He needs a girlfriend who has a mother who will be understanding. Yes the girl I made him break up with (and restricted him from) is a sweet heart and they loved eachother a lot, but her mom is not very bright nor nice. I want my son to date a girl with nice smart parents so I can get along with the parents as well. My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.
    My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.

  244. lets roll says:

    I’m 43 and have a 21 year old medically disabled son who lives with me. He had a 21 year old girlfriend of several months (who lived with her mom as well and is also disabled apparently). My son had never been so happy before and the girl was so sweet to him. I remember when his ex girlfriends cheated on him. He told me this one did not. He lives under my roof though and I was the one who drove them back and forth on dates since they were disabled and my son doesn’t have a car yet. Then his girlfriend’s mom got in a fight with me about a few things (their future being one of the topic) and I think it was rude of her mom to be rushing my son so fast. So I ended up restricting my son from seeing her (I stopped giving them rides and I forced him to delete her from his facebook account and change his status to single). He got very mad at me but he needs to understand that her mother was already looking for a place for him to live (with her) while he’s disabled. He’s not ready to live on his own yet. He needs a girlfriend who has a mother who will be understanding. Yes the girl I made him break up with (and restricted him from) is a sweet heart and they loved eachother a lot, but her mom is not very bright nor nice. I want my son to date a girl with nice smart parents so I can get along with the parents as well.
    I did this because I care. My in-laws (husband’s parents) were never nice to my parents and I don’t want my son to end up in the same situation.

  245. blarg blarg says:

    My ex girlfriend and I dated for 2 years, and honestly I was completely in love with her. I wanted to marry this girl. But she always told me, even before we started dating that she “didn’t like relationships”. She’s not a wh*re, though – were both 20 and I’m the only guy she ever slept with. She just obviously didnt like forming attachments to people. She always told me she never really wanted to get married – even telling me casually that I should never propose to her in front of people because shed say no. And she loves kids, but claimed she never wanted to have any. I loved this girl, she lived with me and I basically took care of her like a parent yet she saw no real future w me and I knew she planned on leaving me once she transfers to a university.
    And now she’s started seeing one of her professors who’s 37..

    I know she was physically abused as a kid. Her dad was a severe alcoholic and bipolar and just f*cking nuts and constantly beat her and made her life hell basically. And her mom isn’t much better. I also suspect she may have been sexually abused because she was very weird about sex – she would get really nervous about it and just didnt seem to enjoy it at all, and once I c*me on her face and she literally started bawling it was the strangest thing and so I felt horrible for doing something so kinky. and the second we were done having sex shed immediately get up and go in the next room and start doing something else, no cuddling or anything. But she claimed shed never been sexually abused, just physically. But she’s a very good looking girl and her dads a creep and would watch porn in the same room while she was asleep and once he was drunk and locked her and himself in her room sat down right next to her and said “French kiss daddy” yeah..

    is she the way she is because of her childhood? How do physically abused girls act when they’re older? She’s actually a really sweet and smart girl besides the stuff I mentioned

  246. HASTHEANSWERS says:

    I was recently told by an ex-girlfriend that I was a sociopath. Not knowing what it was I tried looking it up but still found it to be foggy and still found myself confused. So what exactly is a sociopath?

    To describe myself: One thing that I find myself constantly doing is lying, no matter what the situation. I like to lie about little things to make myself seem like a “sweeter” person, or I like to lie to see if I can do what I call “digging myself out of a hole.” Basically I will lie to someone (normally a girl) to make my chances of getting what I want harder, just to see if I can somehow twist their thoughts to make my chances better. Ex. I’ll tell a girl that I don’t care about them at all and will screw them over (even though that normally isn’t a lie) just to lie my way out of that to make them think I changed for them. I find myself lying constantly about tiny and major things. Sometimes I find it easier to lie than tell the truth.
    I constantly cheat while in relationships. I can’t stay committed to one girl to save my life. I feel the need to always be doing something behind my girlfriends back just for the thrill of it. As I say, just to see if I can get away with it.
    People always tell me how charming of a person I am. I can easily make people smile and brighten their day and make them feel comfortable around me.
    I always have zero remorse for making someone upset or hurting them emotionally in any sort of way. I feel no guilt at all if my actions hurt somebody else. I feel as long as I am getting pleasure out of it then nothing else matters.
    I am an EXTREMELY manipulative person. I really can get anybody to do whatever I want done. Whether it is big or small if I want somebody to do something I can make it happen. I can sell people horrible products or convince them to spot me large amounts of money.
    I consider myself to have one real best friend, everybody else I just consider a friend if I need them to be. I see them all as fake therefore I am fake to them. I always expect them to include me in everything but don’t go out of my way to include them. I always seem to be bouncing from friend group to friend group, and aside from my best friend, I can’t seem to stay with one group of friends for longer than three months.
    I really am not a cocky person, however when I get around other people I always promote myself as a very conceited person. I will constantly talk about myself and gloat while putting other people down. I become disrespectful towards anybody around me. I feel as if I have a different personality around people than how I really am.
    I really have no problem constantly being on my own. I love going to parties,but I easily can sit in my room and do nothing (other than go to school and work) for a month straight and be totally okay with it.
    I do not find myself to be a violent person physically. I do not like to fight at all and really don’t like to look at or watch violent things.

    If I am a sociopath,I really am not concerned about it right now considering I’m only 18; however, I do fear that when I get older I will not be able to maintain a steady career and marriage, which does scare me. Is there any way I can get officially diagnosed? And if so, what can I do to help myself?

    I would appreciate it if you don’t leave rude comments. Any help is much appreciated, thank you.

  247. steve says:

    I was recently told by an ex-girlfriend that I was a sociopath. Not knowing what it was I tried looking it up but still found it to be foggy and still found myself confused. So what exactly is a sociopath?

    To describe myself: One thing that I find myself constantly doing is lying, no matter what the situation. I like to lie about little things to make myself seem like a “sweeter” person, or I like to lie to see if I can do what I call “digging myself out of a hole.” Basically I will lie to someone (normally a girl) to make my chances of getting what I want harder, just to see if I can somehow twist their thoughts to make my chances better. Ex. I’ll tell a girl that I don’t care about them at all and will screw them over (even though that normally isn’t a lie) just to lie my way out of that to make them think I changed for them. I find myself lying constantly about tiny and major things. Sometimes I find it easier to lie than tell the truth.
    I constantly cheat while in relationships. I can’t stay committed to one girl to save my life. I feel the need to always be doing something behind my girlfriends back just for the thrill of it. As I say, just to see if I can get away with it.
    People always tell me how charming of a person I am. I can easily make people smile and brighten their day and make them feel comfortable around me.
    I always have zero remorse for making someone upset or hurting them emotionally in any sort of way. I feel no guilt at all if my actions hurt somebody else. I feel as long as I am getting pleasure out of it then nothing else matters.
    I am an EXTREMELY manipulative person. I really can get anybody to do whatever I want done. Whether it is big or small if I want somebody to do something I can make it happen. I can sell people horrible products or convince them to spot me large amounts of money.
    I consider myself to have one real best friend, everybody else I just consider a friend if I need them to be. I see them all as fake therefore I am fake to them. I always expect them to include me in everything but don’t go out of my way to include them. I always seem to be bouncing from friend group to friend group, and aside from my best friend, I can’t seem to stay with one group of friends for longer than three months.
    I really am not a cocky person, however when I get around other people I always promote myself as a very conceited person. I will constantly talk about myself and gloat while putting other people down. I become disrespectful towards anybody around me. I feel as if I have a different personality around people than how I really am.
    I really have no problem constantly being on my own. I love going to parties,but I easily can sit in my room and do nothing (other than go to school and work) for a month straight and be totally okay with it.
    I do not find myself to be a violent person physically. I do not like to fight at all and really don’t like to look at or watch violent things.

    If I am a sociopath,I really am not concerned about it right now considering I’m only 18; however, I do fear that when I get older I will not be able to maintain a steady career and marriage, which does scare me. Is there any way I can get officially diagnosed? And if so, what can I do to help myself?

    I would appreciate it if you don’t leave rude comments. Any help is much appreciated, thank you.

  248. hank baseballs says:

    In preface to further detail I am a lesbian, and I am basically the school’s mascot lesbian. I have quite a rep for being the lesbian, and it’s just kind of my social medals.

    A guy friend of mine who is a sophomore (I am a junior), let us call him Aaron, had a very dear phone conversation one night where he expressed his deep interest in me and how he wanted more than anything for me to not be a lesbian. Because this is high school, and you know, yolo, I decided to take the bate and allow him to pursue me. Relatively quickly, with a couple of breaks and emotional scenes, he and I began dating, with me having the complete upper hand in the relationship in full confidence that if things were to end, it would be my doing.

    Well, things certainly did end, but not in the way I intended for them too. He broke up with me twelve days in to the relationship, and his reasoning was that he was not romantically interested in me anymore because I showed too much narcissism which reminded him of his ex girlfriend and because he realized that I was not as sweet and innocent as he thought I was at the beginning of our friendship. He did express however, that he does immensely enjoy our friendship and would also love to continue to have a physical-only kind of thing going, friends with benefits you could call it.

    My goal now is make him want me, as I did develop some unexpected emotional liking and even some attachments. However, I must go about this rather cleverly using a more permanent method in persuading him to gain interest in me that extends beyond methods of guilt and pressure. This is where my question comes in as I am not entirely aware in how the male brain works, and I need ideas and tactics for weakening his emotions for me.

    One method that I considered doing this in was to go along with his idea of friends with benefits for a month or so and allow it to progressively lead to mind-blowing sexual acts that will make me physically irresistible and then randomly tell him how I feel I’ve realized that a physical-only relationship is in fact quite degrading to me, and that he must choose to either have me as merely a friend or in a complete relationship as I will no longer settle for less than my worth. Now this could be a working plan, but it is not extremely permanent as it is an ultimatum which is a bit of a form of pressure, and decisions made in pressure tend to not be extremely lasting.

    One method of which I figured he’d conjure emotions through is jealousy, but I am just blank of potential plans in that area, if you posses any do tell.

    If there are any other plans of action to induce feelings for me, please give me some ideas. I have made it a goal to wind up in something of a meaningful relationship with him

  249. Chris R says:

    In preface to further detail I am a lesbian, and I am basically the school’s mascot lesbian. I have quite a rep for being the lesbian, and it’s just kind of my social medals.

    A guy friend of mine who is a sophomore (I am a junior), let us call him Aaron, had a very dear phone conversation one night where he expressed his deep interest in me and how he wanted more than anything for me to not be a lesbian. Because this is high school, and you know, yolo, I decided to take the bate and allow him to pursue me. Relatively quickly, with a couple of breaks and emotional scenes, he and I began dating, with me having the complete upper hand in the relationship in full confidence that if things were to end, it would be my doing.

    Well, things certainly did end, but not in the way I intended for them too. He broke up with me twelve days in to the relationship, and his reasoning was that he was not romantically interested in me anymore because I showed too much narcissism which reminded him of his ex girlfriend and because he realized that I was not as sweet and innocent as he thought I was at the beginning of our friendship. He did express however, that he does immensely enjoy our friendship and would also love to continue to have a physical-only kind of thing going, friends with benefits you could call it.

    My goal now is make him want me, as I did develop some unexpected emotional liking and even some attachments. However, I must go about this rather cleverly using a more permanent method in persuading him to gain interest in me that extends beyond methods of guilt and pressure. This is where my question comes in as I am not entirely aware in how the male brain works, and I need ideas and tactics for weakening his emotions for me.

    One method that I considered doing this in was to go along with his idea of friends with benefits for a month or so and allow it to progressively lead to mind-blowing sexual acts that will make me physically irresistible and then randomly tell him how I feel I’ve realized that a physical-only relationship is in fact quite degrading to me, and that he must choose to either have me as merely a friend or in a complete relationship as I will no longer settle for less than my worth. Now this could be a working plan, but it is not extremely permanent as it is an ultimatum which is a bit of a form of pressure, and decisions made in pressure tend to not be extremely lasting.

    If there are any other plans of action to induce feelings for me, please give me some ideas. I have made it a goal to wind up in something of a meaningful relationship with him
    Oh my @Star Logan, somebody is a little bit homophobic, eh? I am a lesbian, yes, and a proud one I might add, but I do have a legitimate emotional fondness for this Aaron boy. Of course, I understand that you, as an inexperienced and un-worldy person, might find my actions to be of all lies and deceit, and perhaps many of them are, but they are all done in just and in the hopes that I may have a real, meaningful, and impactful relationship with this Aaron boy. I would, however, like you to understand that not all homosexuals are as cold and calculated as myself just as not all heterosexuals are warm and loving people. I do hope that one day you can see beyond your own bigotry. Have a good day, Star Logan, and I do hope that you find yourself looking up more to people in life. It will get you so much further than your current status of looking down the bridge of your nose at the populace.

  250. henryshensbcglobalnet says:

    I have been living with my Significant Other for a year now and during this time, my eyes have really been opened to the sad conditions in which he allows his ex-girlfriend to raise his daughter. They have no official custody agreement but we have her about a third of the time. First of all, the girl is almost three and a half but still cannot speak properly. She is incredibly smart- a fast learner with all crafts, activities, and word games we do with her. She even picks up words we use and can repeat full sentences with some coaxing, but all of her normal speech is pure baby babble. This suggests to me that she is neglected at home, as she surely would have picked up much more by now if there was anyone at home talking to her and teaching her. None of her clothes ever fit her and are often dirty; most of them are much too small despite my SO paying well over his child support requirement. She always has some kind of minor health problem. Sometimes it’s mysterious little red marks (she’ll incessantly point and say “ouch”), sometimes it’s bite marks on her limbs, sometimes it’s untreated lice. The last straw for me was when we went to pick her up from daycare recently to find that she was dressed (with snow everywhere) in broken slippers, leggings so short that they left inches of bare skin, a shirt, and a very dirty coat that looks like it would fit a seven year old. We had to wrap her in our own scarves and coats and carry her home because she was freezing and she could barely walk wearing all that ill-fitting clothing. Her mother sent her off to daycare that way in snowy weather. She also eats much more than usual as soon as she gets to our place, which makes me worry about how she’s being fed elsewhere; and her terrified face and exaggerated startle response upon being scolded make me worry that she might be used to much worse at her other home. All of this tells my gut that I should report her mother to CPS to be safe.

    However, I am ten years younger than the child’s parents and, while I have spent thirteen years working with children both in childcare and education, I did not plan to have children in my personal life for at least another several years. I encourage my SO to take his daughter as often as possible because I know that she is infinitely happier and healthier in our home, but I am not sure if I am quite ready to play mommy full time. My SO gets so angry about the way he sees his daughter treated but he rarely says anything to the mother because she always threatens to keep his child away from him. From what I see, she has four kids with four different people, and clearly does not care about any of them except to use them the “bargain” for more money. I believe that the biggest problem is that my SO is in the US illegally (brought by his mother at a young age, then stayed as an adult because it’s the only home he knows). His ex girlfriend has a green card and uses her status to threaten him. He says I don’t understand because I am a born US citizen, which could be true.

    So, I am asking for advice. I constantly worry about this little girl because I see a bright, sweet kid with so much potential, and I am filled with fear that she will grow up like her siblings. I know that the mother has already had multiple visits from CPS over the years but she does have custody of all of her children. I stress over this all the time. I know that things at the child’s other home are quite bad and negligent, but I do not know if things are bad enough for CPS to take any action. I also worry, because I am the father’s girlfriend and he has an illegal status, that filing a report could cause a lot of issues and it could potentially create more problems than it solves. I just don’t know what else to do, though. The know that the little girl is not being raised in a safe, healthy, or happy environment. I cannot live with that. I have spent a lot of time arguing with the girl’s dad about his reluctance to stand up for his child’s well being and he seems very upset but also genuinely scared of taking action. I never thought I’d want to involve the government in our personal lives but I don’t know what else to do.
    I guess “daycare” was misleading. That’s what they call it but it’s just a studio apartment with a bunch of children and one lady who doesn’t speak English and clearly has no concern for legality. I know that if I voice concern, she will just blow off the question and then go tell the mother what I said. One of my many unmentioned concerns is that the mother pays like five bucks a day to dump her kid at some hole in the wall all day.

  251. Samuro says:

    I have been living with my Significant Other for a year now and during this time, my eyes have really been opened to the sad conditions in which he allows his ex-girlfriend to raise his daughter. They have no official custody agreement but we have her about a third of the time. First of all, the girl is almost three and a half but still cannot speak properly. She is incredibly smart- a fast learner with all crafts, activities, and word games we do with her. She even picks up words we use and can repeat full sentences with some coaxing, but all of her normal speech is pure baby babble. This suggests to me that she is neglected at home, as she surely would have picked up much more by now if there was anyone at home talking to her and teaching her. None of her clothes ever fit her and are often dirty; most of them are much too small despite my SO paying well over his child support requirement. She always has some kind of minor health problem. Sometimes it’s mysterious little red marks (she’ll incessantly point and say “ouch”), sometimes it’s bite marks on her limbs, sometimes it’s untreated lice. The last straw for me was when we went to pick her up from daycare recently to find that she was dressed (with snow everywhere) in broken slippers, leggings so short that they left inches of bare skin, a shirt, and a very dirty coat that looks like it would fit a seven year old. We had to wrap her in our own scarves and coats and carry her home because she was freezing and she could barely walk wearing all that ill-fitting clothing. Her mother sent her off to daycare that way in snowy weather. She also eats much more than usual as soon as she gets to our place, which makes me worry about how she’s being fed elsewhere; and her terrified face and exaggerated startle response upon being scolded make me worry that she might be used to much worse at her other home. All of this tells my gut that I should report her mother to CPS to be safe.

    However, I am ten years younger than the child’s parents and, while I have spent thirteen years working with children both in childcare and education, I did not plan to have children in my personal life for at least another several years. I encourage my SO to take his daughter as often as possible because I know that she is infinitely happier and healthier in our home, but I am not sure if I am quite ready to play mommy full time. My SO gets so angry about the way he sees his daughter treated but he rarely says anything to the mother because she always threatens to keep his child away from him. From what I see, she has four kids with four different people, and clearly does not care about any of them except to use them the “bargain” for more money. I believe that the biggest problem is that my SO is in the US illegally (brought by his mother at a young age, then stayed as an adult because it’s the only home he knows). His ex girlfriend has a green card and uses her status to threaten him. He says I don’t understand because I am a born US citizen, which could be true.

    So, I am asking for advice. I constantly worry about this little girl because I see a bright, sweet kid with so much potential, and I am filled with fear that she will grow up like her siblings. I know that the mother has already had multiple visits from CPS over the years but she does have custody of all of her children. I stress over this all the time. I know that things at the child’s other home are quite bad and negligent, but I do not know if things are bad enough for CPS to take any action. I also worry, because I am the father’s girlfriend and he has an illegal status, that filing a report could cause a lot of issues and it could potentially create more problems than it solves. I just don’t know what else to do, though. The know that the little girl is not being raised in a safe, healthy, or happy environment. I cannot live with that. I have spent a lot of time arguing with the girl’s dad about his reluctance to stand up for his child’s well being and he seems very upset but also genuinely scared of taking action. I never thought I’d want to involve the government in our personal lives but I don’t know what else to do.
    Thanks for the opinions so far.
    I guess “daycare” was misleading. That’s what they call it but it’s just a studio apartment with a bunch of children and one lady who doesn’t speak English and clearly has no concern for legality. I know that if I voice concern, she will just blow off the question and then go tell the mother what I said. One of my many unmentioned concerns is that the mother pays like five bucks a day to dump her kid at some hole in the wall all day.

  252. Dr Dorian says:

    I’ve beginning to realize and see in my dreams the ghosts of my ex girlfriends. Each night it’s a different ex and idk what it means. One dream I had last night all of my ex girlfriends were in the same room as me in the dream. What does all this mean and why am I being haunted?

  253. nasty1 says:

    The ex-girlfriends all live in small towns so it’s hard not keep running into them at community events, church, the local restaurant or taking a walk around town. Since they aren’t living in big cities, everything is on a smaller scale. Most are divorced and haven’t remarried.

  254. Jon P says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up because of the awkwardness in our relationship. It was a very short relationship of only 2 days. I now like the girls best friend who told my ex I liked her and told me my ex liked me. We talk sometimes and playfully punch each other on the shoulder. But I need to know how to start getting this girl into me and getting her to text me. Any suggestions?

  255. Sergeant Pickle says:

    My ex girlfriends moved away and disappeared years ago and they communicate with me but I haven’t see them. I hear of bad stories about them. What are they up to? What do you think I should do about them. They haunt me.

  256. Matthew S says:

    The ex-girlfriends all live in small towns so it’s hard not keep running into them at community events, church, the local restaurant or taking a walk around town. Since they aren’t living in big cities, everything is on a smaller scale. Most are divorced and haven’t remarried.

  257. Christopher J says:

    My boyfriend is best friends with his ex-girlfriends brother I am fine with that but should I be worried about it cause she seems to still like him. And he talks about her driving him insain while they were dating. I just can’t stop thinking what goes on when they are over there.

  258. Elijah luv says:

    Ok, so i met this guy almost a month ago and we just instantly clicked. I’ve been single for a year now and was very excited to finally meet someone in my area that seemed like a really good guy for me. So we’ve been seeing each other a lot and spending our free time together, everything was going great. Until friday. We were supposed to hang out but he just never texted me back. We did talk later at night and he had an explanation which i was fine with. Then, today we were supposed to hang out again but the same thing happened… Then he finally texted me and said he had something to tell me. So basically, his ex girlfriend is now 5 months pregnant and he just found out. I was just bummed to hear this. I really like the guy, i was so excited to meet someone like him. And it makes everything 10 times harder because i know that he likes me a lot too but we just cant be together. When he told me about this, i asked of he reaaaally just found out now and he said that if he would’ve know it earlier he would never put me through this bcuz im such a sweet girl and any guy is lucky to have me, and that his whole thing is not fair to me, and also that he felt something real with and loved everything about me. I am so heartbroken… i dont know how to make myself feel better bcuz i fell really fell hard for this guy – i really thought we could be together. I do know that this is just a bad situation and i dont need this in my life. But i cant get over it. Pls help meee
    yeah i dont think that its fair to him that she just let him find out now… that was the first thing i said to him… what if its not even his?! but he said he cant abandon her now and he’ll just have ti wait until the baby is born to find out if its his. But isnt there a way to find out before its born? Oh, and we actually made our relationship official like 5 days ago…
    and if she isnt the one who he wants to be with, then why is he going back to her? he just be there to help with the child but he doesnt have to be with her… i mean there was a reason why they broke up in the first place. I think im just secretly hoping that the child isnt his… but if it is, then i will be out of the picture. Im gonna keep myself away from talking to him again unless he starts it first, then i think i wouldnt mind being friends with him…

  259. musicistabest says:

    I want to sing to my ex girlfriend to win her back.
    I want to sing to her Thunder by Boys Like Girls. My bud Eli will play the guitar for me, I can’t play guitar..
    Do you think that would win her back?

  260. Balla says:

    Basically…. I broke up with her because she had a lot of personal issues she had to deal with and it was causing our relationship to fail. She was depressed about herself… her family wasnt doing good… and it caused her to slip away from me. I wanted things to work out because I loved her so much… but we stopped doing everything. We stopped going out, stopped having sex… basically just stopped being a true couple. Seeing her not happy… made me not happy and it just sucked.
    She was heartbroken after I broke things off, but she knew it’d be for the best.

    After 7 months of no contact… I saw her at the store. She looked so different. She lost some weight, toned up, different hair style, glowing skin… She looked so different and happy! I went up to her and she just looked at me and smiled. We talked for awhile and she agreed to hang out with me later that night.

    She came to my house and we just talked. She was just acting so different. I mean, she was the same sweet girl… but she was just so much more. She was funny, loud, crazy. When we were together I was always the loud one and she was always to herself and quiet…. so it was different… in a good way.

    I cant stop thinking about her. I want to start slow and go on some dates to see where things go. How should I go about this? Should I just hang out with her more as friends… and see where things go? Or should I just be straight up and ask her out on a date?

    I really want to try things with her again. Neither of us are seeing anyone else.

    Im 26 (almost 27) and she’s turning 21 in a couple months.
    I know what you mean Holly….. but after we broke up she even told me that she agreed with it because she needed time to find herself again. I didnt just kick her to the curb…. I told her i’d always be there for her if she needed me…. I should have called sooner, but I figured she was doing her own thing and if I called she’d just get hurt and miss me all over again…. you know? I wasnt an a$$ about the breakup…

  261. Michael C says:

    So my ex and I talk again after 1 1/4 year of not talking. I told her how i felt and she said she felt the same and that she loved me, but that was for 1 out of the two weeks we have talked. She has a boyfriend, for who she left me for, but sometimes she bitches about how she feels neglected. She texts me late at night and asks if she can call me. I don’t generally respond, but then she calls anyways and I’m too nice to not pick up. Then we end up talking and she sometimes says sweet stuff and its just all confusing me. Should i just leave it all and move on? I mean… i only have till June 22nd till i don’t have to see her in class anymore since we all graduate and go out separate ways. She is staying at a local community college and I’m going to the University across the freeway bridge from where she lives… 7 minutes away :(
    I’m currently talking to her on the phone and she’s saying things like… “we should go to see X-men sometime…” and etc

  262. Erin says:

    Me and my ex have been broken up for a week, and I wrote her a letter to try and maybe not fix things completely but at least get her thinking about me again. I wanted some feedback, so far it says
    “Dear ___
    I don’t even know where to begin. I just wanted to start by saying I know I let you down. I did what every other guy did to you and what you expected me to do, I disappointed you and I admit that. I can’t go any further without first just saying I’m sorry. I wasnt the same boy you knew at the beginning of our relationship that brought you a sweatshirt when you were out in the cold, or wrote you a poem just because. I became complacent and I didn’t treat you the way someone as amazing and wonderful as you deserves to be treated. I know that now, and I just hope it’s not too late. I need to know if you can give me the chance to be the person that made you say that you had faith in the male species. I want to be the person that proves its okay to depend on someone, and to help take some of the load off when you feel like you’re carrying the world on your back. The guy that makes you feel comfortable and safe when you can’t sleep at night. I can’t promise you ill be perfect, I will make mistakes. But any mistakes I do make, I want them to be with you, because the biggest mistake of all would be to give up on you. So I can’t promise you perfect, but I can promise you the best of me. You may have the world on your shoulders, but I want my world back in my arms. If you can’t take another chance on me I understand, I won’t write you a letter a day for 365 days like Noah from the notebook and I won’t be that boy that never leaves you alone. Ill disappear from your life and move on, no hard feelings and no regrets, you don’t even have to respond to this letter. But if you do want to keep fighting and to let me back in, call me, meet me, text me, do whatever- but you will feel safe at night, and you will know how special you are to me. Ill be seeing you
    Love, _____

  263. Bryan J says:

    ok, so me and this girl broke up like 3 and 1/2 months ago, and i still really like her. Things didnt go so well when it got hard to see each other, and thats why we broke up. Since then, weve both been seeing other people, her’s is the total bad boy, he smokes, he drinks, and they dated before, but he broke up with her a year ago, because she didnt put out so he found another girl who did. Well anyways, apparently all was going well for them, until tonight, when me and my ex were talking on AIM, she was telling me that the same thing from before is happening again and basically his true colors are showing now, and hes seeing another girl, and she was telling me how mad, and sad she was and how stupid she was.

    Now since i still like her, itd be nice to have another shot with her, but shes the one who broke up with me, and i havent seen her since then, though we talk quite often now. Were both the “goody” type, and shes still sweet sometimes to me, sometimes if i say something sweet to her, she says something bad about herself, and other times shes very down on herself, and saying she doesnt trust anyone and how crappy of a person she is and i was wondering if you know how to talk to her when shes like this, without boosting her ego. Im not trying to jump right in, cause this just happened last night, but i still like this girl so very much and if anyone has advise, id sure love to hear it.

  264. gail C says:

    Short and sweet.. the love of my life broke up with me a couple days ago, and she already likes another guy — it’s mostly my fault because i didn;t give her much attention in our closing months (took it for granted i guess) but i realize what i have done wrong and i really want to try and get her back, to atleast show her it wasn’t really me that she broke up with — if that makes sense.

    She says she wants to stay best friends and really close, but i cant do that, not with the feelings she has for another guy. It hurts me everytime i talk to her, or everytime he pops in the picture — i see them talk almost every day and it makes me want to punch him right in the face…

    Moral of the story is i’ve been ignoring her, and recently just told her to leave me alone — because i don’t want to get hurt anymore by this, she said she will respect that and leave me alone… but was that really the right thing to say, especially if i want her back?

  265. fattiemanny says:

    I’ve asked so many questions about my ex.. It’s been 3 weeks since the break up and I just can’t seem to get her out of my head in any way. Ok so, me and my best friend of 2 years dated for 4 months, happy relationship, were in love, perfect couple.. We ended up arguing a bit about stupid crap, and she broke up with me.. She needed space.. But I was heart broken and kept talking to her.. Kept making all these excuses and reasons on why she should take me back.. And just plain being desperate.. But i finally gave her space.. so we ended up talking and being friends for about a day.. and she said she didn’t have feelings for me, but maybe in the future if I’m changed or whatever something might happen. Well, it’s been 3 weeks since the break up and I’m starting to realize that I was stupid in trying to manipulate her feelings and all this other crap because it’s what I wanted and I was plain heart broken so I was an idiot. Well, 7 days ago, I told her in order for me to get over her that we couldn’t be friends for a while.. She didn’t take it well and ended up saying I was freaking her out and she was just so done with it and didn’t want anything to ever do with me again. Like wtf? just that morning she wanted to be bestfriends, she should understand I couldn’t handle it. But after that we didn’t talk for a couple days and I ended up texting her because of course I couldn’t stand not talking to her, and I apologized for everything and once again started giving more reasons of me being stupid, she appreciated it and said she still needs time.. few more days go by.. I apologize again.. and she said that I screwed up bad and she almost never wanted to talk to me again.. Like what the heck happened between the time of us not talking that keeps making her feelings of me get worse? She was even saying to my friends that I was being a creeper and making stuff up like I was in her driveway and she threatened to call the cops on me because I wouldn’t leave?? I never did that.. Well, the last thing we said to each other, she said she needed a bunch of space from me.. I don’t get any of this.. I’m sure we probably could have worked out a relationship if I just had stayed friends.. but I couldn’t handle it, but I wish I had tried. Because I miss her in my life. And I would of showed her the sweetest guy ever, because through all this pain I’ve definitely changed. I wish I hadn’t been so rational and crazy and crap when she broke up with me.. but I was a mess.. And for some reason even though it’s been 3 weeks after the breakup she’s still not looking to date anybody or anything. We’re both just starting college and working full time. I want to know if anyone has any opinions on whether or not she’ll ever talk to me again, or if even we would ever be able to be a couple again. It could be possible. The first month I met her 2 years ago, we were going to date, but we ended up going seperate ways; she was broken and wanted to talk to me and be with me extremely bad for an entire year, but I was with another girl because she screwed up and dated someone while we were talking, big misunderstanding kinda deal. I think something in this is a big misunderstanding too.. and finally when we dated she was so happy to be with me. How do those feelings change like that? And how could she possible think of me so badly now..

  266. nothin_nyce1 says:

    So me and my girlfriend broke up about 3 months ago. I would really like to get back together with her in the near future. Recently, we have just been friends, and talking daily, due to seeing each other at school every day. I have been nothing but nice to her, and i called her to see how she felt about getting back together, and she flipped out, and called me all kinds of names and said some really mean and hurtful things. During this breakup, I have not been mean, or hurtful to her at all. After she said those hurtful things, i said that i wasn’t sure if i could be friends with her anymore. She got really upset, and was apologizing and saying how sorry she was. Throughout the breakup, whenever her mom asks her about us, she gets really defensive and acts like she doesn’t care. Her actions speak differently though. If something is wrong, she still asks me, and stuff like that. I have no talked to her outside of school for almost a week now, and its going good. Im wondering if that is a good step in trying to get back with her. In a few weeks, i am thinking about having her come over, and going on a walk with her and asking if she would be willing to give us another try, and bring a single rose with me, and ask her out. We have been through so much, and it would be super easy if we actually did get back together. My question is, what do I do in this situation to get her back as soon as possible? Im really stumped. And what do you think about the rose thing? Thanks for reading this.

  267. Cpt Excelsior says:

    I need to know how to get my girlfriend back without pushing her away and annoying her, she is still confused, she just doesn’t know it, she tells me she still loves me, misses me, thinks of me, cares about me, and feels protective over me. I know she is confused about me, I tell her I will give her the world and all these sweet things, she brings up that I hurt her 2 times during our relationship, I told her I realized what I did was wrong and I learned my lesson. I need to convince her that I did because I haven’t been the same, I don’t feel like doing anything anymore, I gave her the world and when she left, I felt like I lost everything. I haven’t been the same since November 3rd. I hate my life and I would do anything to get her back. I miss her :”(. I can’t stop thinking about her. Help me please.
    She broke up with me for you people who don’t know. Read my other questions too please and thanks.

  268. whitesoxfan2347 says:

    So my ex-girlfriend and I broke up because I didn’t give her enough attention, and I regret it now and know how to fix it. She got really upset about it and it’s been a month since we stopped talking.But, one of my friends likes her and constantly flirts. I’m worried that she might like him because they used to have a thing together. Anyway, her two best friends asked me to get them Starbucks tomorrow morning, and I don’t know if I should buy my ex-girlfriend one too, just to be nice. I’m starting to like her again but I don’t think she likes me anymore, but I thought she would enjoy it. She knows I still like her, so it might be awkward if she likes my friend and I buy her one. Although I did ask her best friend and she said my ex doesn’t like my friend. Her friends asked when the five of us were together, and she didn’t say anything to me. Should I buy her one and maybe have her not hate me as much, or just not risk it being awkward? I was thinking about putting a note on the cup, but we never got to saying “I love you”, so I don’t know what to write :/. Any help is appreciated!

  269. llb443 says:

    I live in London. My boyfriend has moved here 1 year ago for work. He broke up with his ex girlfriend prior to moving here as he doesn’t believe in long-distance relationships. We started to date in spring and now I figured out that he is still maintaining communication with her via e-mails. They are telling each other everything, he is sending her pics etc. Also he calls her “sweet, rosy girl” and sends her kisses. I do not feel good about it and am preparing to talk to him and clarify the situation. What is your opinion about it? Is there any point to talk to him? Do you think they split temporarily and I am just being used?

    Would really appreciate every opinion!

  270. Brody S says:

    What does my ex girlfriend mean by this- she says “btw i don’t have a bf..but am sort of after someone :) , i just didn’t want you to keep on hoping” – and the thing i dont get is that i trying to figure a way to get back together but she acts very very caring and supportive towards me, been extra nice and all…. and wishing me good night and sweet dreams and always wants to ttyl etc and likes make long eye contact with me and always how i am going (although it shows that she is making more effort since the breakup). She basically acts like she wanna b with me but- i dont get. Can a female plz help me on that!?!

  271. soccermaster1 says:

    I wanted some advice from others, i wanted to know serious opinions on my situation (mainly a girls point of view, because most girls think alike). But i’m having trouble accepting that my ex girlfriend broke up with me 6 months ago, like i know we are broken up and ive tried dating other girls but i always end up breaking up with them because im always thinking of her and i dont find it fair for them to date someone who doesnt like them, but there is so bad tension between me and my ex, we have talked in the past 6 months but i havent seen her for a while. Im just feeling as if i cant live without her (i know i can but i mean she was an awesome gf and id like to get another try at being her bf). We had dated for 3 years (from freshman year to senior year, we are in college now) before we broke up and after we broke up we were still having feelings for each other. This girl means everything to me, she was my first kiss, my first love and on top of it i lost my virginity to her. I just wanna know what people think on my situation and give me some advice on where to go with this and maybe get her to see me as she once did. I have had the idea to go to her house at night and throw a snowball at her window and get her to come out (like they do in those 80′s movies) because she likes that stuff and i thought it would be a sweet thing to do to show her my confidence and maybe show her how ive changed. I appreciate every answer i get. thank you

  272. mr flibble says:

    Me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up last week. It was kind of mutual, but I want him back. Don’t know if it’s over, or if we’re getting back together… whatever the case may be, this isn’t a stunt to get him back. We have been anticipating see The Dark Knight for over a year. Now he is a little absent minded, and didn’t think to get tickets for the midnight show (he wants to see it asap), and they’re all almost all sold out.

    I bought 5 tickets on fandango… for him n his friends. I wrote a little note saying: “Don’t think anything of this… take it for what it is. I know you wanted to see the midnight show, and I wanted you to be able to. No need to thank me.”

    Sweet&thoughtful or psycho&desperate ex girlfriend?
    I’m not going…. this is for him and his friends in lieu of the fact that we can’t share it together. He’s lonely right now too, and I know the power of friendship at a time like this. He has watched the trailers for this movie for a year, and I know this is something that he really wants to do. I want him to be able to enjoy it… this isn’t for me.

  273. Arminator says:

    I’m 21 and my Ex is 18. We dated for 7 months. Things got really bumpy about a month ago when she sent me a text saying “I don’t feel the same, and things have changed.” I agreed and we broke up. She completely did a 180 and hardly talked to me much. She wanted me to talk to her and give her attention but she wouldn’t reciprocate in the same way.

    She would still tell me she loves me back and call me after work and stuff. I was feeling a little better and starting to get over her then she says she doesn’t know what i want any more. It’s like she expects me to keep giving her all the attention when she asked for space and she never says sweet things to me any more or tells me what is going on. She says I just need to relax and that she just needs time.

    I know she’s busy with school and work, but we only see each other in person like once every two weeks. I cannot drive currently and she won’t hardly come see me. I didnt’ treat her badly when we were dating and I’m just really confused.

    Do I just need someone that wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them or should I just keep hanging on to this girl and possibly down the road she will just “need space” again and make me feel lonely while she stays detached from me.

    I know astrology isn’t 100% true but I’m a virgo and shes an aquarius. Im a “nice” guy and shes all over the place with ideas.

    Any advice?

  274. Matthew says:

    Just fyi I never did anything really “bad” to her we just had some arguments and I said some mean things.

    “I’m glad I lost my virginity to you because you’re beautiful, funny, and sweet. You’re perfect and I’m really lucky to have met you. The only thing I regret is being a bad boyfriend to you. Hopefully I can make it up to you by being a better friend. ”

  275. Dr Dorian says:

    we have a kid on the way and she means the world to me and i messed up by not showing her that and want nothing more then to work things out and be a part of her and my kids life what should i do to show her how i feel and that i’m willing to change for the two of them?
    we have a kid on the way and i have moved back to NV from TN because she did not want me there and i love her more then life itself and did mess up in the past and did not give her all that she should have but i see that now and want to fix it and show her i can be the person she feel in love with. but i dont know how to get her to see that she is my world and that i will change for her in any way she wishes please help me

  276. Lia-lu-li says:

    Ok my girlfriend of almost 3 years just broke up with me. Let me give you the story. We got together and hit it off. It was amazing we moved in together and we have been living with each other for over 2 years. We have been through so much together. We tried having a baby and she ended up miscarrying. It was one of the toughest times for both of us because we were so excited. So we got through that and as months went on it just seemed like she was always jumping on me about something so we would argue. This carried on for a while. We would have great moments together and we would have some bad. We were so in love so much we got our names tattooed on each other which i know is a big NO because it is a curse. But anyways we didnt see it as that we knew we could prove that wrong. So as time went on I would find wierd things like she told one of her friends that she made out with some dude but she said she just told her that to see what she would say. We argued about it and i threatened to leave but she begged me not to so i didnt. I did not want to leave anyway. There was some more things that happened but I know she never cheated on me. Well after all this it kinda made me lose focus on what I needed to do for her. I stopped doing the small things I needed to like telling her I loved her before she did and kissing her first before she kissed me. Its not that I didnt love her anymore because i was still In love with this girl. That feeling never left me. I also never did anything to her bad like cheating or anything and she knew I would never do that. Well that brings us to now. It happened about 3 weeks ago. She started talking about taking a break but it never really happened. So I just took off for a week. We still talked and things seemed alright. She asked me to come back up that weekend so i did. We had an amazing night. I could see it in her eyes that she was so happy to see me. The next day she left her facebook on and I saw a message from this guy. I cant remember exactly what was said but I know the word sweetheart was used and something about ill call you later. Well i confronted her about it and she erased it before I confronted her so I asked to look at her messages. She showed me but she didnt know I had already saw it so I just walked out. She called and text me saying it was nothing that they just talk and that was it. Well another week goes by and she says she wants space. She asked me to come back and see her but just to talk. When I get there I have flowers and she greets me with a long hug and kisses me on the lips numerous times. We sat and cried with each other all day and the hugging and kissing didnt stop the whole time. She told me that she just couldnt get back with me that she had been unhappy for a while. I left her crying and she told me as I left that she still loved me. Well after that we have talked a few times and she told me that she still hopes that we have a future together and that she will always love me. She told me that the new guy that she is talking to is not anything serious. She says she likes him but that they just talk. Now I see stuff on her facebook that seems like its more than that. I dont know what to do. I dont want to mess up any future chance I have with her because I am deeply in love with this girl. I honestly feel like she is the one. Sounds crazy but I know how in love she was with me. What do you guys think. I need some advice!! I know I shouldnt just wait around but im in no hurry to move on anyway so i dont know what to do.

  277. Nick says:

    Girls!!!!! Opinion?! I sent this message to my Ex-Girlfriend, and need to know what you girls think of it?
    We’ve been talking again for just a couple of messages, while she has a new boyfriend and its been positive and I sent this to her as the last message. I wanna get a girls opinion on this message and wanna know if it was any good and what you would be thinking if I sent you that. Thanks and the last part where i said when she turns 16 is because she said she had a plan for me when she turns that age.

    I sent this – Well, it was great talking to you, again most definitely Just felt a little uncomfortable, because I don’t wanna get in the way with you and this guy, because you seem so happy. That’s the only reason. No matter what happens, I’m still here. I promise. Until you turn 16!

    What would you girls think, if a guy or an ex boyfriend had sent you that? Did it help me out in anyway or did it ruin any chance of getting back together with her?

    She even told my sister that she would come back for me, but she seems so in love with this new guy. It doesn’t make any sense to me.

    I do have a new girl though.

    The 16 part meaning that she said her decisions are very limited on who she dates. She said her dad is extremely protective. So idk, if she was actually telling me the truth or just trying to let me down easy. But she also said she meant everything she said to me. But im still a little bit on the fence about everything.

    Very limited on who she dates until she turns 16.

  278. Alun J says:

    dated my girlfriend for 5 years and she randomly broke up with me, but shes told me a couple times she’d drop my stuff off. were both 20. its just some of my clothes she sleeps in and sweet shirts. I’m not too worried about it. but the only thing she brought back was a diamond bracelet i got her for her birthday recently and i told her she could keep that. she said she still loves and cares about me but just want to be single. but why wouldn’t she wanna give my things back? i stopped by one day and she said not to get them cause she’d bring them, but never did. all she brought was that bracelet. its been 10 days and she randomly texts me for 25 min every few days over stupid things. i think she wants my attention. but she tells me not to come over.

  279. blarg blarg says:

    okay, i started seeing this girl at the beginning of February who’d I’d like for like 8 months. it was great, then in march i asked her out, bought her flowers etc. everything was perfect, and my life was just how I’d wanted it to be for 8 months, and we were bestfriends, so that made it even better for us! we saw less of each other during about june-july because we had exams, but then after they were over, we saw each other more! we had out study leave, so we had a lot of time off before college. we’d already had a few arguments, but nothing major. but we started to argue a lot more for some reason, and over stupid little things. i went on holiday for a bit, and she text me this huge paragraph telling me how much she loves me, how well i treat her, and how badly she wants this to work, and said that we’re cutting down the stupid arguments, and i was really happy…i was constantly smiling! things seemed to be like how they were! then on the last day of my holiday, we had another stupid argument, and we like properly argued (over text) and then she just ended it, and we didnt speak for hours:/ then we sort of spoke about it all, and we agreed that it was probably best, even though i didnt want to, i just went along to please her:/ she told me this: ‘you’ll always be special to me and i will ALWAYS love you’ so we left it for a few days, talked a little bit, and then we went to our first day of college, and i felt fine…then i saw her, and it brought everything back:( it was so horrible:( we spoke a little bit that night, but not much:/ she also spoke to my best mate and told him that she missed me! and before you ask, yes, we had sex haha. i hope you dont get bored reading this half way through, and thanks for the help :) btw, we’re both 16

  280. Heath says:

    some sweet things your bf aid to you that you liked?
    i got no idea

  281. PillowMan1234 says:

    my bfs of just over a year’s ex girlfriend has never got over him in the years they have been split up. She has recently split up with her new boyfriend and has started texting my boyfriend as a result. Me and my boyfriend both know she is trying to get back into my boyfriends life, She texts him asking about me and being generally disrespectful towards me despite only meeting me once.

    My boyfriend is as far as i know in no way flirtatious with her but he seems to be enjoying the attention he gets from her. He tells me how much he hates her and is in no way interested in her..but him replying is sending her the wrong signals is it not??? And giving her reason to believe something might happen between them??

    He says if i trust him i have nothing to worry about, he friends with his other exes and i have no problem with that in the slightest, just i know that she has tried to cause trouble between us in the past and he has told me himself how skitso she was in the past!

    Help please!
    THANKS FOR ALL THE REPLYS :)

    its helped alot ti know for a fact northing sexual would ever happen because he has too much to loose with me for a quickie with an ex who is to put it frankly a total dog lol :p

    it just hurts my feelings that he feels the need to text her to get an ego boost cause thats all it is i know that for a fact.

    i find it hard to tell him not to text her at all because in my eyes he shouldn’t feel the need to talk with her anyway, not because i’ve told him not to text her. Shes a very vindictive person and its her i dont trust not him. He does make it clear to her he is very happy with me but isnt he condradicting himself by texting her anyway?!? xxx

  282. Chester says:

    Hi, recently my girlfriend of 6 years dumped me out of the blue after i came home from a trip to Japan to see my grandparents. When i came back it was strange because she did not want to see me right away. When we hung out she seemed all lovey but I know her so well i could just sense that it seemed like an act. I could see that she wasn’t enjoying spending time with me as she used to before i left.

    I confronted her, and she told me she doesn’t think we should go on with the relationship. Reason being: I was not physically attractive to her and i don’t turn her on anymore. She says i’m the sweetest guy in the world, and any girl would be super lucky to have me. I told her okay, there’s nothing i can do to fix that part since I cannot change my looks.

    I’ve been trying to cut contact ever since, deleted her off of Facebook stopped calling and texting. But she keeps texting me things like “It really sucks losing you, it really does” or “I can’t stop texting you if you want me to stop you have to block me” and how lucky the next girl that steals my heart would be. She just texted me that she misses me a lot.

    Needless to say I am in complete despair. Every time she texts me it hurts so much. Initially it is a rush of excitement, but it then mixes with the hopelessness and creates a devestating cocktail of despair. Even if she ever does want to come back, she’s cheated on me numerous time (not slept with but nudes and saying she loves another dude or plotting to go to another state to have an affair etc). I tell her to stop, and that it hurts when she texts me but she won’t stop. It’s as if the more i try to push her away the more she tries to break into my head.

    I think while i was gone something happened with some other guy. She probably felt guilty about it and didn’t know how to address it. Many of my friends disapproved of her for a while, now all of them disapprove and my parents don’t even want me to have anything to do with her.

    But to me, it’s hard to live without her. I am being strong and suppressing my emotions but it’s hard to bare. I sleep 2 or 3 hours a night and wake up with my heart beating excessively quickly and my hands trembling. I often feel nautious after a small meal.

    I’ve spoiled the crap out of this girl and gave her everything she ever needs. Helped her in every situation and i would’ve rather died for her than deal with this pain. But don’t get me wrong i am not suicidal, i want to live to see the day i enjoy life again. I go to a good school and have no debt. I have it pretty well off and everything about my life is great, except the best part of my life was her.

    To cope with this distress i already started taking a female friend of mine on a date. She seems interested in me, but i made it clear to her that i am not going to be dating anyone as long as the thought of my ex is lingering on at this level in my head.

    I plan to work out at school when school starts and live the college life all my friends were living. Only problem is I just had a huge blow to my confidence in my abilities to get women. The love of my life can’t be with me because i am not attractive.

    Maybe i’m not her type, but i’m tall (6,3) (half asian) skinny. I groom well. I drive a decent car. I am financially stable for my age, (i spoiled her with stuff). People say i’m funny, i am pretty good at making people laugh. I like video games, and snowboarding (which i frequently did with my ex, she was a gamer and tolerated any nerdy thing i did).

    However i did feel my ex was out of my league. She was probably the most attractive person out of all of my contacts. Atleast in my eyes.

    Any advice about anything will make me feel alot better. Even writing my thoughts out on here is therapeutic.

    Thanks.

  283. Arminator says:

    This is a long one….I met a man through Match.com back in the end of October. He was very persistant, very pleasant, sweet and seemed at the time caring and we met a week later in person and hit it off. He told me he was previously married for 13 years now divorced for 6 years but dated after those 6 years and fell in love with a jamaican girl who broke his heart and had been single from her for 2 months when I met him. I told him that was a really short period of time to be broken up and he said well there was no way they were getting back together as she does not ever want to see him again. This made me leary from the beginning but I thought lets give it a try since they only dated for 6 months. We have now been seeing each other off an on for 5 months now and it just keeps getting worse as 3 weeks after getting hot and heavy with him, he tells me over the phone that he can’t shake thinking of his ex girlfriend and dreaming about her and that he doesn’t want to hurt me. I have broken up and made up with him over these 5 months over the same topic because he keeps bringing her up. He will back out of things we plan because she is on his mind and will hurt me in that way. He brings her up practically every other week somehow and I finally told him I cannot do this anymore and that our relationship shold be getting better and not worse. We have gone from being intimate to friends who sometimes are intimate to just friends hanging out at his home and talking every day. He told me that he broke up with his ex girlfriend over something that he thought was not unforgivable. He said it had been over 2 weeks and he had not seen her and everytime he called her she would tell him she was tired and stressed out as she is opening a new hotel as she is a general manager. He got angry that she wouldn’t see him and played a message for her of some friend of his who is a girl that said they would go to a movie with him if his ex didn’t want to go and that was the big mistake and end of their relationship and the ex told him to never call her again. He got in his car, drove up to Jupiter where the ex lived and tried to talk to her and she would not talk to him and made him leave. It has now been 7 months since their break up and him seeing me 5 months out of that 7. Back to the present, someone is calling his home phone and hanging up each time he answers and yesterday he said he got another hangup at 4:43am…needless to say he thinks it is her and that she wants to hear his voice. He is still hoping and longing it seems for her and yet does not want me out of the picture. My birthday was this past weekend and he finally came out to be with me and my friends and celebrate and he also bought me a new cell phone as I broke the one I have. He is always going to the grocery store and buying me fruits and vegetables and so forth and seems to like my company. Says he cares for me but yet still saying he fell hard for his ex and can’t shake it. I told him that if she were to call him today that I would be history as I don’t have his heart and that he was hurting me tremendously. I truly do not know what to do and have broken it off and told him this is nonsense. Please help.

  284. Harry says:

    Hello, so im gonna try keep this short and sweet…its a huge story…

    when i went to uni 2 years ago, i met a girl i started to like, she liked me also, but we both wanted to just be friends, so turned pretty much into best friends…we had romantic moments…stayed togethor after nights out… (no sex) and were close… we werent anything more than friends. we dated other people had our own things…i stopped liking her as more than a friend, i think she did too…and we were just real close friends, it was cool.

    then in 2nd year we got distant, lived further apart, but then started getting closer again randomly…talking a lot, meeting, and it felt different…at christmas, she went out with mates on nights out for her birthday and new years…i woke up to missed calls and texts saying i love you and all this stuff. i knew she liked me but i wasnt sure i did like her.

    then we had a night out in january, she came along with her friends…she took me to one side, told me she liked me…i said i know, and we got togethor, everyone said at last…blah blah etc etc we dated for a month or so, until it went bad, i think we were friends for too long…it didnt go well, but i fell for her really hard, and i hurt her in the end. i realised i loved her after we broke up but it was too late.

    we were close friends after, but i had other feelings…there was still an awkwardness there when we met. i told her i loved her, and then she got distant, she met someone else. then months along the line…she hurt me a few times, always seemed embaressed, did some really hurtful things, told me she never wanted to see me again because i talked shit about her…i think someones spreading rumors about things i apparently said, but i never did. the thing im offended about is that she never wanted to talk about it at all, just lost complete faith in me, and lost trust in me. i guess we needed space after breaking up?

    but now she moved to another country, it doesnt matter to me if shes with another guy, because in all honesty, our friendship meant more. i realised this, i wasnt the standard guy in the friendzone like everyone probably thinks. she was like my sister for so long, might sound weird after dating her, but i guess thats why it didnt work.

    but after all this, she hurt me so much more, turned a lot of people against me, i have no words for how angry she made me. but in the end, we had good times when we were friends, we went through some serious shit, backed each other up all the time. Now we dont talk at all, she blocked me off facebook, because she thinks i did something (I dont know what), talking about her behind her back, i have no clue. But she hurt me far worse, its been a few months…im thinking of sending her a text message, just saying something…like we were both childish, our friendship should mean more, im trying to open up a window of opportunity to be friends again what do you think? is it wrong to forgive her for this? is it wrong to want her back? I believe forgiving is so hard, but I think it will bring me peace…also kinda wary. im planning to say something in a few weeks, just need a bit more time to chill out and think. she offended and humiliated me so much, i feel like she doesnt deserve to have me in her life. but then again, i know she cared for me.

    is it wrong to forgive her? what should i say to her? how can i forgive her? she hugely stabbed me in the back over the course of months, and is angry for me for something i didnt even do. she wont listen to reason i have to say.
    LOL didnt quite work short and sweet eh?

  285. NC Baller says:

    I’m just gonna make this short. But I could really use long answers. I’m in 8th grade now, sweet, sensitive and overromantic. And the most mature person I know. Last year. I was in 7th grade and dated an 8th grader who’s currently in 9th. We dated for two months. I loved her. She left me and broke my heart. I suffered over her for 8 months and throughout that time we fought, and when I tried to apologize all she did was reject my apology and completely bag on me. So now I know she’s a b*tch. But I also know that I’m prone to relapses. Just today, I looked in the mirror, and I saw something on my lip that I normally would’ve looked over. But I saw a scar on my lower lip from chapping from the winter air. This isn’t that big a deal, but this girl I dated so long ago (who was my first love btw) had that exact same scar in the exact same place. I know it’s only one detail, but I had this premonition that I was gonna be like her. But she changed from shy sweet sensitive girl to outgoing b*tch throughout the course of our relationship. Am I turning into her? Am I going to be an 8th grader dating a seventh grader? Did god give me her as an example of what NOT to be like if/when I date this 7th grader. No one comes to mind, but the anniversary of me and my ex’s first date is 12/31. Does that mean that my first date in my ex’s position could happen 12/31 this year? Am I turning into her and is this some sort of message from god? (I’m not a spiritual person) or is this just the start of another relapse that needs to be stopped now?

  286. uberfailz says:

    I dated this girl for 1 year and half, we have been on and off. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder…. This girl is very sweet, and so naive (She trusts everyone except the people who love her) I have witnessed so many things with her, she beat me up so many times, and I never touched her. Physical abuse, premscuity, Constant and continuous lies about everything, everthing, everything. I love her so much, and I dont want her to get hurt. She is on hardcore drugs, trashiest friends ever, they even beat her sometimes, she hooks up with like 5 guys at the same time. She basically have a gangster minset, and she comes from a very good christian family, they dont have any financial problems, and her parents are really nice people and they would do anything to help her out. and I tried telling her that all those people she is hanging out with are losers. If I am nice to her she would just smile and leave with another guy for days, if I tell her to leave me alone, man, she flips out, and be “I hate you, dont leave me” (typical BPD). Yesterday for example she wanted to talk, and she started bringing p the relationship issues, and then she attacked me (I got scars, bite marks, bruises, and she burned me with her ciggarette) and she was telling me “I got a boyfriend, I dont give a **** about you”!! I really dont care, I mean yes, she is playing all those sick jelousy games but I really care about her “Probably as a little sister who has so many emotional problems.” She was also telling me you either love me or hate me “again typical BPD”. Her dad called the cops when he saw her attacking me and she is now in jail. the thing is, is that she is a little one, she is 5.2, and am 6.3 but I dont wanna hit her, its disrespectful. Any advise?!!

  287. maskills24 says:

    So I’m a lesbian and I dated this girl awhile back and it only lasted 6 months because she said I was to nice and sweet which I don’t get??? So I’m still clueless about that after we called it quits and agreed to just be friends. so I call sometimes to check up on her and I’m not calling her like I used to when she was my girlfriend. I’m very busy trying to get ready for school and working not to mention I have an exam coming up for nursing. When she calls its always stressful its never nothing positive and its always about something I did to break us up. So whatever I let it go because I have other things in my life I’m planning for and so I blocked her number. She calls me from a different phone and tells me why I never call then proceeds to tell me that she became straight for the 1st time, not only the guy that she was with not even a month and he is beating on her but she got pregnant for the 1st and had a miscarriage because he violently beat her!!!!! I wish she would stop calling me with her depressing news all the time because everything she says is never positive. How would I go about telling this girl to leave alone???? She always call me for my sympathy and she’s not doing anything to help herself. I’m really sick and tired of it. I’m starting to think she is a emotional vampire. please someone help. Serious replies only please

  288. Hayden says:

    that a guy has ever said to you

    and does it get annoying when a guy is sweet all the time?

  289. Jairo says:

    Well, my girlfriend and I shared a beautiful year together. And like all couples we had our arguments…and Eventually she decided she didn’t want to feel tied down in high school anymore.
    By the way, I am 16 and she 15. We still talk sometimes casually.

    It has been about a month and a half since the break up…And I still REALLY care about her. She however says she is over me and doesn’t feel the same way about me as she used to. But I would really like to show her that I still care and am thinking about her. She has a soft spot for sweet little romantic things and I think sending her a cute good morning text would make her smile.

    Should I do it? Or would it be a bad idea? Here are two that I have planned. Tell me which one would be the best to send her.

    Text 1:
    “Hello Hayley. This is Connor. I know I am up super duper early, but I just wanted to be the first one to tell you to have an amazing day! :D

    Or

    Text 2:
    “Hello Hayley. This is Connor. I just wanted to be the first one to tell you to have a beautiful day. I am thinking about you.”

    Which one should I send? Do you guys have any suggestions as to what else I could say to her?

    Thanks.

  290. Jon P says:

    i really like my ex girlfriend nd she sort of likes me 2 i dnt know wat 2 do
    she said she not ready 4 a bf yet
    so wat do i do ask her out or wait(but 4 how long)
    its been an week nd a half

  291. mendhak says:

    He promised, 3 times already in the past, to end the affair but he did not. Now he made the same promise and I accepted him back. Should I believe him again?

  292. stephen m says:

    What is the most sweetest thing to say to my ex girlfriend to get her back? She still likes me and the reason we broke up is because I argued with her which I regret and I told her I’m sorry and she forgave me. I’ve tried a few things but what is something really sweet that will give her the feeling she had before?

  293. uberfailz says:

    Quick and to the point…
    My Ex Girlfriend and I were together for a year and half. I was very very much in love with her and she was with me as well. We never fought with hatred, never threw hurtful words at eachother, basically during that year and half we were made for eachother. I loved every inch about her, i would do anything for her and she would express the same. Anyway we broke up after she finished her freshman year at uni, ( She had moved 40 min away to school so for her freshman year it was long distance) it was her idea initially and i relunctly supported it when i realised that it was something that she needed to do for herself. To find herself if you will. During the first 3 months of NC she texts me out of the blue and we end up going out to lunch, a week later i go to her house and we have sex and spend the night together. We kissed in the morning and that was it. I didnt talk to her for 6 months. During the next 3 years we kept in contact, meeting up occasionaly for lunch to catch eachother up on our lives, everytime we would see eachother it would be great. It was like i was seeing her for the first time again, butterlies would almost make me want to fall over. Even after all this time, when we made eye contact it was intense, i mean we would be talking normal but it was if our eyes were making love. She pulled on her hair and would stare at my lips while telling me about her life in college. We would finish our lunch and go to our seperate lives until the next inevitable meet up where would spend our hour together. I would leave the restaurant as if i had won the lottery! How ridculous of me to feel that way, you would of thought she had exclaimed to the world that she wanted to get married. I think i felt that way because thats the way she makes me feel on a biological level, no matter the external circumstances she probably always make me feel amazing. Anyway my point i guess im trying to make is after three long years she has not taken another boyfriend, she has hooked up with other guys as i have been with other girls, but she has not committed to anyone else.

    Im in a semi relationship now and im not going to lie I go to sleep thiniking about her. In fact in 3 years not a single day has gone by that i dont think about her. Its not like i have put my life on hold for her either. I got to school, work, have plenty of friends, i am an artist currently working on a graphic novel. Ive had plenty of time to myself, been with several women, met tons more and nobody even begins to compare. Last time i saw her 4 months ago she asked about my gf and how long we’d been together, when i told her 9 months her response was “Really?” in a somewhat annoyed, disbelief tone. I kind of diffused it by saying how i wasnt really that happy because to be honest im not.The reason im writing this right now is because we made plans to get lunch again when she comes to town and Im looking foward to it but this time its different. Shes moving 9 hours away and im excited for her but of course im going to be unhappy about it. Im terrified of her just slipping out of my life for good. Problem is im so afraid to become vunerable to her and tell her how i feel. I dont want to ruin the little bit of contact we have.

    WHAT I NEED TO ASK THE LADIES (no shouting intented) Why after Three years has she kept in contact with me? She knows were not “Friends” in the sense of calling me about her problems. Why when i see her does she smile, flirt, and give me that i contact we had when were together? WHY after three years has she not had a boyfriend??? She can get any guy she wants and im not messing around, shes absouletely gorgeous. And to make things clear im not trying to get backtogether with her, at this point of our lives we just cant be together BUT Do you think somewhere in her mind she wants to keep in contact in case we ever do have the oppurtunity we could possibly try it out? At this point in my life just the tiny little chance that she could feel even half the way i do would make me the happiest person. Thanks for reading the whole thing and thanks to all the people who only read a piece.

  294. Elijah luv says:

    so my ex girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, and i really want her back.. how long should i wait to surprise her with flowers.. and apologize for i have done wrong.. i really love her…. ps.. i didnt cheat on her or be over controlling… i lied about a few things… I was thinking about waiting til november and surprsing her at work with flowers and apologizing… last time we talked she said we cant get back together…but we have broken up and got back together before..

  295. mr flibble says:

    During the HOH endurance comp, D-ick was saying some horrible nasty stuff about “sweets”. I am assuming this is Zach’s girlfriend or ex girlfriend? I didn’t start watching the feeds until recently and “sweets” has been mentioned several times. Does anyone know the general story? Why does D-ick keep mentioning this? Did sweets dump Zach right before the show, or is she mad at Zach about something, and that’s why D-ick keeps bringing her up? To screw with Zach’s head or something-

  296. supernerd567 says:

    It was my first relation and I really didn know what should be done plus we didn hang out except once … i didn know if i really love her or not … when we broke up after about 3 months i found how madly i love her … i felt that am missing sth in my life … i missed everything about her … we used to be good friends after the break but of course not like when we were in relation am but the probelm is that since i discovered how much i love her, i have been so jealous about her that made me get through wrong turns … i didn everything that shouldn be done to get back …
    - i went to beg her to give me another chance she insisted that we be just close friends cuz she lost her feelings to me
    - i argued with her when she talked to guys
    - i argued with her when i send her a msg or sth n she doesn replay
    - i argued about anything that made me felt that she doesn care like before
    - Honestly in our argueings i get so upset that i sometimes say stuff that i dun really mean like once i told her my life was better without u … it was really hard n i know n i apologized to her
    - i told her i love u n sweet words everytime we talked she she was tryin as much as she can to evade me
    - i pressed a lot on her that at last she told me that we can’t be close anymore n it’s better if we both went on in our life n that this will help me … at that time i felt destroyed
    So please i need some advice … i know it’s hard but i hope that u understand that she’s my first love and i just can;t forget about her and go seek for another one … i just need any advice that will help me get her back

  297. ibjammin44 says:

    So here is my dilema…. my ex girlfriend broke my heart not once but twice over two years of dating. Cheated on me, lied to me, etc., really bad stuff.

    Anyways… now i have a new girlfriend the nicest, caring, loving girl in the whole wide world and i couldnt picture myself without her. However, on a daily basis i am having dreams with my ex girl friend either we are together or apart or we see each other or we get into a fight, then i wake up and thank god i am no longer with her.

    Can someone please suggest something i can do to stop thinking or dreaming about this?

  298. Jon P says:

    OK So ayear ago i broke up with my ex girlfriend my me and my ex girlfriend are best friends now and we have been for awhile now
    and then this is when my friend now comes in so i hang out with my ex girlfriend still but where just friends nothing more nothing less and today my girlfriends best friend tells me it makes her mad and makes her feel sad when i hang around my ex
    but i hang out with my girlfriend know so much more and i care about my girlfriend more then anything but she gets sad about me hangin with my ex what should i do about it
    but as im saying i care about my ex like a brother nothing more

  299. Kaden says:

    My ex boyfriend and I had a really bad relationship. It was very emotionally and sexually abusive, and it’s taken a long time to move on. I’ve healed and forgave him, and he has said he changed. It hard to believe that. I do feel like he stole my innocence, and he’s recently started seeing someone else. The girl he’s seeing seems very sweet, and it drives me crazy thinking he might hurt her the way he hurt me. What should I do? Do I just stand back and hope it doesn’t happen again? Should I warn her, or ask if he’s told her what happened between us? At what point do you stand up and say something, and at what point are you just considered a crazy ex girlfriend? Thanks in advance!

  300. Jose B says:

    I have a ex-girlfriend who contacted me off the internet. I hadn’t seen her in 10 years so I thought it might be nice. To make a long story short. She went psycho made a bunch of threats and then threatened a lawsuit with her brother as a lawyer. Any suggestions on how to get my dog and baseball cards back, and in the process get a psycho off my back. I have always been nice about this stuff and I got screwed so maybe I just need some sweet revenge. I figured I would be creative and find out a few ideas.

  301. alberto s says:

    so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months now.. before me he had been in a two year relationship with a girl who made him soo unhappy that he had done some pretty terrible things to her to get out of the relationship.. over all he is actually a sweet guy, probably the nicest guy i have meet or dated. hes defiantly a keeper but the thing is i feel like he is int over his ex.. he tells me all the time that he is but i dont know.. he has already called me by her name not just once but twice!! the first time we were play fighting and he called me her name.. i was soo sad i thought i was going to cry and he felt so bad that he promised me he would never call me that again.. but sure enough just the other day when he went to call for me he called me it agian.. im not sure what to do.. what would you do if your boyfriend called you by his ex girlfriends name.. am i just over reacting?

  302. blarg blarg says:

    I thought I could move on .. But I couldn’t so I broke up with my girlfriend because I can’t get over my ex. And I can see that I was taking my frustration out on my girlfriend. I want her back! we don’t really talk no more. I call her . Sometimes she calls back. She doesn’t talk to me long. I really want her back. She has a new boyfriend now. What can I do? Can you ladies give me an example of what would be the sweetest thing your ex could do to get you back? I don’t care if its way out there. Korny over the top or what ever. Please help me!!
    even tips on how I can get her to even consider getting back with me. I don’t care how long it takes. I well be persistance

  303. Mike says:

    Ok so here is my dilemma, when i broke up with my ex-girlfriend (we didnt go out long but knew each other a while) we didn’t speak much for a while, then we started talking again, but not like it used to be (which i expected) but one day she told me something kinda…but said it in code…and then i asked her straight up about this problem (which i do not want to disclose) and she said she isn’t saying anything but i didn’t understand why she was dropping little hints if she didn’t want me to know?
    But anyway i was concerned about her and one of her friends i go way back with, she’s a really good friend so i went to her and told her i was concerned about her etc… because i didn’t want to just ignore it cause i would be a shitty person if i did & if anything happened to her i would never forgive myself knowing i could of done something about it but my friend already knew about this problem and told me what it stems down to (her ex boyfriend before me) and then i told her (my ex) that i was worried about her etc.. and that i told her friend i was also & my ex then text me saying she hates me more than shes ever hated anyone and that i’m scum etc… this confused me because i just want her to be ok and now we are not friends and don’t speak at all as see told me to never ever speak to her again (it’s been about a month and a half)

    and recently i have just found out that they may be seeing each other again, and i have to say i wasn’t happy given all he has done to her (cheating on her and going away with that girl whilst seeing her/calling her fat/telling her she needs to lose weight/dissing the way she looks/telling her his then girlfriend after her is going to beat her up) and i just can’t seen to understand how she could give this piece of shit another chance?

    but my personal opinion is that she is just around to occupy him while he is home for the summer or till something better comes along and then he will blow her off when he goes back to uni and i just dont want to see her get hurt like he did the first time again but i really believe she will and i dont know what to do because i don’t want to see her get hurt like she did the first time.

    advice please..

  304. Brody S says:

    me and my ex partner split up,6 weeks ago. she has told me recently tht she is pregnant.. about 8 weeks gone.. i want her back what are the chances of her coming back to me???
    we split up after a drunken argument nothing serious at all…
    im really stressed out because i want to make a go of things,, she has told me she will think about gettin back with me… her mother is also wantin us to get back so im kinda hoping she will talk to my ex…
    my ex grew up without a father figure in her life when she was younger so thats gota be a postive for her wantin her babys father with her right????
    i spoke with her on sunday night.. and i told her that i still loved her even tho it had been 6 weeks…i said that im willing to do anything to get her back.. even if its a trial.. and also sed its defo worth a shot cos if we dont try we will never no…

    input from people wud be much apprectiated!!!!

  305. Hayden says:

    I have kinda cut her completely out of my life…she has really hurt me and i can’t function while in contact with her…i really want to make her understand how much she has hurt me…should i communicate that to her?

  306. Picean says:

    I asked this before so ill try again, basically i dated a girl for 4 and a half months and i thought she was the sweetest girl in the world, i knew she was going to college when i met her but we decided to date and see how it goes, her sister told me she looked for any old reason to end it so she could be single for college, she lied to me and all our mutual friends rather then being honest and it hurts because i never thought she was like that. if anyone can tell me a similar story or some advice id appreciate it
    were both 18 we broke up 3 weeks ago ish, she was my second girlfriend i was her first
    Hey “matt” go fuck yourself hows that?

  307. Heath says:

    would girls mind if im still friends with my ex girlfriend? Theres really nothing left between us, but we both decided that we have been together too long to just drop each other completely. She is a hairdresser and she still cuts my hair also. So would a new girl understand that i still wanna be friends with her?

  308. toysruslover says:

    So recently,I’ve been in a situation in my life where I’m wondering if ex girlfriends have the upper hand more so then the girlfriend. Like,if a guy and a girl break up and she decides to come back into his life even though he has a girlfriend what do you think would happen? He would go with the ex he had more history with or stick with the new girlfriend? The situation is the guy and girl broke up because like there was honest issues but they were so in love. The girl moved away to a different country then comes back. Do you think he’ll leave his girlfriend for his ex who he was madly in love with?
    When I say upper hand I mean more of an advantage. An advantage to getting the guy back.

  309. Victoria T says:

    So I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now and my ex girlfriend just texted me after not talking to me for months telling me she misses hanging out with me and more things like that so I told her about how much I love my girlfriend to make sure she doesn’t try to get back with me, I really doubt she would but just making sure. So as soon as I started talking to her I told my girlfriend that I was because if I want her to trust me I think she should know something like that. She got very angry, not at me but my ex for trying to hang out with me. Me and my ex were very good friends and our relationship only lasted 3 months so I don’t she anything wrong with seeing her again. I want my girlfriend to be as happy as can be but it would be nice to see someone I hadn’t talked to for a while. Do you think it would be alright for me to see this girl? My girlfriend knows how much I hate people that cheat but she thinks my ex will try and I guess turn me on or something, I don’t really know. I want to here what you guys think about this because I would never ever do anything to ruin what I have with my girlfriend now.

  310. Praveen says:

    So last night I had a dream that I saw my ex girlfriend of 6 months at a restaurant. (Like a Denny’s or Red Lobster) I tried to shield my kid brother and direct him passed her but I gave in and started talking to her. She seemed to try and not pay me any attention. Almost annoyed; and she looked different from what I remembered, almost older and a tad bit ugly. (Like an anorexic chain smoker of 40 years look.) It kinda fuzzy but I think I told her that im sorry and that I still loved her and her new Boyfriend who for some reason was Asian appeared. He didn’t say anything just was silent behind her left shoulder. She then began to tell me when I feel the emotional pain, when I cant go any longer when I get so low to the point of me wanting to kill myself, then I will know or understand. O.o I woke up this morning and I was almost late to class. Any help?
    I forgot to say I didn’t even know her new BF and I felt like he wanted to fight me. Hope this helps I guess.

  311. Kristian says:

    me and me ex boyfriend were friends three years prior to the start of our relationship. we broke up because i was going to highschool and he was still in middle school because hes a year younger. we told each other we would still be friends but its hard when you dont see each other everyday. i miss him as a friend but he might think i want him back but i have moved on. whenever i text him or something he keeps it short and never keeps it going for long. he also has a new girlfriend. so guys, in general do u dislike all your ex girlfriends or were you able to repair your friendships?

  312. Jermaine J says:

    please tell me how i can get my ex girlfriend back. any tips? any steps? please tell. Plus she has another boyfriend so i dont know what to do:((((((((((((((

  313. whites are not the only racists says:

    Me and my now ex-girlfriend broke up like 2 days ago because she didn’t love me anymore and she was feeling very guilty for making out with a guy while we were on break. Ever since than it’s like we were faking it, arguing a lot and being very distant. I have been trying to avoid the break up for ages because I unconditionally love her to bits and I still do. I miss her so much.

    So she has always texted back, and I have been trying to act as friendly and “calm” as possible and not sounding obsessed or upset or provoking what so ever. But I have a gut feeling that this won’t make her come back, or love me again. I am really scared that she will just forget about me in a couple of days because she is very sociable, and occasionally gets drunk. Guys are all over her too, it’s not hard for her to get a hook and I am scared shitless.

    Anything I can do or am I just building sand castles in my head that this will sort itself out and we can be a couple again ??
    I meant to say that “So far she has always texted FIRST”

    Dunno if it will make a difference but I am desperate :(

  314. Con Orpe says:

    My ex-girlfriend and I, whom was also my first love, had a wonderful relationship of over 4 years throughout high school years. We broke-up due to life changes and growing up. Recently, her best friend since childhood past away in a car accident.

    The thing is, she is currently in a serious relationship with another man (whom is a terrific and great guy who loves her immensely).

    Would it be rude as ‘the ex-boyfriend’ to contact her by phone or see her in person to give her my condolences, or even possibly show up at the funeral?

    I would hate to intrude or make the situation awkward. What should I do?

  315. happyha31 says:

    my ex girlfriend just dumped me… :(

  316. Andres C says:

    My boyfriend and I have been together officially for 5 months but have dated for 8 months. We are currently around 25 and 26 years old. He has a 19 year old ex-girlfriend who has created big problems in our relationship.

    Two years ago they were friends but turned into lovers (intimatly and were in love). Unfortunatly, the relationship ended because he realizes they were both at different stages of life. Shortly after they broke up, my boyfriend and I met after a month of their break up. They were still friends but once in a while she’ll tell him she loves him and misses him. He tolerates this and still kept her as friend. I struggled with it for a while until New Year’s Eve she called at 2 a.m. I was next to him and he flips his phone and states “Oh…it’s Sunny!” He then went back to bed. When he realized how it affected me he told her not to keep in touch with for the meantime. She called and yelled at him and was really upset. He assured me that it was over.

    Two weeks ago my boyfriend bumped into her at the university. They talked and she had a boyfriend. But within a few days she calls and told my boyfriend she wants to break up with her boyfriend. My boyfriend even gave her advices but went back on his words. I was very upset and told him how I felt. In front of me he called her and ended the friendship, deleted the number, and assured me how much he loved me and he doesn’t want to see me cry. After he did that, she wrote him a message on facebook stating, “Well…fine! Be a looser! You’re not invited my graduation, family gatherings, any special of that sort. Plus, good luck with conquoring your fears! I can’t believe you’ve became a jerk and especially someone I love as much as my family.” It was last night my boyfriend finally realized why it affected me so much because his ex wasn’t over him and expected them to be together. He deleted her profile and assured me it’s over for real.

    I trust my boyfriend. I need to know if me being upset was alright. I mean I didnt’ want to make it hard but I’ve been so patient with them being friends and understood their past. I do have the right to express my feelings, right? To make sure he understood me? Sometimes I feel his feelings still linger around her. However, I need to really get over it and try to make things better for him and me. I love him so much but I’m always worried what this ex would do to him if I’m not next to him. I told my boyfriend if she was a true friend, she would have respected him and his decisions and be happy that he is happy. But she came back at him in a rude way. What can I do to get over this whole drama? I’m always afraid she will do something to jeopardize my relationship with him.

  317. Cole says:

    Alright guys and ladies I know this might be a bit long but please find it in your heart to hear me out…

    Best answer will be chosen and I will give out points if I can…

    Basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. We’ve known each other since high school for 4 years and dated for 2 and a half years. We’re now both at the same college. We’re also currently friends (Or we’re trying our best to be)

    Around 4 months ago I introduced my ex-girlfriend to my ex-friend which I regret doing to this day. Now at the time my ex and I were having problems and my ex-friend was also having problems with his girlfriend. To make a long story short basically my ex and my ex-friend ended up kissing each other and my ex spending the night at his apartment (There was no sex or so my ex said)

    Despite all this, my ex says that she still loves me and she regrets what she did to me. She said that she wanted a future with me only and that she only had a crush on my ex-friend. Also, she said that she doesn’t trust him because my ex-friend basically wanted more with my ex while still dating his girlfriend at the time.

    However, despite all this, my ex girlfriend still talked to him when he talks to her first through text messaging or AIM. I’ve told her a lot of times that I was a little bit jealous and uncomfortable with her doing this because I got hurt with what she did to me before. Unfortunately, she tells me that she doesn’t want to fight my battles for me since I don’t talk to my ex-friend anymore and that she doesn’t have a problem with him and that’s why she is still friendly with him. He’s the only person I don’t want her talking to but she still does.

    Yesterday, my ex-friend called my ex and told her that his girlfriend just dumped him which pisses me off because he also asked where my ex-girlfriend and I stood right now. Was that rude? She literally shrugged off his question and changed the subject. He also kept literally asking what she was doing even though his girlfriend just dumped him earlier that morning.

    Today, my ex-girlfriend and I got into a fight today because I told her that I felt uncomfortable when she talks to him. Basically, she burst into tears when I told her that if she couldn’t do it then I wouldn’t trust her with bigger things because this is ridiculous. That’s when she kicked me out.

    I feel really down about this and I don’t know what to do. Was it right for me to be jealous? Does my ex-girlfriend still care about me even with all those things she did? What should I do now? What will happen later? I don’t want to leave her because I’m still very much in love with her…

    If you can analyze each paragraph for me it would be greatly appreciated

    -Broken-Hearted Man

  318. rndmaktn says:

    me and my ex girlfriend have been broken for a long time now and we’ve been always in touch. she has a boyfriend and that’s the reason it’ll be wrong for me to like her but i don’t know if she is playing games with me. when we sit next to each other she puts her head on my shoulder and grabs my arm and we end up holding hands and she Does not pull back, and when that happens its when my feeling toward her comes back. she tells her friends like if she complaining about me but i know she likes it. and she really like her boyfriend. is there anything i can do about it?
    you guys have good responses

  319. Jose B says:

    I love and miss my ex girlfriend of two years soo drastically I can hardly function. We have been broken up for 3 weeks today and I know she still loves me. I hurt her so badly but she said we could get back together someday. I have been suffering from grief and depression every single day so badly. We still talk minimally usually about once a day. At first we talked a lot and even still hung out. Last night a friend of ours asked her whats going on with her and I and she said she doesn’t know. She said she still loves me and misses me but she is enjoying her self now that she is single. She told him that she isn’t interested in seeing anyone else. She said she is sick of driving me to work ” I don’t drive” and paying for two people cigarettes. I completely understand that and maybe I didn’t show her how much I appreciated those things. I do know that at work I get a higher wage than she does. I also have nothing to show for it because i truthfully spent every penny I made on her. I actually owe her money because she would pay for things i offered to buy for her when I didn’t have any money. She would pay for them and I would actually pay her back for it. She was by FAR the best girlfriend Ive ever had and I really really don’t want to loose that. I know what I did was wrong but my friend said she doesn’t seem all that up set about what happened anymore and that she just enjoys being free and feels like she doesn’t have to drive me around and buy me things anymore. Please if someone could tell me what to do I would REALLY appreciate it. thank you

  320. mike s says:

    I love my ex girlfriend ever but she broke up with me.What are other ways to win her back..

    Please help..I really need your advice.

  321. ericmreitz says:

    my ex-girlfriend and i desided to stay friends after we broke up as she wasent ready for a relationship and just wished to be friends for know. one of my friends wanted to hook me up with a girl and suggested that it may make me feel better if i was dating. but i told him i didnt want to but in the end i rushed and asked her out. we are currently dating but i have alot of feelings towards my ex. i have been talking to her and she believe she made a mastake when she broke up with me and that she still cares alot about me. she was one of the few girls i had talked about marrage with and i still care deeply for her. i was thinking about brake up with my currently girlfriend as i see it isent fair to her if im thinking about a diffrent girl when im dating her. should i brake up with my current girlfriend?

  322. toysruslover says:

    At this point in my life I am terrified, desperate and down right miserable as I should be for this mistake that I might have made. My ex-girlfriend claims that she is seven weeks pregnant with my child. She states that she went to the doctor and took a urine pregnancy test which resulted positive. I myself have not seen the results of this test. When we first thought that she could’ve been pregnant about a month ago I rushed to the store to purchase a pregnancy test which resulted in a negative reading. She says that she is suffering from pregnancy like symptoms such as weight gain and vomiting. I have not seen her since the first time that we tested. Therefore I cannot validate any of this.

    I know for a fact that I do not love her. So I do not think marriage is in the question. However, in the event that she is pregnant and does have the child, what should I do care for it? I know it’s a little late for me making an attempt at responsibility, but I do not want to be another dead beat dad that the world is so full of. Please spare me the berating comments – I know I’ve made a grave mistake. Mainly what I want to know is how other people in a similar situation have coped and carried on with their lives while not ignoring the child aspect all together. Thank you.

  323. Caltel T says:

    me and my ex-girlfriend are really close, ive tried getting over her but i just cant do it, every time i see her i get this amazing butterflies feeling in my stomach that i have never felt with ne 1 else. she says that she really really likes me but only as a very very good friend, and also she has told me that she has a crush on one of my mates!!! i think its to late to try and get her back now so has anyone got any tips to help me get over her (ignoring her wont work before any1 ses it coz shes in all of me lectures)

    thanks you xx

  324. skillz says:

    Why did my ex girlfriend randomly text me? We broke up a while ago and I haven’t talk to her since. I deleted her number so I then i got a text from a number I didn’t know and I looked at my recent calls and it was her number. But why would she text me randomly? All she said was “Heyy . ” I don’t know if I should respond to this because I moved on in a better and happy relationship.

  325. krow147 says:

    Hello yahoo anwers. Got a quick question. It involves still having thoughts about an ex girlfriend.

    My ex broke up with me over a year ago after a 2 year, drama filled relationship. I haven’t seen her or have spoken to her in over a year. And I believe she is still with the person she started dating right after our breakup. In hindsight, it was for the best. My life has a lot less drama, and though I am still single, other aspects of my life have fallen into place, which probably wouldn’t have happened if i was still with her. She had a very different disfunctional upbringing, whereas I had a very traditional upbringing. I state that only to say that is probably what contributed to a lot of our differences (Her mom had 4 different kids with for different men, none of which he had relationships with, etc. and just used the guys as a means to get by). I felt used a lot in our relationship. Anyways, around this time of year is when the biggest arguments came up. Two years ago around Halloween, she betrayed me so bad I started seeing a therapist. A year ago is when our final breakup happened, right after we got back together to find out she was seeing other people and seeing me at the same time, and lying about it.
    I just want her out of my head. I have to admit, I am still drawn to her beauty, or at least, what I remember of it. Help.

  326. Only Business says:

    Okay this bothers me alot. I mean alot, alot. I love my boyfriend of over a year very much and he says he loves me more than anyone else as well. Now I am waiting on sex, we do do “things” together but sex can come later. He’s fine with waiting and thinks its better too. Now I am totally hung up over his one ex girlfriend -she pushed him into having sex when they were only 14. He says he didn’t love her and he knew it then even, he just caved in since there’s pressure on guys. He tells me all the time he wish he never did and she ment nothing to him and he really loves me and regrets not waiting. I’ve asked if he thinks about her when we do things or if he thinks about her alot and what they did and he says no he really never does and he usually stresses that. Sometimes when we’ve discussed it he even seems like he’s about to cry. Now my question is , guys is this true? I read things about guys thinking of their exes during sex and what not or of past sex and I hate thinking of that…
    So in this case if it was you or your experienced something similar… would you be truley sorry? Would it still be a huge turn on thinking of your ex, or would make you sad and regretful or mad? PLEASE help me out here this bugs me alot sometimes trying to figure it out…

  327. Dr Hank says:

    I need help dealing with a break up with my bipolar ex girlfriend. We were together for just about 3 years with a few break ups in between. We did love each other very much. But when she had her manic stages she most of the time didn’t want to be around me. She wanted to go out and party with her friends. She lied a lot and talked to other guys a couple times. It was just so hard to trust her. When i confronted her about some things she flipped out totally and made it impossible to communicate. She was very selfish also. She did whatever she wanted to do no matter if it hurt me or not.

    When she was her normal self we had so much fun. We did a lot of things joked around, and the spark was still there. She was very nice and did things for me. During her depression stages is when she wanted me the most. Everytime we broke up she’d hook up with other guys and do whatever she wanted even though she promised me she wouldn’t. She said she loved me the entire time we were apart yet she was acting like she never loved me and hooking up with other guys.

    I have a very hard time understanding why she does these things. We’ve been broken up now for almost 2 months. She acts like she totally hates me and is dating someone else. She never talks to me unless its to get in a fight and she says some harsh stuff like she never loved me and that her new guy is amazing.

    Why is she so sexual? She never seemed to want to have sex towards the end of our relationship but i knew she loved me and liked the sex and she was still attracted to me. But now she goes out and has sex with other guys. Is this the hypersexual side of bipolar during mania? And why does she act like she hates me and that she’s ok?

    She has always come back during her depression stages because she says that she realizes she hurts me and that she loves me and she needs me around. I don’t wnat to take her back because she hurt me so much, but I always seem to give her another chance.

    Help me understand her!!!!

  328. Jeanelle the Retard says:

    this guy i’ve been seeing for 9 months has these wierd issues with this ex-girlfriend of his they still hang out sometimes and it’s getting on my nerves. this is the third time i had problems with her and he won’t tell her to stop. she would call me from his phone or answer his phone saying hello and then hang up she would say “oh i’m his girlfriend” and then she’ll call me sometimes and say “oh i’m his wife” and then hang up the phone. i confronted him about it and he say oh don’t worry about her she does that because she’s jealous of u and she wants to start trouble. i know that ex’s do things like that because my ex did it to him but that was only once & i stopped hanging out with my ex. the thing that is bothering me is that he was supposed to be with me last night and she ended up with him and he said “oh she popped up unexpected sorry about that”. she won’t mess with u anymore trust me i have stopped her this time u will never hear from her or see her again.
    i called him a few hours after our argument and now he has an attitude with me. am i wrong for getting mad at him? i’m tired of her and he’s being soo nice about it like it’s cool.

  329. Scott W says:

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  330. Rassling Fundamentals says:

    Is it possible to get back together with an old ex-girlfriend? If it is, what can I do and how should I do it?

  331. Sophia C says:

    Is there any possible chance that an ex-girlfriend who might still like me will take me back? She broke up with me because nasty rumors got started. (I’m in middle school)

  332. Ev dog says:

    Okay so like i was with my girlfriend for 3 years and it was amazing! but we broke up like 8 months ago and every day i think about her wondering what she is doing and all that stuff she was also my first real love but im now with a girl who was my best friendd when i was dating my ex but i cant love my girlfriend because i love my ex btw im 16 and my ex is 15 and the other day she messages me and BAM i fell straight back into love with my ex and like i dont know what to do its stressing me out and depressing i really dont know how longer i can live like this my ex hates me she wishes me dead she told me.. i still think she is the one for me no matter what she dose i cant stop my love for her..

  333. Marlon P says:

    I was fascinated with the story of the poor girl who is a dentist and got revenge on her ex-cheating boyfriend that dumped her by removing all of his teeth. As wrong as it is to mutilate someone and damage someone physically for life, this creep cheating boyfriend was bound to know that visiting his ex-girlfriend dentist for a “toothache” was extremely insensitive and I think he did it purposely to antagonize her and put her “on the spot”. I heard from some accounts that he even callously brought his new girlfriend into the dentist office with him. Surely, she can plead not guilty on account of it was a crime of passion and maybe she can prove to a jury that she was abused by him in some way. I’m a woman who’s been cheated on and if I were on a jury, I’d have a hard time not feeling for this poor girl, even if she did purposely remove all of her cheating boyfriend’s teeth. Was this female dentist wrong to do this? For certain, her ex was so wrong to think he could just stroll in to the dentist office of the girl he did wrong for a toothache. He did that purposely, so he sort of asked for whatever she did to him, right? See “Dentist pulls out all of her ex-boyfriend’s teeth after split”

    http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/dentist-pulls-her-ex-boyfriend-teeth-split-210829769.html

  334. Miguel M says:

    Recently my girlfriend has asked me to invite her to a dinner invitation that my ex-girlfriend and me attend once in a while to chit-chat. The problem is that my ex-girlfriend is more attractive than my girlfriend. What should I do? I am not as embarrass to be with her alone but I am when it comes to introducing her to my ex.
    Ps: I am not being shallow… I am saying the truth.

  335. ericmreitz says:

    My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend sent him wine. He lied and said it was from a friend, but after I confronted him he said they were from his ex-gilfriend and that he didnt have control over it. I was jealous but dissapointed more than anything. It was a trust issue for me. What do you guys think? Should I forget him?

  336. Erin says:

    My boyfriends ex girlfriend is practically best friends with his older sister,
    and very close with his mum and they talk all the time.
    I’ve had massive issues with his ex as she has been very schemey in attempts to get him back.
    I find it awkward to bond with his family now.
    Ive been with him for 9 months now
    Any advice???
    5 minutes ago – 4 days left to answer.

    I really want to bond better with his family but i don’t know how to go about it. They are closer with his ex.

  337. Blake says:

    I need help, i cant figure out why i keep having dreams of my ex girlfriend, im married and have a one year old little girl, were going tho some tough times with money and our relationship is pretty weak right now. Could that be the reason why im dreaming of my ex? If anyone has an answer or a thought of mind why im dreaming of her plz help, oh and this hasnt only happen onces i have dreamed about her plenty of times, there never bad we always go out on dates and things like having fun but the weird thing is she know im married and i have a kid in my dream but she still talks to me and kisses me acting like were a couple, well can someone help me plz??

  338. andresumoza says:

    I just had the craziest dream about an ex-girlfriend. I will give a little background about the relationship. I dated this girl about 10 years ago, we broke up after dating for 2 years (I thought we were going to get married), but we were on-again-off-again for the next 3 years (she moved out of town and we would connect when she would come back to visit). Then I started a new relationship and I told her we should not talk anymore.

    In my dream I was in a restaurant (something like an Olive Garden) and I was getting out of the restroom going to my table. At the table there was my ex-girlfriend, her mother, and her father (he passed away right before I started dating her). I heard them talking (I can’t remember what they were talking about) and as I got closer my ex-girlfriend started to look down at her food and would not make eye contact with me. I sat down in the chair next to her and I asked what was wrong but she started to scoot her chair away from me. Her father started some small talk about how filling the macaroni was and I nodded in agreement. But, I was more concerned about why my ex-girlfriend wouldn’t talk to me and why she keep scooting her chair away little by little. After that I just woke up.

    This is not the first dream I had about my ex-girlfriend in the 5 years we stopped talking. I’ve had dreams about her sitting behind me in a move theater with another man (can’t see the man’s face) and I turn around to talk to her but she just ignores me. I’ve had another dream similar to the movie one but this time at a club and she is in a dark corner sofa snuggling with a man (can’t see the man’s face here either) and I try to talk to her but she ignores me.

    I really would like to have some grasp on what this dream means. I dream about an ex like a lot of people, I guess there are unresolved issues and mistakes that we would like to fix, and I get that. What I don’t get is why did I dream about her parents, especially her father that I have only seen in pictures – talking to me while my ex ignores me.

  339. mendhak says:

    my ex girlfriend went to england 4 years ago for college and has recently returned. i know this will definitely sound sad/pathetic…but i still kinda have feelings for her. i don’t think i ever really moved on properly, despite trying amazingly hard to. i have a girlfriend now and know that it’s wrong that i’m feeling like this but i seriously can’t help it. the more i see my ex the worse it gets. i was thinking that i should distance myself from her, cause i know that if we become too close again i’ll just go insane. any thoughts/any one who’s gone through something similar?
    thanks

  340. Denali says:

    My boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is being really kind of messed up. My boyfriend says im acting childish if I’m rude to her. She constantly asks me prying questions and I have to pretend to be her friend. She asks me what would happen if my boyfriend left me and starts dating a friend of mine. She asks me prying questions like what are his pet names for me, what are my pet names for him and the like. What do i do to get her to just leave me alone?
    We love each other and having been dating 4 months. The ex only recently came up to us because she just switched to our school. they dated FOUR years ago.

  341. Sergeant Pickle says:

    So, I broke up with my ex-girlfriend around 4 months ago. I know, it’s a long time, and I know that I should try to move on, but I can’t.

    You see, I have been in relationships before, but I have never truly fallen for the girl i’ve been with. I guess what i’m saying is that, my ex-girlfriend is the only person that i’ve even fallen in love with!
    We fought for the majority of the 4 months, and I told her how sorry I was for being the reason that we broke up, and why I was so nervous around her. (Because she was the first person I fell in love with). But she still never took me back.

    About a week ago, she popped up to me on MSN and said “We should stop fighting with eachother, because it’s making the people around us angry and uncomfortable”. We were friends before we got together, so we share the same group of friends. She also said “I want us to be friends again, because we were like best friends before we messed our friendship up by dating”. I’ve heard that becoming friends with your ex-girlfriend is a bad idea… but the truth is; I love her too much to actually let her go completely. So I agreed to stop fighting, and agreed that we should try and be friends again.

    She has said before that “I’m sorry, I just don’t see this going anywhere at the moment… who knows, maybe in the future we could happen again, but for now, I just want friendship. I’m not ready for a relationship”. She has also admitted before that she didn’t want to end things like she did, and she WANTED our relationship to work out, and in theory, it SHOULD have worked out, but she needed to end it, because I never treated her like she deserved to be treated.

    I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. We’ve been talking, and it almost feels like it did before we started dating, and i’m glad about that… but I can’t help feeling that I want her so badly!

    I’ve really taken our break-up badly, AND I’M ONLY 17!! I think it’s because she is the first person I fell in love with? What do you think?
    I know that it sounds like it’s a dead-end, and we’ll never get back together… but I just can’t accept that. I’m not being stubborn, I just still have really strong feelings for her! : ( I’m normally a REALLY happy guy, really fun to be around, but these last 4 months? I haven’t been the same at all. I’ve been moaping around the house, staying in ALL the time. Turning down invitations to go out with friends. And just overall not being me.

    I’ve beaten myself up so much over this, that I don’t actually think I could take any more pain at this point in my life.
    I love her so much, and I don’t want to let her go!
    Is there something I could do to show her just how much I love her? As i’ve said before, i’ve told her how I feel. Basically told her what i’ve told you, but she doesn’t seem to think it’s the right time for HER to be in a relationship. Does this mean there is still hope? If I continue to be friends with her for a few more months… maybe wait until next year, could there still be a chance for me and her to happen again?

    I just don’t know what to do! : ( I’ve never felt this way before!!

    Please, help me : (
    Thanks to anyone who does help!! Really, i’d really apreciate it, because I know this took a lot of time to read! Thank you so much!

  342. sean says:

    Well, I have been with my boyfriend for six months now, and he has always been honest with me about him still talking to his ex-girlfriend and how they are just friends, but I found out that he only tells me half of the truth and doesn’t tell me everything. I know for sure the ex wants to get back with him, but he tells me he would never go back with her, he just wants to be her friend because she is not a bad person. I just don’t trust her. How should i deal with this?

  343. Hannah says:

    Okay. Me and my girlfriend(ex) just broke up yesterday. She broke up with me because she thinks that it’s too awkward between us. We talk ALOT by text and AIM, but we don’t talk in person as much as we should. I knew this was going to be a problem. After 2 months of not doing anything about it, i finally decided im going to talk to her a lot and hug her more. So yesterday at my track meet, i was planning on telling her she did great in the meet and give her a hug and a kiss goodbye. I get my backpack and try to find her. She found me first and said:
    Hey, i think we should just be friends.
    I said alright. Because i didn’t wanna make a scene or anything.
    The next day, my friends were yelling at her sayin” you made a terrible mistake” and stuff like that. Then one of my friends talked to her and she said that she didn’t sleep at all that night. What does this mean?? Does she want me back? And its much more awkward now than before when we were together…Please how can i get her to want me back if she doesn’t already???Im sad…Help

  344. Jerosh Nagulachandran says:

    i broke up with my ex girlfriend, because we werent talking that much it seems like everything was starting to die, we dated for only 2 months..

    it’s been 3 weeks since the breakup and ive already tried twice to get her back.. the first time was a week after the breakup and she was trying to explain to me nicely that she was over me without actaully saying it.. the 2nd time was a week later on the phone.. We were just talking , laughing, about things

    Today i found out she likes one of her other ex boyfriends and he always tries to flirt with her we’re all on the same school bus so i can see them talking he pretty much uses people to try to talk to her because they dont sit together and she always laughs at what he does usaully.. & When ive been trying for 3 weeks to get her back

    What can i do to get her back?

  345. evil chevy says:

    To make a long story short… My ex girlfriend decides to come to this party a buddy and I were throwing. She has a new boyfriend, soo this made it really akword for me. (Although I did have a girl with me as well) The party was a complete success and everyone was having a good time. Later on in the night the girl I brought decided to talk to my Ex and try and smooth over everything. She acts my ex all these questions and tells her “Obiviously if you came out to his party, you still like him and have feelings for him and you are trying to make make him jealous by getting a rebound guy.” She doesn’t say anything and starts to cry. I just dunno what to do!? I still love her… We went out for about 1 year and 3 months. I emailed her and told her I wasn’t mad at her and that I hoped she had fun at the party. She never said anything back and I have noooo idea why!?
    Well ya see my buddy told her she could come… Because he didnt want to say no to her. She came and acted an ass to make it know that she was there and that I knew she was. Later, the girl I brought confronted my ex and asked her all these questions. Which made her cry. I tried to stay cool, but I was drunk and told her I didn’t wanna deal with this bull at MY party. I just wanna know why my EX got upset when the other girl her told her you still have feelings for him dont you? Because we were all standing there. All of us… The new guy and the new girl I brought.

  346. Dark_LovexXx says:

    I have a 6 year old son with my ex girlfriend and at the time i was in the military (canadian) and i’m currently a police officer, long story short, my exgf decided she didn’t want to take the responsibility of raising a kid so she left, tried to get custody of him a few times and was denied, i’ve been dating my current girlfriend for five years now and she’s great but it got me thinking when we were doing our wills that if i were to die for whatever reason would my son go to his biological mother and should my girlfriend and i consider getting married so that doesn’t happen or are there other options? (we both could care less about marriage unless we had a very good reason)

  347. D3ZZY says:

    i met my ex girlfriend yesterday and everything was okay until she started touching me and holding my hand and hugging me from behind, i assumed she still liked me and she gave me the hints as im still in love with her, later on she says ‘ i just want to be mates with you’ then i kicked off, whos fault was this ? shes clearly leading me on when she knows i still like her

  348. Travoiz says:

    Okay so I recently became friends with my ex girlfriend again after six months of ignoring each other. I’m 16 and she’s 15. We dated for only two months when she broke up with me because she saw me more as a friend then as a boyfriend. How can I get her back? =)

  349. Franklin Bluth says:

    i broke up with my ex girlfriend before winter break and she was really upset. I realized how much of a mistake i made 2 weeks later and really wanted her back. She thought i was playing games with her and she hooked up with one of my friends and that had us not talking four about four months. Recently we have been talking over the phone and we are back to being friends and we are over all the sh*t that happened between us.

    I asked her to come over and watch a movie at my house the other day bc i really like her a lot still and she was cuddling with me a lot like old times. I kissed her and she said she was afraid to kiss me bc she felt like she would get reattached and get hurt again. The next time we hung out alone at her house i brought up that this brings back a lot of memories, and she turned around and kissed me. Even though it seems like we are back to hitting it off, she still seems a little different. Like she tells me she has too much hw to hang out one night but for some reason i feel like she just doesnt want to hang out with me. Maybe I am thinking about it too much but i really like her and want to get back with her. Should I let it play out and not talk to her so much or should i call and text her everyday letting her know im interested? help me out ladies

    - i know its long my bad

  350. Gage says:

    i have a ex girlfriend but i cant get over her cuzz i really love her,we both have strong feelings 4 each other but she said that she doesnt really need a boy friend….wat should i do????

  351. Kristian says:

    So, if a guy is frequently saying “oh, my ex-girlfriend did this” or “oh yeah my ex texted me” around you, but not directly to you, what does that mean. He always says ex, never says oh this girl i used to date, and he never says their name.

    Is he hinting that he’s single, or does he really just like to mention his exes a lot? haha What do you think?

    thankyouverymuch! (:

  352. SteveO says:

    Well my ex-girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. We weren’t only boyfriend and girlfriend we were also like.. BEST friends. We dated for 1 year and 4 months and i still have feelings for her but I don’t know if she even misses me sometimes.. We talk all the time like every day and it feels like we could easily start dating again.. IS THERE ANYTHING I COULD SAY TO TURN HER ON OR MAKE HER WANT ME AGAIN?

  353. Mathew says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 5 years. Recently, I broke up with her as I just couldn’t see us together anymore in the future. My feelings for her became lesser. I did not want to drag her along anymore. Furthermore, my parents did not like our relationship. Even after break up,we still maintained contact as she was not accepting the break up well. I just wanted to let her down softly. Recently, I went out with a girl. I lied to her that I wasnt as I did not want to hurt her. Unfortunately she found out. All of a sudden, she became angry and hated me. She accused me of lying. In fact I could do anything as me and her were no longer together. N she also said that she wanted to exact revenge. I am feeling a bit frightened as Im really uncertain what she can do.

    1) Am I wrong in this situation? Is she the one that is overreacting?
    2) Whats the worst revenge she can do as I’m afraid the girl I’m going out with will find out.

    Thank you.

  354. Matthew S says:

    Me and my ex girlfriend broke up two days ago,we had been arguing a lot lately because she found out about me lying to get about things such as me drinking with my friends,and keeping stuff from her that she found out later, she said she can’t trust me,I don’t blame.her for leaving,we still talk on the phone and text each other,we’ve been together.for 6 months and.I’m deeply in love with her and she.said she still loves me too but right now were only friends because I’ve hurt her so much, I’m willing to do anything to get the love of my life back, what can i do?
    I also told her I was determined to earn her trust back and.she said only time will tell,after she said that she said your.single.you can do what you want I told her.I enjoy.the relaxed non drinking lifestyle I’ve been living as of late,she said she wishes.I had realized that months ago…is there any hope?

  355. Michael C says:

    I have been married for about a year and a half and my wife still asks me about ex girlfriends all the time. She wants to know all the details of our past sex life, and is always trying to out-do them. No matter what.
    Is that just healthy competition, or possibly some kind of unhealthy insecurity?
    She is fully aware how much I love her and that she is by far the best woman I have ever been with in everyway.
    And I have tried telling her that I dont want to talk about ex-gfs, but she insists.

    Is it possible that she is, you know, into hearing about it?
    As far as my 360 friends being all women, that’s because they are the only ones who contact me. If a guy wrote me a message or requested to add me I would reply/add them as well.

  356. Austin says:

    I like my ex girlfriend a lot. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been together for about 4 years now, but we’ve been friends ever since. The reason we broke up, is because I was to” shy”, as she put it. But anyways, what’s a good way to get back with her? We’ve always liked each other since we broke up, but I never thought about asking her out again , until now. I can honestly say I can picture marrying this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, educated, loyal, and has a good personality. She’s also attends church, like myself. Anyways, I’m supposed to hang out with her New Year’s Eve, and I was thinking about maybe asking her out then. Any comments, suggestions, feedback would be much appreciated. Thanks!

  357. Mackenzie P says:

    Hi there,

    So the person I’m talking about, is my ex girlfriend. She just recently got back in contact with me and told me that the reason why she had been so horrible and pushed me away was because she had an eating disorder, and was actually admitted to a clinic. Just to let you know we were in a long distance relationship.

    Now, she said to me that she’s got the help that she’s needed and needs, and that she is sorry for the way she treated me etc. My heart literally melted, I honestly was so worried about her and I love her to bits. She keeps saying she’s not beautiful, for example, I’m a photographer and I said to her she should have told me because we happened to be in the same city at the same time, and I said that we could have spent the day together and taken some photos and relaxed, and she said “I’m no model”. When she’s incredibly beautiful.

    Im worried about her because I don’t want her to think she’s not beautiful and I want to be there for her, because I honestly love her with absolutely all of my heart.

    What can I do to help her, and show my support to her? Is there any topics I should avoid, I’ve been saying all evening to her that she’s beautiful to me, etc. But I know her all too well I know she doesnt believe it. So what can I do? I refuse to let her do this on her own, I love this girl.

    Please help, thank you

  358. Lasagna delivery guy says:

    My mother has been diagnosed with severe anxieties as far as I know..I dont know what else. She is a good mother in many ways but she has extremely vicious tendencies. She can go from one extreme to another. She is sweet OR she can say horrible things that hurt so much. Btw, I work in construction so Im no stranger to insults that would normally hurt a persons feelings. That doesnt bother me at all but she has a way w words that cuts deep. Ive seen her get into arguments w men in road rage situations where they cower in fear..

    It gets so bad that once she starts she doesnt stop. She’ll go on and on to make a person feel horrible for hours unless you leave the house. Theres no negotiating. She just goes on and on about you even if youre not talking to her. She drives people who are otherwise calm to get into screaming matches. Shes been like this for all her life

    My father is the nicest man I know. He has put up with her for 30 years. I think they should have divorced a long time ago but she worked very lottle in her life and probably could not support herself at all.My father is worn down and not happy but he has so much patience still. Im sure if he could relive his life he would not have put up with her. Again..theres a side of her that is a great caretaker and if anyone was sick she would take care of them and baby them in such a nice way. I believe he sees that side od her and thats why he stayed

    Because of her Ive noticed some tendencies in myself.. I take after my father mostly but one time I got into an argument w an ex girlfriend and I realized I was as degrading as my mother is..
    There are times where she is completely rational and clear minded. Wtf is this?

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